About My Clients
Larger women are plagued with beliefs like “I’m fat/ugly/disgusting and unloveable. It’s not even worth trying to be happy.” We get ghosted, shamed, and ignored - it’s SO HARD to feel good about ourselves. Size is always an issue. It’s in the too-small waiting room chairs, being passed up for promotions, in our self-consciousness while having sex. We feel not good enough, unimportant, and destined to die alone. And this is not just in our heads - we get these messages from the world constantly.
My Background and Approach
Therapy is not going to change the reality of weight stigma. It CAN be sooo empowering and validating, and can help you stop: telling yourself that you’re disgusting, ignoring your body, and ruminating about what people think about you. You’ll be confidently wearing a swimsuit sans cover-up and telling your boss that no, you will not be checking your email on weekends. Those “not good enough” messages that we hear and tell ourselves about our bodies HAVE TO GO! We'll figure out what’s important to you and how to get it. And I don't mean losing weight to fit into your clothes from two summers ago. I mean getting real about what you want in life (finding love? Sticking up for yourself? Not feeling self-conscious?). I use evidence-based practices like HAES (Health at Every Size), DBT, and EMDR. All of this stuff working together is freaking awesome: an anti-diet approach, tons of feeling, thinking, and doing skills, and resolving the pain of our past crappy experiences.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
You deserve a vibrant life without having to change your body. Pant size and productivity do not equal worth. I actively align with the Health at Every Size philosophy - fat is not the opposite of health. I am a member and ally of the LGBTQ+ community. Trans and non-binary folx, this is a safe space. Black lives matter to me. I’m trauma-informed and trauma-trained. Whatever their identity and background, I want to help my clients heal their trauma, feel comfortable as their most authentic selves, and have skills to cope with an invalidating and often traumatizing world. Each one of us is worthy and enough, and we all deserve to see ourselves as such.