Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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EFT is a short term (8 to 20 sessions) structured approach, originally developed for couple therapy and based on attachment science, formulated in the 1980’s. Interventions in EFT integrate an experiential approach to healing relationship injuries and creating connection. A substantial body of research now exists demonstrating the long term success of EFT.

— Dr. Angela DeCandia, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Montclair, NJ

Emotionally focused therapy and emotion-focused therapy are a family of related approaches to psychotherapy with individuals, couples, or families. EFT approaches include elements of experiential therapy, systemic therapy, and attachment theory. EFT is usually a short-term treatment.

— Jack May LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Barbara, CA

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a type of therapy that focuses on helping couples and individuals improve their emotional connections to one another. It is based on the idea that emotional connection is essential for healthy relationships and that when emotional connections are strained or broken, it can lead to problems such as depression, anxiety, and relationship difficulties.

— Whitney Russell, LPC, Licensed Professional Counselor in convenient and effective online therapy & career coaching in Austin, Dallas/Ft Worth, Houston, San Antonio, and everywhere across Texas, TX

Emotionally Focused Therapy allows for couples to go deeper into their concerns, recognize underlying patterns of relating to one another, and address underlying unmet needs and wants. This therapy orientation provides for more depth during couples counseling and helps each person's perspective and desires to be seen and held safely in the counseling room.

— Brittany Steckel, Licensed Professional Counselor in Littleton, CO

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is my primary treatment modality for couples. With the guidance of EFT principles, I help clients recognize their maladaptive patterns of relating. They are then taught how to recognize these patterns in the moment and choose a healthier and more productive communication style. Once clients are able to develop healthier communication skills, they are able to engage in deeper forms of communication that promote healing and connection.

— Catherine Reynolds, Clinical Psychologist in Atlanta, GA

I specialize in using Emotionally Focused Therapy, the gold standard of the American Counseling Association, to facilitate healing with couples, individuals, and families. For years I've particularly worked with infidelity & betrayal trauma to bring relief. "EFT" gets to core of the issue, seeing the problem as not the people involved but the disconnection itself as the root. It is a warm, humanistic approach with a clear roadmap of how to get to change.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist in ,

I am currently being trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with anticipated completion in spring of 2021. EFT attunes to our own emotions and emotional regulation as well as how they interact with those of our partner(s). I primarily use EFT with relationships (monogamous couples as well as polyamorous/open relationships), though the benefits of my training can also be utilized with individuals.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR

My training as a marriage and family therapist, makes me skilled to offer relationship work. When I see couples in my therapy practice, I address issues such as trust, communication, and intimacy. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy with my couples, which has been proven to help people heal from hurt and create stronger bonds with one another. I have done additional training to use EFT, to address pain points to help couples see their dysfunctional interactions and work together to stop it.

— Elisa Blair, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

Do you find you and your partner(s) are getting stuck in the same argument over and over? You know you both care for each other but neither of you feel heard and seen. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I can help you get in touch with your deeper emotions, address your relational conflict cycle, and build safe & emotionally connected relationships.

— Taylor Kravitz, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

I was trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Graduate school and have been using it for the past 3.5 yrs. I find it to be very effective in helping clients easily recognize their patterns of behavior that lead them into the cycle of negativity and eventual despair for the relationship. This therapy allows couples to practice restructuring their "dance" moves or cycle both in and out of session eventually each partner can sooth and feel soothed by the other creating a secure attachment

— Alicia Bradshaw, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chattanooga, TN

EFT therapy is the most evidence based therapy for couples

— Dr. Johana Kuemerle-Pinillos, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New Haven, CT

EFT is one of the only models used to help couples heal with evidence based research to back it up. https://iceeft.com/eft-research-2/ I have completed both an intensive externship and core skills in this model specifically.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in , OH

Member International Center For Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy Completed Level 2 Training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) Completed Level 1 Training in Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT)

— Ross Mondschain, Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago, IL

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a widely used method primarily for couple therapy, but can be used on an individual approach. To me, this is the approach of choice. EFT is about re-building that emotional connection with your partner. Getting past the surface level problems and diving into the sub-layers where most conflict comes from. Do you feel alone and out of touch with your partner? Are you holding on to past issues because they are unresolved? If you answered yes, contact me today!

— Heather Nemeth, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Western Springs, IL

In my work with couples, I explore attachment issues and identify unhealthy emotional and behavioral patterns.

— Jackie Lee, Therapist in Dallas, TX

Using an integrated EFT approach I help couples and individuals identify their primary emotions, work through maladaptive responses, and develop empathy and compassion for themselves and others.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR