Does it feel like there's no room for you in your own life? I'm Sherry. Let's explore this together.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SANTA MONICA, CA
It is way too hard to shove in all the science and findings about EMDR and its efficacy in one short paragraph. Suffice it to say that it is one of the ways that I work with trauma. It is a non-traditional technique that helps to get under the story that you tell to how that story is held in your body and brain. Once that storage is accessed, it gives us the ability to desensitize what's there and help you feel it differently. If you're interested, I'd love to talk to you more about it!
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy--those are some big words. I think of it more as a way to integrate attachment work, mindfulness, parts work as well as somatic work to understand your body, and help unlock the information it holds. It's not necessarily as simple as that sounds, but working in this way has really helped my clients gain so much more understanding about themselves and how they can begin to take steps to feel more present in their own lives.
When people hear the word "mindfulness," they think of a bald guy sitting on top of the mountain. As if it's some unattainable thing. It's not. What I see (and teach) is the ability to observe yourself kindly. Being able to bring yourself back to what's happening right now rather than reacting to what you think is happening right now. It's a subtle difference but it helps you feel more in control of your body, emotions and thoughts rather than them being in control of you.
Let's face it--many of us have a really mean inner critic! That critic lets us know about each and every stupid thing we've ever done. Repeatedly. How are you supposed to feel good about yourself with all that noise? It takes some time, some patience and a little bit of help to find some distance from this voice and take a more objective inventory of yourself. It can feel overwhelming but I'm here to help hold you find some space to see yourself more clearly.
We're always growing in some way. Sometimes this feels invigorating. Sometimes it feels scary. When we feel stuck or worried that our growth is moving us away from what's comfortable, we second guess ourselves and get caught up in what-ifs. When you're in this spot, it's easier to share your fears and anxieties with someone else so that you have an extra set of eyes to help you look at your growth objectively, and find the space to figure out what really feels right for you.
Our earliest caregiving relationships are often the template that guide us in all our relationships that happen throughout the rest of our lives. Sometimes that template is a little wonky. Understanding what that template is can help us to understand if we are responding to the way we lived in our past, and give us the opportunity to see what is actually happening in the present moment so that we can make better choices for ourselves. I'm here help you make sense of all this!