Infidelity or Affairs

Infidelity, or cheating, in a relationship or marriage can be devastating and may mark the end the relationship. However, sometimes couples (either with the help of a professional or on their own) can repair the relationship and develop an even stronger, healthier bond. Infidelity can cause a myriad of feelings in both partners, including confusion, grief, guilt, anger, and betrayal. A therapist specializing in infidelity is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively) and move past the affair. In addition to helping those who have experienced cheating in a relationship recover, counseling for infidelity can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s affairs/infidelity experts today.

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I have extensive experience helping couples work through relationship trauma due to my training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

— Jennifer Moynihan Wynn, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC

I have worked with many couples on the brink of losing their relationships to lust. Infidelity comes in many forms and the reasons people stray are varied. I lead couples through a process that helps them learn from the affair, incorporate the new information, and negotiate a new monogamy between them. There is no right way to overcome infidelity, but there are many ways that are unhelpful and unhealthy. Recovering from an affair is possible. Don't leave your relationship susceptible.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX

Relationships often go through challenges, inflection points, infidelity can be one of the hardest things a couple ever has to navigate. I work with couples in my practice and infidelity is an experience that can feel shattering, you don't have to navigate it alone. Affairs have the opportunity to shine the light on what wasn't working in your relationship. Although they can be incredibly painful, they also offer the opportunity to deepen in relationship. Healing is possible- I can help!

— Jenna Noah, Counselor in Denver, CO

An area of specialization is helping couples restore trust following infidelity. I have developed a unique approach to helping couples restore safety and trust in their relationship. The road back from infidelity is slow and difficult and doesn't occur in a straight line. I am adept at the multi-layer facets of relationship repair following betrayal.

— Terri DiMatteo, Licensed Professional Counselor in ,

I have extensive experience working with partners who have suffered betrayal in the context of sexual addiction.

— Barbara Christian, Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA

Having walked the infidelity journey and successfully overcome it many years ago, I believe I have life experience that suits me well for dealing with this issue. I am also a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Candidate, a Meadows trained Post Induction Therapist, and a Certified Complex Trauma Therapist. I believe my life experience and subsequent training has given me expertise with this issue to help clients overcome the trauma and PTSD associated with infidelity.

— Cindy Hyde, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX

Hurts heal with specific steps. Experienced in guided repair & healing of broken trust in couples using world renowned research informed approach of the Gottman Institute. Online Relationship Check-up option to get a complete personalized picture of strengths, what is missing and what needs to be shifted out of the habits of the relationship. Sessions for addressing the broken trust can also provide strategies and coaching on reinforcing the positive you are doing right.

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor

I help couples discern the viability of their relationship post-affair and rebuild trust, connection and as the navigate the recovery process.

— Robyn Trimborn, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

Discovering that the person you trusted with your heart lied to you leads to questioning everything, including one’s identity. It affects one’s self-esteem, perception of reality, and safety of the relationship. I have specialized training in assessing and treating sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist in ,

I use my specialized experience in this specific issue to help correct the distorted thinking that has persons return to the destructive/ self destructive behavior of affairs.

— "Sex Addiction", Sexual Misbehavior Absolute Expert James Foley, Psychotherapist in New York, New York, NY

When you discover the betrayal of your partner, it can plunge you into pain, confusion, loss, and grief. The losses can range from the loss of trust in your partner to the loss of your sense of self. In my experience, I have learned that this type of trauma parallels the sudden loss of a loved one.This will be a process and it will take focused amounts of self-compassion. Please be patient and kind with yourself.

— Dr. Jessica Lamar, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Bellevue, WA

I have been seeing an abundance of clients the last several years who are trying to recover from infidelity. I have helped many clients have a better marriage than they did before the affair even started. I have many issues to address with the person who cheated to move forward so that both parties recover However, some couples cannot be reunited, because one party is refusing, or incapable of changing. In these cases, I have to work on helping the non-cheating spouse move forward and recover.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Think you and your partner have recovered from the affair simply because neither of you is discussing it? That's a common misconception. The truth is, the broken trust and hurt feelings may be running through one or both of your minds pretty often. If you don't discuss your thoughts and feelings about this issue, it will likely never be resolved and trust won't be restored. Counseling can help by prompting you both to rebuild trust.

— Dave Payne, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Burlington, KY

I have 10 + years of experience working with couples struggling with infidelity and have received additional training though the Gottman Institute on treating infidelity, California Institute of Integral Studies in Sex Therapy , and advanced supervision.

— Alyssa Doberstein, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC

Are you reeling from the recent discovery of your partner's infidelity? Do you feel like you're losing your mind? Are you embarrassed, angry, scared, and still in love? I can help you share your truths, develop a deeper understanding of your relationship vulnerabilities and how you arrived at this place, and help you create a roadmap to a new and better relationship. There are no "bad guys," just two people in need of a deeper understanding and a return to connection, trust and safety.

— Michele OMara, Counselor in Fishers, IN

Discovering that the person you trusted with your heart lied to you leads to questioning everything, including one’s identity. It affects one’s self-esteem, perception of reality, and safety of the relationship. I have specialized training in assessing and treating sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist in ,

Tami is a level I PACT couples therapist trained in the psychobiological approach to couples therapy. Using the principles of neuroscience, attachment theory, and biology of human arousal Tami will support you while assisting you in learning powerful strategies to implement desired change in your relationship.

— Tami Morgan, Licensed Professional Counselor in Boise, ID