Sexual Identity

The term sexual identity typically refers to how one thinks of oneself in terms of to whom one is romantically or sexually attracted. Gender identity, sexual orientation and romantic orientation play interconnected roles in a person’s sexual identity. While your sexual identity might match your sexual orientation, this is not always the case. There are endless possibilities for sexual identity, all of which natural expressions of human sexuality. However, questioning or evaluating your sexual identity can be confusing and overwhelming process. If you are working through questions about your sexual identity, a qualified mental health professional can help. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s sexual identity experts today.

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Before we are even born, our families tell us who we are. As we develop into adolescents, for some, our sexual identity does not match up to the expectations of those who care for us. This is often confusing for us and for them. I work with clients experiencing these challenges by creating a safe environment to process feelings and building a healthy community to nurture their true selves.

— Janice Leonard, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plano, TX

For clients who don't necessarily identify with "mainstream" ideas about sexuality, having a therapist who understands where they are coming from and brings sex positivity can make all the difference.

— Megan McDavid, Sex Therapist in Portland, OR

Our work will revolve around the question - what do you want? Not as a question to be answered simply, but a question to be asked again and again, a question to grow together. Trauma and loss obscure and sever connection to desire. We will get to know the stories that have led to a loss of desire and begin to rebuild connection to what it is you are longing for.

— Andrew Fontana, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Seattle, WA

I was clinical Director of one of only 4 LGBT mental health agencies licensed to provide services to the community in 1991 which brought me from Boston to Portland.

— Joseph Doherty, Psychologist in Portland, OR

I have extensive experience working with LGBTQ+ folx. I am a sex positive and kink, ethically non-monogamous and polyamorous aware therapist. As a queer person myself I bring my authentic self to session with clients.

— Danielle Greenspan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA

Questioning your sexual orientation as an adult can be confusing and terrifying. You can feel the pent-up energy and longing in your body, and yet you're so afraid of what this might mean. I offer a safe, open-minded, and private space to connect with your body and explore your desires and identities. Then, we'll work together to figure out how you want to integrate your truth into your life and relationships.

— Lauren Pass Erickson, Psychotherapist in Boulder, CO

With the enormous amount of labels that have surfaced over the last few years, finding the right label for yourself can be important. Sexual identity can start from not wanting to have sex at all to being extremely sexual and being okay with either identity and how to love and accept yourself with that.

— Chase Tucker, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lakewood, CO

I specialize in sex therapy which addresses many aspects of sexuality including, identity, sexual dysfunction, desire discrepancy, sexual health/wellness, relational stressors, kink, non-monogamy, sex education, religious influences, trauma, abortion, miscarriage, infertility/ women's issues and gender identity.

— Maggie Montgomery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tacoma, WA

I became a therapist and have worked with many individuals who are questioning their sexual identity. I identify as an LGBTQ+ ally.

— Bonnie Wright-Robinson, Counselor

Issues around sexual identity bring up many different thoughts, emotions and reactions. We all have a story around our sexuality. That story influences our way of being in this world. Therapy that is respectful, curious, and open to hearing all that is part of your story of sexuality is a gift to your journey. I believe that there is JOY to be found in this story. There is WONDER and LIFE to be experienced in this journey. This story is yours. YOURS. I can help you in the journey of writing it.

— Emily Stone, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX

I work with women who are trying to deconstruct and recover from purity culture messages and conditioning about sexual and body shame. Women are not adequately taught about sexual health, so our bodies are shrouded in mystery for years, resulting in feeling confused or broken due to what our bodies are or are not doing in a sexual context. "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski is the book I work through with clients to help them learn about themselves and reclaim their sexual identity.

— Kirsten Cannon, Counselor in Memphis, TN

For anyone who is experiencing a transition in their gender and/or sexual identity. Our culture still operates under a binary view of female or male gender and a limited understanding of sexual identities. The reality is that both gender and sexuality are fluid for most people. We can work together to help understand your identities and how they interrelate. I also work with sexual concerns.

— Natalie Stemati, Psychologist in Denver, CO

I help clients reconnect with their healthiest, most authentic sexuality and sexual self.

— Kirsten Cannon, Counselor in Memphis, TN

Many of us in the LGB community have felt alone in our feelings, or unable to verbalize our truth out of fear of rejection, shame, and violence. Art Therapy and Sex Therapy are empowering. The art says what we sometimes cannot. Developing a healthy therapeutic relationship with your counselor is validating and can serve to help you find the courage to be your true self in the world.

— Marie Ragona, Creative Art Therapist in , NY

Nothing is so nefarious as the bully that we find installed inside ourselves. I have experience working with people in the coming out process and working to resolve the internalized homophobia that we're not often aware of. I also have lived experience in this area.

— Gregory Gooden, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in POMONA, CA

I am a part of the LGBTQIA+ population myself and I have a passion for helping clients explore and define their sexuality and be their most authentic selves.

— Ruth Millican, Psychologist in San diego, CA

I help others better understand who they are through curiosity and exploration. Binaries are often challenged if not completely broken in the shedding and unlearning of the world's views and beliefs of one's sexuality.

— Lily Zehner, Sex Therapist in Denver, CO

I often let clients know that sex therapy is like any other form of therapy with the addition of an “open door” to explore topics related to sexuality and intimacy with a highly trained and knowledgeable professional. Some clients walk through this door every session, some with some frequency, and some never at all depending on what they are looking for.

— Kate Breslin, Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO