About My Clients
You may be feeling stuck due to becoming emotionally disconnected with your partner, experiencing a traumatic event or struggling to perform at your optimal level at work. You may have experienced early relational traumas, attachment injuries and losses that present as challenges in your current relationships. You want to become more aware of how you are experienced by others. You want to rediscover what it means to be in healthy relationship with others and live with contentment and joy.
My Background and Approach
I am an experienced EMDR and EFIT therapist. Our work together will be centered around your strengths and your story of how you came to be who you are now. We will discuss what’s important to you, what you want changed and how I can walk beside you in that process. Each client is different, so treatment should naturally be tailored to meet your needs and concerns. Some clients will want to learn specific self soothing skills while others are interested in finding out what they want and who they want to be in their marriage. Whatever the need is, we will work hard to bring forward greater understanding and awareness of why you think, feel and behave in the way you do. We will also get curious about the parts that were shaped early on by your formative experiences as what you learned from your family of origin often informs how you operate now as a person and in relationships.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
I believe that therapy is about seeing you first as a person and then getting to know the problems you experience. I believe strongly in creating a non judgmental space where you can explore options in your life that may be very different from my own personal beliefs. I also believe in creating an inclusive and accepting environment where your views, values and story can be received in a safe and non pathologizing way. I am cantonese, born in Hong Kong and have a unique experience of being a minority in Canada as well as the United States. I can readily identify with the struggles of immigrating to a new country as a child and can empathize with the tension between acculturation and assimilation. I believe in empowering people who feel like they lack a voice and want to help you find yours. If this resonates with you, I would love to work together.