Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

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I am a kink friendly therapist with personal and professional experience. I get kink from an insider's perspective, along with the highest training. Please know that you should feel comfortable sharing EVERYTHING but will not judge you. Areas of focus: Poly/Swinger/BDSM relationships, Sex therapy issues, Infidelity, Impotence, Jealousy. Privacy guaranteed. I have first hand, personal experience and knowledge of many sexual issues and kinks. Active in the Swinger and BDSM/kink community.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

I've had the pleasure of working with members of the kink community since 2015. I strive to create a warm and nonjudgemental therapeutic space to discuss all aspects of your lifestyle from emotional to relationships to health concerns and everything in between.

— Sarah Rogers (Ferro), Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Malden, MA

Our entire lives we are told what our gender, orientation, and sexuality, our innermost identities, desires, and passions should be. So what do we do when our experiences don’t match our expectations? I specialize in helping clients navigate through their emotions, preconceptions, beliefs, and values around their gender identity, sexual orientation, and behavioral expressions of their desires, fantasies, practices, and lifestyles. I am LGBTIQ, poly, and kink friendly and knowledgeable.

— Edwin Ancarana, Psychotherapist

We’re all born with innate sexual response and drives (or a lack thereof), and our sexual identity is based on these innate responses; they’re an integral part of every person. Our current cultural sexual construct leaves most of us fumbling around in the dark, searching for an acceptable way to fit our perfectly unique sexual selves into the rigid construct that is normative sexuality

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

I am BDSM/Kink, Poly and ENM affirming. I have specialized training working with this population so you don't have to worry that you will spend your whole session educating your therapist on what terms mean or worried that you will be shamed or judged. You are free to show up as your authentic self

— Aydrelle Collins, Counselor in Dallas, TX

Finding someone who is kink friendly and knowledge can be difficult. I have worked with many clients who are kinky and want someone who can have this framework while working with them. This may be your presenting problem of what you want to discuss or you just want someone who has an understanding. Either way, I will meet you where you are at and we will work together as a team. Give me a call to chat further about what is going on and how I can help!

— Michael Stokes, Mental Health Counselor in Newport, RI

I am kink-aware and have experience working with D/s relationships and various fetishes, kinks and alternative lifestyles. My approach is Sex-positive, and I do not judge or assume there is something "wrong" with you for your sexual expression. I also work with those that practice Ethical Non-Monogamy/Polyamory or interested in exploring alternative lifestyles. I provide a safe and accepting place for Sex Workers, and those in the LGBTQIA+ community.

— Meghan Cleveland, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I am a kink-aware therapist and have studied this lifestyle while also working on my certification in Alternative Lifestyles. I focus on making certain that the clients learn to deal with situations where kink-shaming can occur and also help them to see that they are deserving of a sex-positive community where their choices are respected. I also work on helping people be proud of who they are while exploring anything that can get in the way of fulfillment, such as self-esteem issues.

— Chandra Niklewski, Counselor in , MD

I am a National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) Kink Aware Professional. I am currently in the process of obtaining certification from the Sexual Health Alliance in order to be a certified sex therapist. This program meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).

— Andi Grushka, Counselor in Baltimore, MD

I am very kink affirming in my approach and offer education on what psychological factors may lead one to engage in fetishes/kink. I believe that engaging in BDSM or other types of kink can be a fun and healing experience when consent is involved.

— Julia Moore, Licensed Professional Counselor in Las Vegas, NV

Variations in sexuality are part of human nature, but the way our society sees it is highly stigmatized and being involved in the kink and bdsm community can be highly spiritual and gratifying experience. We work with the LGBTQIA and sex worker communities. Saying that you love sex work is healing. Recognizing the difference, because for some sex work is for survival we can help you with that, too.

— Moushumi Ghose, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

Are you facinated by the idea of kink/BDSM and don't know how and where to start? Together we will navigate what turns you on & where to begin. Embarrassement and shame has no place here. Instead you will feel empowered, sexy and adventerous. You will learn to say what you want and more importantly what you don't want. Together we will figure out what to do if you want something and your partner wants something else. Talking about your fantasy can be as sexy and fulfilling as playing them out.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

Fun, fulfillment, and relationships come in many shades. For some, what really interests us feels shameful, sometimes it’s the shame that makes it interesting. Some counselors have trouble not seeing feeder kinks through the lens of an eating disorder, some fixate a little too heavily on the Freudian aspects of DD/lg play. Whether you are so new you don’t even know Fetlife is a thing oryou’re literally teaching classes, I offer supportive therapy with years of first hand experience.

— Cody Glover, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

Human sexuality is one of the most enjoyable topics to work with as each person has their own unique sexual expression. BDSM, consensual non-consensual, and DDLG are three of the kinks that I have worked with on a regular basis. When it comes to legal related sexual topics I also have experience working with sex offenders and pedophilia. I treat human sexuality as one piece of the puzzle that comprises your individual identity.

— Taryn Sinclaire, Clinical Social Worker in Greenville, MI

Proud to say I am kink-positive and knowledgeable, LGBTQIA2S+ inclusive, experienced in supporting HIV+ folx, sex worker positive, and genuinely enjoy challenging shame and stigma surrounding sexually expansive folx.

— Elizabeth Hawkins, Sex Therapist

I am extremely active with the kink community, often presenting at conferences and providing education. I have been a member of this community for a number of years and have an extensive understanding of dynamics and power exchange. I am able to work with individuals or couples and, when working with me, there is no need to defend or hide the dynamics of your relationship(s) as I already possess high levels of understanding of the BDSM, D/s, and kink community.

— Farrah Bonnot, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Denton, TX

As a society, a not-so-subtle message of "you're immoral or vulgar" has been sent to the kink/BDSM community and LGBTQIA people. This message of shaming leads people to feel they must suppress who they are and hide. I aim to help members of the kink community and anyone who would define themselves as not fitting into the societal norms of sexual activity/romantic desires to break free from the confines of that message of shame.

— Aaron Bachler, Counselor in Tempe, AZ

I have additional training in sex therapy and alternative relationships through the Ohio Center for Relationship and Sexual Health. I am currently being supervised by a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor to obtain hours for AASECT. I am a proud AASECT and NCSF member.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH