Kink / Sexual Outsiders

Our entire lives we are told what our gender, orientation, and sexuality, our innermost identities, desires, and passions should be. So what do we do when our experiences don’t match our expectations? I specialize in helping clients navigate through their emotions, preconceptions, beliefs, and values around their gender identity, sexual orientation, and behavioral expressions of their desires, fantasies, practices, and lifestyles. I am LGBTIQ, poly, and kink friendly and knowledgeable.

Every person deserves and meaningful, fulfilling sexual experience that brings them to life, gives them a sense of vitality and connection. We all find different paths to these enriching experiences. I work to empower people to find the ways they prefer and to get the most out of them. Much of this work involves overcoming shame and defeating oppression (internal and external) and bolstering empowerment.

I am trained and experienced in working with couples who are a part of erotically marginalized kink communities like BDSM, ABDL, swinging, and others.

Whether it is a kink, a 24/7 dynamic, a polyamorous relationship, or an i-don't know-what-it-is, there is nothing that can't be talked about in a session. I have a heavy focus in decreasing shame and stigma around sex and sexual interests, especially for those who don't identify in the majority.

Member of KPACT- Kink & Poly Aware Chicago Therapists

Leather, BDSM, ENM, Dom/Sub, Master/slave, SIR/boy (or boi), Daddy/son (boy or boi), Handler/pet dynamics.

Sexual life orientation should not be a barrier to mental health services. As a pansexual, I have been a member of the BDSM/alternative lifestyle community for nearly ten years and have an understanding of a wide variety of kinks. While I am well-read in BDSM classics, I have researched many other related topics.

I am a PhD student with Modern Sex Therapy Institutes studying Clinical Sexology with a focus in kink and alternative relationship styles. I welcome and affirm sexually expansive clients along the spectrum of gender and sexual expression. I am also sex worker affirming.

I am myself a kinky person, and feel that it is important to self-disclose that to help create an environment for other kinky folks to feel comfortable. I endeavor to offer a safe space for those who wish to explore and process their full selves, whether that includes the exploration and processing of kinks and fetishes, or just recognizing that these are a part of your life.

Through out my time as a clinician, educating myself on issues surrounding the kink and nonmonogamous communities has been core to my practice. I know it can be hard for clients to feel safe talking about these things in therapy, due to fear of judgement from your therapist. I support all consensual activities, and want you to know that you can feel comfortable opening up about all of your identities, kinks and interests with me.

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences.

I am a firm believer that people in kink-based relationships often have healthier relationships than "vanilla" people, because so much is based on communication. But even the healthiest of relationships can run into rough patches. My goal is to create a safe space where we can explore what's wrong, and ways to fix it, without you ever feeling condemned for your kink.

- Coming out to your partner, friends, family, and yourself - Communication skills, boundary setting, and articulating needs in relationships - Kink for trauma recovery, including healing from sexual shame - Access and accomodation for kink with disability - Taboo kink, specializing in AB/DL (adult baby/diaper lover), Little play for adults, cross-dressing/feminization, and fantasies of consensual non-consent - Navigating D/s relationships - Setting healthy boundaries and realistic expectations

Let’s talk about kinks! Let’s explore fantasies to help you determine whether it’s an experience you want to pursue in real life or continue building through imagination. My counseling sessions are professional, safe, and non-judgmental where long-time BDSM practitioners, or those still curious or preparing for their first dungeon visit, are welcome.

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environmen

Sexuality, especially outside of the supposed "norm," has historically been categorized as deviant, wrong, abnormal. I vehemently disagree and believe that sexual expression is a basic human right that no one has the right to judge. I strive to create an environment of understanding and validation that helps those who have been told they are wrong realize that they are healthy human beings worthy of a fulfilling life.

Have you recently discovered that you have some kink fantasies that you want to explore with your partner(s) but are unsure how to bring it up? I pride myself on giving a space for you an your partner(s) to allow expression of relationship issues & exploration while feeling heard by a neutral party (myself) that affirmatively supports issues in this community while also noting that identifying as being part of this community may not have anything to do with your relationship issues.

I received my Kink Informed Certification (KIC) from the Sexual Health Alliance. I was trained by SHA educators, Midori and other experts in the field of kink and sexuality. I use a strength-based approach to working with clients involved in the kink, BDSM, leather, and other communities. My practice is non-judgmental, sex-positive and celebrates the diversity and variance in sexual expression. 

I am a staunch advocate of the BDSM/poly/ and alternative lifestyles. Many vanilla people do not understand the complexities that these lifestyles entail. It's also important to have a clinician on your team who not only understands, but can help you navigate your concerns and/or obstacles.