Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

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I am an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and working with the kink and poly communities is one of my passions. I am a kink-knowledgeable and affirming provider.

— Jodi Williams, Sex Therapist in New Haven, CT

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences, or who want to dive into their own sexualities with support and encouragement.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT
 

I have both personal and professional experience with the kink community and I really love working with people within the kink and BDSM world. My particular specialties within this community are focused on D/s relationship dynamics.

— Misty Gibson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Tacoma, WA

Have you recently discovered that you have some kink fantasies that you want to explore with your partner(s) but are unsure how to bring it up? I pride myself on giving a space for you an your partner(s) to allow expression of relationship issues & exploration while feeling heard by a neutral party (myself) that affirmatively supports issues in this community while also noting that identifying as being part of this community may not have anything to do with your relationship issues.

— Paige Bond, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Winter Park, FL
 

I am BDSM/Kink, Poly and ENM affirming. I have specialized training working with this population so you don't have to worry that you will spend your whole session educating your therapist on what terms mean or worried that you will be shamed or judged. You are free to show up as your authentic self

— Aydrelle Collins, Counselor in Dallas, TX

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC
 

Sex is still so taboo in America. This makes it particularly challenging for folx who engage in kink, D/s relationships, or work in the sex industry. Do you talk to your family about it? Your doctors? Your kids? It's a lot to navigate. I for one have paid for too many therapy sessions where I was educating my therapist. You deserve knowledgeable, capable support. Surround yourself with professionals who can see you, celebrate you, and support you where you are for all of who you are.

— Lou Sanfillipo, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Hyattsville, MD

I am a kink-aware therapist and am working on my certification in Alternative Lifestyles. Kink shaming is NOT okay and I want to give you a safe space to talk about all of the things that you might worry about sharing with someone else due to fear of judgment. I'm familiar with BDSM and the joys the lifestyle can bring and also the challenges it can present. And no, I've neither watched nor seen that famous book/movie that supposedly interested everyone in BDSM.

— Chandra Niklewski, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in HAGERSTOWN, MD
 

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environmen

— Jerry Moreau, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I pledge to provide LGBTQ+ affirming care, and consensual non-monogamy/sex-positive awareness. I am also a National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) Kink Aware Professional.

— Erick Sowell, Clinical Social Worker in Baltimore, MD
 

Leather, BDSM, ENM, Dom/Sub, Master/slave, SIR/boy (or boi), Daddy/son (boy or boi) dynamics.

— Cub Larkin, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Wilton Manors, FL

I am the author of The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients, winner of the AASECT 2021 Book Award and the SSTAR 2022 Professional Book Award, and it's sequel Kink-Affirming Practice: Culturally Competent Therapy from The Leather Chair. Working with members of the BDSM community, and teaching other clinicians how to do the same, is what I do.

— Stefani Goerlich, Sex Therapist in Royal Oak, MI
 

Are you facinated by the idea of kink/BDSM and don't know how and where to start? Together we will navigate what turns you on & where to begin. Embarrassement and shame has no place here. Instead you will feel empowered, sexy and adventerous. You will learn to say what you want and more importantly what you don't want. Together we will figure out what to do if you want something and your partner wants something else. Talking about your fantasy can be as sexy and fulfilling as playing them out.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redding, CA
 

Whether it is a kink, a 24/7 dynamic, a polyamorous relationship, or an i-don't know-what-it-is, there is nothing that can't be talked about in a session. I have a heavy focus in decreasing shame and stigma around sex and sexual interests, especially for those who don't identify in the majority.

— Laura Wood, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in SEATTLE, WA

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. Meeting our sexual selves in the spirit of inquiry and curiosity can bring about radical transformation and profound acceptance of ourselves and our relationships. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marI provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences, or who want to dive into their own sexualities within a supportive space.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT
 

I adopt a sex-positive outlook and understand that folx who fall in this group may be hesitant to bring up these aspects of themselves out of fear of being pathologized and in some cases, have even been harmed by previous therapists when addressing this topic. If you are a lifestyler or just getting curious, I'm more than willing to explore these areas with you and discuss how these practices relate to your life, relationships, interests, and ways to find community within them.

— Ben Hearn, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Cincinnati, OH

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions. I create a safe, contained space to emotionally and mentally explore your challenges, hopes, and ways to establish a full and healthy sex life and relationship with both yourself and those who you are connected with.

— Adrian Scharfetter, Sex Therapist in Santa Rosa, CA
 

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT