Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is the main lens through which I work. In my experience both as a client and as a therapist, EFT is the most powerful therapeutic approach to couples therapy.I have completed the Externship, Core Skills and Supervision required for certification and am in process of becoming certified. I have also completed advanced training on EFT and sexual health, postpartum, depression and EFIT (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy).

— Kori Meyers, Counselor in Nashville, TN

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you gain insight into your feelings to help deepen relationships, improve decision making, expand self knowledge and emotional awareness.

— Alexandra (Sasha) Goodman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake, OH

Based in attachment theory, emotionally focused therapy (EFT) allows for clients to get to the root of the most challenging issues often faced in relationships and marriages. With training in EFT in general and specific topics applied to EFT (including cultural awareness and healing after a breach of trust or infidelity), I am able to help clients utilize the tools of EFT to create healthy change in the distance-creating aspects of themselves and their relationships.

— Morghan Weber, Licensed Clinical Social Worker - Candidate in Denver, CO

My primary approach is Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy. This approach was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and is based on attachment theory. In sessions, we will focus on noticing and describing your emotions. We will also process how our interactions affect your emotions and how other relationships in your life affect your emotions as well. This approach can be particularly helpful for people experiencing anxiety and depression.

— Matt Bouse, Therapist in Ann Arbor, MI

Do you find you and your partner(s) are getting stuck in the same argument over and over? You know you both care for each other but neither of you feel heard and seen. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I can help you get in touch with your deeper emotions, address your relational conflict cycle, and build safe & emotionally connected relationships.

— Taylor Kravitz, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Portland, OR

Find out more about how I can help you with Emotionally Focused Therapy via my speciality webpage for couples: https://www.timholtzmantherapy.com/couples-therapy

— Tim Holtzman, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Berkeley, CA

“Although many of us think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, biologically we are feeling creatures that think:” Jill Bolte Taylor, neuroanatomist. Emotionally Focused Therapy recognizes that our emotional lives are the source of our desires, values, and sense of meaning and purpose. It's goal is to help clients effectively cope with, regulate, and transform their emotions. It is a core and foundational approach for my work with sexuality, trauma, relationships, and addiction.

— Edwin Ancarana, Psychotherapist

When I began using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) it was because my supervisor at the time suggested it. I was skeptical, especially given that I was working with some very "passionate" couples. To take them from anger into calm, vulnerable communication seemed unlikely. But I was proven wrong again and again. EFT just works. And I'm happy to say that the research agrees.

— Jeremy Scataglini, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Phoenix, AZ

EFT uses a series of steps to work towards building a stronger bond. Through actively engaging with each other with empathy and shared vulnerability, couples begin to understand and resolve their conflict and distress. The therapist aims to bring the couple to a place where they can soften criticism and blame, can engage rather than withdraw and risk reaching out to each other. Trust can grow and flourish within such a shared experience.

— Sarah Thompson, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Denver, CO

When we suppress or numb our emotions we don't get to pick and choose the ones we want to feel, they all get suppressed. Emotions are information and they are often trying to tell us important things. Recognizing and sitting with our emotions is a practice that we can get better at; allowing us to move deeper into our understanding of ourselves and others.

— Lindsay Anderson, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Portland, OR

I believe that connection and emotional safety are the keys to happiness in relationships. But unfortunately, we tend to become stuck in negative patterns that reinforce disconnection. What we bring to the relationship is formed through our experiences with past relationships and our histories. I help clients to become aware of these patterns and change them. Through this, we can have new healthy interactions and experience more vulnerable communication and connections.

— Kelsey Riddle, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Scottsdale, AZ

EFT is one of the only models used to help couples heal with evidence based research to back it up. https://iceeft.com/eft-research-2/ I have completed both an intensive externship and core skills in this model specifically.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

I have additional training and supervision in EFT. I have utilized this approach with couples as well as individuals.

— Kelsey Fitzhugh, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Gilbert, AZ

Connecting to and understanding your emotions and utilizing your emotions to meet your needs and create positive shifts in the way you relate to yourself, to important people in your life, and in the way you interact with the world.

— Jerry Ochoa, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Turlock, CA

I am currently being trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with anticipated completion in spring of 2021. EFT attunes to our own emotions and emotional regulation as well as how they interact with those of our partner(s). I primarily use EFT with relationships (monogamous couples as well as polyamorous/open relationships), though the benefits of my training can also be utilized with individuals.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR