Sexual Identity

The term sexual identity typically refers to how one thinks of oneself in terms of to whom one is romantically or sexually attracted. Gender identity, sexual orientation and romantic orientation play interconnected roles in a person’s sexual identity. While your sexual identity might match your sexual orientation, this is not always the case. There are endless possibilities for sexual identity, all of which natural expressions of human sexuality. However, questioning or evaluating your sexual identity can be confusing and overwhelming process. If you are working through questions about your sexual identity, a qualified mental health professional can help. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s sexual identity experts today.

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Before we are even born, our families tell us who we are. As we develop into adolescents, for some, our sexual identity does not match up to the expectations of those who care for us. This is often confusing for us and for them. I work with clients experiencing these challenges by creating a safe environment to process feelings and building a healthy community to nurture their true selves.

— Janice Leonard, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plano, TX

With the enormous amount of labels that have surfaced over the last few years, finding the right label for yourself can be important. Sexual identity can start from not wanting to have sex at all to being extremely sexual and being okay with either identity and how to love and accept yourself with that.

— Chase Tucker, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lakewood, CO

I hold experience with the LGBTQ2IA+ community both professionally and personally. In a professional context, this has included support for clients in discovering and affirming their sexualities and gender identities, support through life transitions such as coming out to friends or family, and support working through internalized homophobia or transphobia. I have also attended numerous trainings on sexual and gender identity and have completed several years of academic coursework.

— Bridge Condron, Student Therapist in Seattle, WA

I was clinical Director of one of only 4 LGBT mental health agencies licensed to provide services to the community in 1991 which brought me from Boston to Portland.

— Joseph Doherty, Psychologist in Portland, OR

I am a part of the LGBTQIA+ population myself and I have a passion for helping clients explore and define their sexuality and be their most authentic selves.

— Ruth Millican, Psychologist in San diego, CA

Our work will revolve around the question - what do you want? Not as a question to be answered simply, but a question to be asked again and again, a question to grow together. Trauma and loss obscure and sever connection to desire. We will get to know the stories that have led to a loss of desire and begin to rebuild connection to what it is you are longing for.

— Andrew Fontana, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Seattle, WA

I have worked in an LGBT community center that was committed to raising awareness and diminishing stereotypes regarding those of the LGBTQIA community. It is a personal mission of mine to take the stigma out of sex and sexuality as well as to serve the communities that get prejudged, including the poly/swinger/kink/sex worker communities.

— Alejandro Rodriguez, Mental Health Counselor in Lake Mary, FL

For anyone who is experiencing a transition in their gender and/or sexual identity. Our culture still operates under a binary view of female or male gender and a limited understanding of sexual identities. The reality is that both gender and sexuality are fluid for most people. We can work together to help understand your identities and how they interrelate. I also work with sexual concerns.

— Natalie Stemati, Psychologist in Denver, CO

For clients who don't necessarily identify with "mainstream" ideas about sexuality, having a therapist who understands where they are coming from and brings sex positivity can make all the difference.

— Megan McDavid, Sex Therapist in Portland, OR

I take a Sex-Positive approach, and can help you explore issues related to sexuality and gender. I have experience helping clients with the coming out process, and learning to accept and embrace their sexuality. I am LGBTQIA+ affirming, and have with extensive training in sex therapy, including working with concerns around sexual identity. I am also Kink-aware and Poly/Ethical-non-monogamy friendly. By living an authentic life, you open up the door for greater joy and intimacy in your life.

— Meghan Cleveland, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Barbara, CA

I help clients reconnect with their healthiest, most authentic sexuality and sexual self.

— Kirsten Cannon, Counselor in Memphis, TN

I became a therapist and have worked with many individuals who are questioning their sexual identity. I identify as an LGBTQ+ ally.

— Bonnie Wright-Robinson, Counselor

Nothing is so nefarious as the bully that we find installed inside ourselves. I have experience working with people in the coming out process and working to resolve the internalized homophobia that we're not often aware of. I also have lived experience in this area.

— Gregory Gooden, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in POMONA, CA

Texas can be a really tough place to be an LGBTQ+ person. I’m an accomplice and ally to the LGBTQ+ community and try to be mindful at all times of my privileged experiences as a cisgender, heterosexual white woman when working with LGBTQ+ folx. I provide gender affirming care services for those 18 and support LGBTQ+ individuals to live their fullest life possible.

— Linda Louden, Psychologist

Prior to becoming a licensed therapist, I was a Peer Counselor to others living with HIV. I have been HIV positive for 22 years and have worked with all kinds of folx around sexual health and sexual identity.

— Kelly Hill, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Seattle, WA

Many of us in the LGB community have felt alone in our feelings, or unable to verbalize our truth out of fear of rejection, shame, and violence. Art Therapy and Sex Therapy are empowering. The art says what we sometimes cannot. Developing a healthy therapeutic relationship with your counselor is validating and can serve to help you find the courage to be your true self in the world.

— Marie Ragona, Creative Art Therapist in , NY

I have extensive experience working with LGBTQ+ folx. I am a sex positive and kink, ethically non-monogamous and polyamorous aware therapist. As a queer person myself I bring my authentic self to session with clients.

— Danielle Greenspan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA

Despite being a member of the LGBTQ community, I sought specific training to become a competent therapist for same. I have worked as a clinician in two LGBTQ centers and served as an advisor to a high school LGBTQ club. I am a member of Gaylesta, the Psychotherapist Association for Gender and Sexual Diversity.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redding, CA