“I am not ok if you are not ok!” This is the codependents mantra. It dictates how you spend your time, resources, emotional energy, even the people you chose as friends. Aren’t you tired of having your emotional states dictated by how others experience you? Freedom from this mantra is possible. You can say no and attend to your own needs. At first this will feel very uncomfortable and scary but you are worth it.
Life transitions and the emotions that accompany them can be shocking. We can feel overwhelmed by the stress and begin to shame ourselves for not being more “flexible” or able to “roll with it.” Sometimes we just simply haven’t learned the coping techniques that are required to adjust well to change. Lets uncover those unique skills together.
Feeling stuck can be one of the most paralyzing states. We cannot change what we are not aware of. With curiousity as our leader lets become aware of what you are feeling and why you are feeling it. Once awareness is gained we cannot help but change. By leaning in we can begin to move!
Since being trained in EMDR I have seen clients gain freedom from unwanted emotional and physiological responses. I heard someone describe EMDR this way, “I have all these files in my brain and I don’t know where to slot my traumas so they effect every file. After EMDR they have their own file and I can access them when I want to or just let them stay in the file. My trauma no longer defines me.”
Since being trained in EMDR I have seen clients gain freedom from unwanted emotional and physiological responses. I heard someone describe EMDR this way, “I have all these files in my brain; the spouse file, friend file, career file. I don’t know where to slot my traumas so they have pieces in every file. After EMDR they now have their own file and I can access them when I want to or just let them stay in the file. My trauma no longer defines me.”
Some of our deepest pain in life is experienced within our most intimate relationships. Utilizing my training in Restoration Therapy, we are able to uncover the pain we bring into our current relationships and how we respond in pain. Also, how our partners pain activates us and how can we find peace.
Getting married is exciting! Having the tools to make a marraige last can be a bit daunting. Utilizing my training in Prepare and Enrich and Restoration Therapy we can begin to learn ways of communicating that create a unique “Usness”. We can begin to identify roles, expectations, and desires for the marriage.