As a queer-friendly therapist, I believe in the power of being heard, validated, and understood both in our families and our relationships.
Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX
Supervised by Kirby Schroeder, LPC-S, LMFT-S
Having extensive training in Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy and Gottman Theory from the very start of my internship, I have seen through many couples that our qualities of life improve drastically when we have a safe and healthy attachment with our longterm partner. For my queer clients, I am aware of the vulnerability of being in a non-traditional relationships, and in some cases it can be more complex than being queer and single.
We are often set up in the adult world to engage in destructive, self-detrimental patterns in order to fulfill our basic human need: to love and be loved. However, the source of these patterns can be looked at in a much simpler and focused lens—our families and what they indirectly taught us. If we start off in childhood with a flimsy definition of love that is not congruent with ourselves as we navigate adulthood, we can develop unhealthy patterns and become love-addicted.
As a queer-identifying therapist, I am able to fully empathize with clients who go through the daily struggles of being queer. I am more than aware of the many hardships my community faces both on a micro and macro level. We suffer through family issues, relationship issues, trust, vulnerability, shame, depression, substance abuse, low self-worth, and body image issues.
This method emphasizes the idea of the present process. I believe that each client who walks through my door already possesses the answers within them. Me utilizing therapeutic space in a here-and-now way provides my clients many opportunities to tap into their inner strengths to find the answers to their own questions. In my personal life as well as professionally, the power of being present and self-aware is endless.
This is a form of couples therapy I utilize with all of my couples, but it can be especially useful for queer couples I work with. It provides a neutral, nonjudgmental space for you and your partner to address your attachment injuries. These injuries exist in every partnership, but they may be more rampant in a relationship if you identify as gay or lesbian due to various everyday problems we face as a community. Couples, regardless of sexual orientation, have an innate need for a healthy bond.
I have worked with many individuals, couples, and families using this.Systemic therapy takes into account ALL aspects of one’s life—emotional, psychological, past and present family history, the client’s family of origin, and attachment styles. It allows the therapist to view the client not in a microcosm but in a more complete and holistic perspective. This will allow the client to undergo a much more effective and deep-rooted treatment that can have perhaps a lifelong affect on their system