Services
- Individual
- Group
About My Clients
You’ve been struggling with the stress and anxiety of juggling your poly relationships. You’ve tried the therapist that has a pride flag on their website. You get into therapy and start talking about your Trans girlfriend and your husband at home and they get this pained look on their face. Good thing you didn’t share your KINKS – they might have thrown holy water on you! What the fuck? You’re tired of being treated as less than and want to be treated as equal. You want to be understood.
My Background and Approach
Many people see therapy as a one-sided conversation, with little or no interaction or seeing the therapist as a REAL person. Trust me, I’m fucking as real as it gets. I see therapy as a collaboration. Two people working together. I also do not treat diagnosis. I hate the damn medical model we are all forced to deal with. I like to work with people and solutions. You are NOT a diagnosis. I do a lot of work with the trans community as well as those in poly relationships. The biggest battle here in North Carolina is finding someone that understands, accepts and is familiar with your community. Although I’m trained in various modalities I refuse to list them here. We can talk about those things later on. AFTER we find out if we are a fit and develop a plan together. I do specialize in the unique challenges of sexual and gender minorities, particularly the experiences of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and Questioning communities.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
Although I’ve been an actual therapist for over ten years now I sometimes wish I had gone to school for counseling when I was in my twenties. But if I had done that I’d have missed out on the rich life experience and occupations I’ve had over the years, all of which have made me a better therapist. I’ve been a construction worker, a cook, a waiter, a banker, a property manager, a bar/nightclub owner, an entrepreneur, and suffered both failures and success. I’ve learned the most from my failures. I’ve lived all over the country and someday hope to travel the world. I’ve unofficially done “counseling” my entire life. I’ve been a big brother to LGBTQI youth and I’ve volunteered at various socio and political organizations over the years. The switchboard I started more than 30 years ago, is still in existence today and I’m quite proud of that. During my tenure in Santa Fe, NM I worked with homeless queer youth and ran numerous support groups for gay, trans and queer individuals.