Attachment

I have training in attachment theory and utilize these concepts with individuals, families, and couples. My approach is to educate clients on various attachment styles and help them heal their own attachment wounds while learning to communicate and interact with others more effectively.

I recognize the importance of attachment style and early childhood experiences on how to navigate relational issues and insecurities.

As a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and Certified Brainspotting practitioner, my knowledge and approach centers attachment issues throughout a person's lifespan.

Attachment styles are the way we act and react in relationships. It is formed early in life by our first caregivers and then greatly influenced by relationships we have throughout our lives. I believe that attachment styles are as unique as fingerprint. When individuals and couples have a deeper understanding their attachment styles, communication and connection have the opportunity to grow.

My approach is rooted in understanding how pur early attachment experiences shape our relationships and emotional regulation, and focuses on re-establishing secure, compassionate connections with oneself and others.

Our early experiences with primary caregivers can set the stage for how one approaches relationships throughout life. I work with clients to establish a trusting client-counselor relationship that can be used as a blueprint for strengthening other relationships and can serve as a foundation for vibrant mental health.

Our attachment styles with original caretakers inform the way we relate to others as adults, including partners, friends, and even coworkers. I help patients untangle their feelings and experiences located in the past from their present relationship patterns, decide what’s still needed and useful, and what they can let go of.

I work from an attachment lens.

Our attachment styles develop when we are young. These patterns affect the way we relate in relationships during both easy and challenging moments. Experiential and practical exercises will help you know your own attachment style. You will find tools to support you to lean into relationships that are healthy as well as learn to ask for what you need and set appropriate boundaries. The capacity to lean into someone, to trust someone and let them trust you, is a great gift.

Our attachment histories and needs often underlie many of the complaints or symptoms that bring us to therapy and point the way toward their resolution.

Once your understand yourself and meet your own needs, you will find confidence to make those tough calls or make good choices that lead to a flourishing life. After understanding what goes into attaching to others, you can develop the connection you want with your partner. The parent-child relationship builds expectations for the future that is invaluable. After receiving practical tools for communicating with your child you will feel closer and more happy at home.

I support client in learning about their attachment styles and how it formed in childhood. This often looks like taking an attachment style quiz and looking at your relationships to see how your attachment style effects your relationships. We will also work on healing towards a more secure attachment style.

Often as a result of formative experiences, many folks have developed attachment styles which may feel difficult to navigate within relationships. I facilitate exploration of personal narratives and reconnection to emotional experience. I utilize my experience to sense when to guide my clients to deeper layers within. Relationship with self, as it translates to relationships with community is central to my practice.

Some people say that unresolved attachment issues are at the root of most of our relational issues - and I would have to agree. Underneath fights with your partner is a desire to feel safe and secure in your relationship. Fights happen because we don't feel safe and connected. I use proven interventions based on the science of attachment theory to help clients identify and express their important feelings and needs, leading to less conflict and greater connection with others.

A key task of infancy and childhood -- an essential element in growing up to feel secure, confident, with high self-esteem -- is the formation of secure attachments to reliable, loving caregivers. I work with those who didn't have this experience growing up, to build what is called "earned secure attachment" -- the work of building those same internal circuits in adulthood, which were not adequately built in childhood.

Attachment styles are not developed randomly. They are formed from all the "good" and "bad" encounters with our primary caretakers/family, which construct a mental and physical story of how we view and interact in our romantic, familial, and social relationships. These experiences can shape and distort our authentic self and influence our connections to others and the world. Gaining insight into your own attachment styles can be transformative in making shifts in creating deeper relationships.

Some people say that unresolved attachment issues are at the root of most of our relational issues. Underneath fights with your partner and unsatisfying dating relationships is a desire to feel safe and secure in your relationship. Fights happen because we don't feel safe and connected. Using attachment-based approaches, I help clients identify, own and express important feelings, needs, and desires, leading to greater connection with themselves and others.

This theory focuses on exploring our early childhood attachment style, which has been created throughout our childhood with our caregivers. This attachment style lays a foundation for how we see the world and develop trust and is carried out into our future relationships with partners and close friends. I support clients by guiding them through a better understanding of their attachment style, as well as supporting clients to work through their past to a healthier attachment with others.