Couples Counseling

I've been working with couples in both consensual non-monogamous relationships and monogamous relationships since 2013. I can almost guarantee you haven't invented a new way to struggle in relationships. Since I started working with couples though, I have learned many new ways to support your relationship(s).

Couples tell me that my ability to hold space for each of their perspectives, as well as my tendency to “translate” their experiences to one another, help them overcome the barriers they feel in communication and support them in being more vulnerable and assertive in their relationships. Clients have expressed appreciation for my ability to listen, reflect back, and provide challenge and new insight into their experiences.

Couples therapy helps us navigate the most complex thing on Earth - the human relationship. We all struggle in relationships from time to time. We fight, we bicker, we threaten, we cheat. Eventually, we need some help. By weaving together attachment theory, neuroscience, mindfulness, and the most effective couples therapy approaches, I help couples fall in love again.

Are you part of a relationship that feels old and stale? Let’s talk about what’s working, and what’s not working so much in your intimate relationships. We will take a look at different ways to handle loneliness, stress and conflict, sex, and injuries to the basic trust system of your relationship.

My work with couples has ranged from those who are mostly getting along but want to enhance their relationship to people who are often in conflict and trying to figure out how/if to stay together. I draw theory from sources similar to Focused Therapy, thinking about the role of the partners' attachment styles and focusing on emotional responses. In couples work, the relationship is the patient. I stress validation of each person's experience. Polyamory, open relationships, and kink are welcome.

Same-sex, male couples don’t necessarily have anything particularly different about them than opposite-sex couples, yet EVERYTHING is different. You have grappled with internalized and externalized homophobia, general safety and well-being in public spaces and navigated family of origin complexities on top of societal expectations that men to achieve and produce all the while keeping emotional expression to a minimum. I assist you both in getting to what is really going on in your relationship!

Relationships can be difficult and present unexpected difficulties due to getting married, having children, infidelity, sexual concerns, external stressors or recurring conflicts. Couples experiencing conflict or challenges from communication can benefit from a working with a therapist who can help you understand one another and your relationship better and learn to constructively communicate and cooperate as a couple.

Working with couples is a passive as communication, openness, and intimacy are all key things and areas that relationships need.

I'm in expert in this area because I completed professional training over 30 years ago and have frequently used it in my practice to help numerous people.

My approach to addiction counseling is comprehensive and compassionate. I understand the complex nature of addiction and the profound impact it can have on individuals and their loved ones. Utilizing a combination of CBT and motivational interviewing, I help clients uncover the underlying causes of their substance use and develop effective strategies for recovery. My addiction counseling focuses on relapse prevention, coping skills development, and fostering a strong support network.

I am working on my level one Gottman training and a PhD in marriage and family therapy. In couples, my focus is on emotional literacy, improving communication, and identification of patterns. I work with couples and non-traditional relationship styles, including polycules.

Trained as a marriage and family therapist with speciality work in couples throughout my career.

Like a healthy garden, couples need more than just love and aspiration to keep doing well. Beautiful things grow from intentional efforts -you don't have to guess or wing it to take good care of your relationship. My lifetime vision is all about bringing what we know for sure to what you plant, weed out, and keep feeding in your relationship. To you it is baffling or overwhelming till I coach you in what I know works. Hold on-keep going. Call me.

One plus one equals three. Two individuals, plus one relationship.

As a licensed Marriage Family therapist, I received masters level training in couples counseling. I also worked at several domestic violence shelters and facilitated batterer's intervention programs, where I taught about "healthy relationships" and how to have a relationship based in respect. Since that time, I have studied the Gottman method. I am most interested in helping couples use mindfulness and positive communication strategies to build a better relationship.

I have been doing couples counseling for over 22 years.

I've been working with couples in both consensual non-monogamous relationships and monogamous relationships since 2013. I can almost guarantee you haven't invented a new way to struggle in relationships. Since I started working with couples though, I have learned many new ways to support your relationship(s).

With support, tools & strategies, couples can overcome challenges and build stronger connections. I emphasize the importance of effective communication, active listening, and mutual understanding as the foundation for resolving issues and fostering intimacy. Whether you're grappling with communication breakdowns, trust issues, or conflicts related to intimacy or life transitions, I work with you to identify the root causes of your challenges & implement practical strategies for positive change.