About My Clients
I work with couples who are successful in many areas of their lives (career, parenting, friendship). But somehow, their intimate relationship is falling apart. Despite being insightful and empathic, my couples find themselves having out of control fights where they swear, yell, name-call, and act in ways that feel totally out of sync with their values. They have read self-help books and maybe even tried couples counseling before, but nothing seems to stop the messy, toxic conflict.
What I Specialize In
I provide couples counseling for real partners with big problems. My passion is helping couples whose love is buried beneath intense, painful conflict that makes them question whether their relationship is even worth repairing. I have a knack for working with partners who have already tried couples counseling without success. I create a safe, organized, intentional space to give you a fundamentally different experience than your daily life outside of therapy. I gained expertise in couples counseling through years of education and practice. I have extensive experience working with couples, particularly those who have complicated problems, like infidelity, substance abuse, PTSD, betrayal, violence, and codependence. I use evidence-based techniques proven to work, because when your relationship is in jeopardy, you do not have time to waste on ineffective counseling.
Why I am a Good Fit for You
In therapy, fit matters. I am a good match for couples who want an active, structured approach to therapy. I use Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy, which is evidence-based and works for couples who have serious relationship troubles. We will set an agenda every session to avoid spinning out or getting distracted by topics that are not your top priority. I am a highly engaged therapist. I will stop you or your partner if you are going in an unhelpful direction, prompt you to share more or differently, and create security for your relationship in the midst of conflict. Having the same fight you always have but with a therapist present is not helpful or productive, so I prevent you from escalating while coaching you to practice new ways through and out of the fight.