Coparenting

Raising children can be hard, even in the best of circumstances. When you are facing conflicts with other primary caregivers, the challenge is exponentially greater. Co-parenting refers to the ways that caregivers work together (regardless of if they are together or separated) in their roles as parents. Developing techniques, guidelines, and methods to raise a child is not just about the child – it can be beneficial to work with a qualified therapist to determine your unique parenting approaches, as well as how to improve communications. Successful co-parenting requires that caregivers accept that things will change, from the children's developmental issues and milestones, to careers, to the possibility of new relationships and partners. Each situation is inherently unique, and there can be many different dynamics at play (for example, step-parents will likely bring their own parenting styles). If you think you may benefit from some co-parenting support, reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today.

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Parents in families that are multiracial and/or multicultural have additional stressors due to systematic oppression and discrimination. In addition, making decisions for the family can be more complicated when caretakers have different backgrounds and lived experiences. Raising a child in a multiracial and multicultural family involves ongoing conversations about what this means for your child, their identity, the way they will see the world, and the way the world will see them.

— Luisa Bakhoum, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate

Whether you are married, partnered, live together, live with your children, or not, if you share a child with someone, coparenting is an issue. Those relationships can be challenging when you don't see eye-to-eye.

— Dr. Ali Dubin, Counselor in North Hollywood, CA
 

I work with parents who have experienced separation or divorce in thinking about developmental approaches for how to think about this with their children

— Katie Beers, Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO

Helping parents married or divorced coparent.

— Elaine Oliver, Licensed Professional Counselor in Fulton, MD
 

Kimberly enjoys working with children and parents who striving to find workable solutions as they come to a better place for their families. Divorce, separation, and going between two homes can be incredibly challenging for parents and children. Kimberly works with children and their parents as they navigate those tricky and often highly conflicted waters. Helping families adjust to new situations and come to creative solutions is a passion for Kimberly.

— Kimberly Hansley, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX

Are you divorce or in a second marriage trying to co-parent together? Are you struggling with working together as a team to parent the kids? Are you grandparents raising your grandchild? Let's work on a plan and practice consistency and co-parenting effectively and positively. Tips to remember with co-parenting: It's not about you; it's messy and hard sometimes; learn new boundaries; know that the legal system doesn't help co-parent. Let's more about how to positively parent!

— Julie Johnson, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Supervisor in , OH
 

Whether you are married, partnered, live together, live with your children, or not, if you share a child with someone, coparenting is an issue. Those relationships can be challenging when you don't see eye-to-eye.

— Dr. Ali Dubin, Counselor in North Hollywood, CA
 

I can help with some of the issues that parents face when co-parenting children after divorce or custody problems. This is a difficult time, but investing in developing a good co-parenting relationship now will have tremendous benefits later for your children. Common issues I can help with: 1) untangling your issues with your ex from your co-parenting relationship 2) improving communication 3) re-focusing priorities on the shared goal of what is best for your kids. Therapy can help even if only one co-parent wants to work in therapy on this.

— Rayna Jenks, in Portland, OR

I've been teaching parent education and led groups for partnered, separating, or divorcing couples for many years. I currently teach Parent Education classes for Family Court here in Portland. Most of the parents that I teach are having to figure out a new reality of co-parenting from separate households, or possibly on their own. It is possible to parent as a "team" even if no longer coupled. It takes practice and patience, but I can show you steps to smooth out the ride.

— Richard Halpern, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

Navigating life after a family has split up or raising children with a new partner can be complex, difficult and frustrating. Cooperation and communication are vital and may seem impossible. I help individuals and family find a balance between parental autonomy and coordination the parenting job with others.

— Jennie Schottmiller, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , PA

As a trained divorce mediator (a non-attorney divorce professional), I can work with couples to disentangle their relationship during the process of separation as they consider aspects of co-parenting. Research tells us that the ways in which parents communicate and coordinate following separation have major impacts on child outcomes. I can help you navigate this difficult journey.

— Rachel Diamond, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
 

I provide co-parenting services to assist parents to find consensus in the best interest of their child/ren and avoid lengthy and costly court litigation.

— Caitlin McCann, Clinical Social Worker in San Marcos, CA

It's the most important job there is. You don't want to mess this one up--and if you have been messing it up--it's time to get on the right path. Your kids don't deserve the conflict, and they are not tools to be used in your anger. Let's figure it out and do what is best for them. You'll b glad you did in the long run, no matter how much you can't stand your ex.

— Jamie Racine, Clinical Social Worker in Gorham, ME
 

I believe co-parenting is essential in family work, particularly for the children. The better co-parenting can be, the healthier impact on the child as well as the family as a whole.

— Jessica Van Berkum, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Woodbury,

Are you feeling disconnected from each other now that you have children? Is all your time being spent on the kids? Do you feel like you can’t get on the same page in how you want to raise the kids? Parenting is hard work and its adds to the life you once led as a couple. These are common issues parents have whether they are living together or divorced/separated. I’d like to help you learn to manage these conflicts and difficulties, so that you can raise happier, healthier children, together.

— Amanda Samuels, Counselor in Webster Groves, MO
 

Working with parents who have a common goal of the best interest of their child is very rewarding. Sometimes it is hard working with another party, that one may no longer get along with, but coming together for the greater good is worth it. I think its important to try to get along and to try to figure things out as a one unit in order to be strong and supportive for all children that may be involved.

— Latoya Gassaway-White, Licensed Professional Counselor