Infidelity or Affairs

Infidelity, or cheating, in a relationship or marriage can be devastating and may mark the end the relationship. However, sometimes couples (either with the help of a professional or on their own) can repair the relationship and develop an even stronger, healthier bond. Infidelity can cause a myriad of feelings in both partners, including confusion, grief, guilt, anger, and betrayal. A therapist specializing in infidelity is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively) and move past the affair. In addition to helping those who have experienced cheating in a relationship recover, counseling for infidelity can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s affairs/infidelity experts today.

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I work with couples to accept that arguing is inevitable but learn how to disagree fairly. I work with couples to address infidelity or emotional affairs and learn how to move forward with proven techniques that work when the persons involved are willing to be committed to the process of healing.

— Stephen Morris, Licensed Professional Counselor in Houston, TX

I am training in Emotionally Focused Couples therapy to help client rebuild their trust and establish connection. By helping clients process and regain trust my hope is to help each couple find each other again. It is a process and can take time but there is hope to rebuild the relationship. Once trust is building I also help clients find where they get stuck in their own pattern and reduce the distress and learn new tools to connect together. I believe relationships can heal and be whole again.

— Victoria Hicks, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Atlanta, GA
 

I have extensive experience helping couples work through relationship trauma due to my training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

— Jennifer Moynihan Wynn, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC

Infidelity or betrayal can take many forms. Using the Gottman Method, I support couples in their betrayal recovery and help them reestablish a relationship that is safe, supportive, and respectful.

— Gabby Jimmerson, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in San Clemente, CA
 

Discovering that the person you trusted with your heart lied to you leads to questioning everything, including one’s identity. It affects one’s self-esteem, perception of reality, and safety of the relationship. I have specialized training in assessing and treating sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist

I am a trained couple's therapist and have expertise in helping guide couples through the overwhelming process of managing post-affair communication, decision making, boundary setting, and ideally healing. While there is no 'right way' to navigate this chapter, I have helped many couple's determine the best path for them.

— Maureen Bethea, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fairfax, VA
 

Hurts heal with specific steps. Experienced in guided repair & healing of broken trust in couples using world renowned research informed approach of the Gottman Institute. Online Relationship Check-up option to get a complete personalized picture of strengths, what is missing and what needs to be shifted out of the habits of the relationship. Sessions for addressing the broken trust can also provide strategies and coaching on reinforcing the positive you are doing right.

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor

I have experience with betrayal trauma, including partners who have significant others who have compulsively viewed porn.

— Aurora Molitoris, Mental Health Counselor in Overland Park, KS
 

Think you and your partner have recovered from the affair simply because neither of you is discussing it? That's a common misconception. The truth is, the broken trust and hurt feelings may be running through one or both of your minds pretty often. If you don't discuss your thoughts and feelings about this issue, it will likely never be resolved and trust won't be restored. Counseling can help by prompting you both to rebuild trust.

— Dave Payne, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Burlington, KY

I have worked with many couples on the brink of losing their relationships to lust. Infidelity comes in many forms and the reasons people stray are varied. I lead couples through a process that helps them learn from the affair, incorporate the new information, and negotiate a new monogamy between them. There is no right way to overcome infidelity, but there are many ways that are unhelpful and unhealthy. Recovering from an affair is possible. Don't leave your relationship susceptible.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX
 

I have extensive experience working with partners who have suffered betrayal in the context of sexual addiction.

— Barbara Christian, Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA

I use my specialized experience in this specific issue to help correct the distorted thinking that has persons return to the destructive/ self destructive behavior of affairs.

— "Sex Addiction", Sexual Misbehavior Absolute Expert James Foley, Psychotherapist in New York, New York, NY
 

Having walked the infidelity journey and successfully overcome it many years ago, I believe I have life experience that suits me well for dealing with this issue. I am also a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Candidate, a Meadows trained Post Induction Therapist, and a Certified Complex Trauma Therapist. I believe my life experience and subsequent training has given me expertise with this issue to help clients overcome the trauma and PTSD associated with infidelity.

— Cindy Hyde, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX

With over a quarter century & 40k hours of expert treatment for sexual misbehavior provided, I give you an evidence based, research oriented treating of “sex addiction”, Out of Control Sexual Behavior, App Hook-Ups, Strip Clubs, Massage Parlors, compulsivity, Professional Sexual Misconduct, serial affairs, porn, as a Certified sexual misbehavior professional. That is, I am a highly trained, non judgmental, clinician that will use my superior insights to help you improve faster.

— "Sex Addiction", Sexual Misbehavior Absolute Expert James Foley, Psychotherapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

I have 10 + years of experience working with couples struggling with infidelity and have received additional training though the Gottman Institute on treating infidelity, California Institute of Integral Studies in Sex Therapy , and advanced supervision.

— Alyssa Doberstein, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC

When you discover the betrayal of your partner, it can plunge you into pain, confusion, loss, and grief. The losses can range from the loss of trust in your partner to the loss of your sense of self. In my experience, I have learned that this type of trauma parallels the sudden loss of a loved one.This will be a process and it will take focused amounts of self-compassion. Please be patient and kind with yourself.

— Dr. Jessica Lamar, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Bellevue, WA
 

I have been seeing an abundance of clients the last several years who are trying to recover from infidelity. I have helped many clients have a better marriage than they did before the affair even started. I have many issues to address with the person who cheated to move forward so that both parties recover However, some couples cannot be reunited, because one party is refusing, or incapable of changing. In these cases, I have to work on helping the non-cheating spouse move forward and recover.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Discovering that the person you trusted with your heart lied to you leads to questioning everything, including one’s identity. It affects one’s self-esteem, perception of reality, and safety of the relationship. I have specialized training in assessing and treating sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist