Collaborative Couple Therapy

Collaborative couple therapy is a therapeutic technique that helps couples understand how they communicate when struggling with an issue or argument. The focus of collaborative couple therapy is teaching partners how to turn those fights into intimate conversations, and in turn, strengthen the relationship. In collaborative couple therapy, the therapist will sit in between the couple and speak as if they were one of the partners talking to the other. If one of the partners is 'fighting' by using stinging words, the therapist will attempt to translate those comments into confiding thoughts. If a partner is ‘withdrawing,’ the therapist will guess at what the individual is feeling, and ask if the guesses are correct. A successful outcome of collaborative couple therapy is experiencing intimacy in times of struggle, rather than fighting or withdrawing. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s collaborative couple therapy experts today. 

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A large majority of my client base is couples. I am currently working as a marriage therapist at The Relationship Institute in Royal Oak, Michigan.

— Leticia Berg, Psychotherapist in Ann Arbor, MI

I love working with couples to support them in finding their path and helping them to learn each other's languages of communication. We all come from drastically differing experiences as human beings, and the work of bringing two worlds together can be incredibly difficult and frustrating, and it can also be full of joy and excitement. I am here to guide you through it all. I am a sex positive, LGBTQIA+ welcoming therapist who orients towards liberation psychology and theories of attachment.

— Talia Chanoff, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in ,

Problems tend to form through miscommunication. The collaborative approach helps everyone feel heard and understood. As a result, communication begins to improve, and problems start to dissolve.

— Katherine Traxler-LaFrance, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Humble, TX

Couples therapy is a space for each partner to feel heard, understood, and validated. We will work on creating your ideal relationship by taking the skills learned in session and incorporating them within your relationship.

— Charice Calloway, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Tuscaloosa, AL

With my client couples, I have used collaboration, meaning speaking with each client to discuss his or her needs and frustrations within the relationship. I believe collaborative therapy is key to establishing couple goals to benefit everyone. In my sessions, couples do not talk over each other, as communication is important in understanding what has or has not happened in the relationship.

— Deborah Vara, Counselor in Warrenton, VA

I believe that the core of a relationship is connection. I will use the strengths of the couple to assist the couple in collaborating on conflict resolution. In my experience, couples tend to get stuck on opposing forces, rather than learning how to work together as a support system to work through happy times, sad times, and all the times in between.

— Jeremy Hartke, Counselor

In my training, we focused specifically on Collaborative Therapy. We must be mindful that therapy is just a conversation - sometimes, it can feel scary, but we are simply humans communicating.

— Veronica Llanos-Davis, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Antonio, TX

Collaborative couple therapy will provide an active, results-oriented and usually brief approach to help couples address issues such as: gridlocked conflict, intimacy, separation and divorce, infertility, relationships with extended family, parenting, and remarriage.

— JINAL MEHTA, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in NEW HYDE PARK, NY

Collaborative Therapy focuses on the language used to discuss problems. By parsing through language and expressing curiosity, a deeper understanding is achieved and couples and individuals have an opportunity to feel genuinely heard by their partner and/or their therapist.

— Bianca Segura, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist

Marital therapy identifies the marriage as the patient and that both parties are there to work on improving the marriage in whatever ways are needed. They collaborate to improve communication and identify problematic issues. Have also worked on healing past wounds so that they can proceed toward a more fulfilling relationship.

— Louise Will-Wallace, Psychologist in Falling Waters, WV

I work with couples to determine relationship patterns that are no longer working, determine goals for changing those patterns, and assist in collaborating with all parties on ways to interrupt negative cycles and build positive habits and interactions that help to a grow a more positive dynamic!

— Alexis Clarksean, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Minneapolis, MN