Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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EFT is a reliable approach to work with individuals and couples. We work on identifying the unmet need and help individuals and couples to reconnect with themselves and their loved ones through building emotionally safer relationships. We highlight the communication patterns that the couple feels stuck in and help individuals to navigate their communication without feeling stuck, unheard, misunderstood, lonely or fearful.

— Elvan Kama Kurtz, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Wayne, PA

I have completed the following Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Trainings: EFT Externship EFT Core Skills EFT in Trans Relationships EFT with Gay Couples EFT Attachment Injury & Resolution Model

— EO Mendelsohn, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in ,

My practice focuses more on processing emotions, in a multitude of ways, so people feel better.

— Sonia Kersevich, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Greenbelt, MD

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has quickly become one of the most popular approaches to working with couples. It is widely recognized as one of the most effective forms of couples therapy. The focus is on understanding how our emotions, interactions, and attachments come together to form healthy and unhealthy patterns in our relationship. EFT aims to encourage the growth of new healthy patterns and move away from unhealthy patterns.

— Jacob Santhouse, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in ,

EFT for couples is an excellent source to use to help with couples since communication, understanding, and empathy are missing out of the relationship. I use primary and secondary emotions to have each person understand one another and to help interact and enhance the emotional bond.

— Amisha Gandhi, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Kirkland, WA

I completed an intensive externship in Emotionally Focused therapy, and utilize these learned skills on a regular basis with clients. My primary supervisor while I was a trainee was an EFT practitioner who taught how to help identify core unmet needs that often underlie couple's conflicts.

— Monique Miller, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Soquel, CA

EFT is a therapy modality for couples who are struggling connecting emotionally. Emotional disconnect can show up in many insidious ways in a relationship: repeated arguments about the same things, feeling unheard, unseen, and unknown by your partner, and feeling uncertain about the future of your partnership. EFT can identify relationship cycles that are no longer serving you, break it down, and rebuild new healthy patterns that supports emotional connection and growth.

— Ji Eun Ko, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

“Although many of us think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, biologically we are feeling creatures that think:” Jill Bolte Taylor, neuroanatomist. Emotionally Focused Therapy recognizes that our emotional lives are the source of our desires, values, sense of meaning and purpose, and attachment to self, others, and the world. Its goal is to help clients effectively acknowledge, cope with, and regulate their emotions in order to enrich and transform their lives.

— Edwin Ancarana, Psychotherapist

EFT uses a series of steps to work towards building a stronger bond. Through actively engaging with each other with empathy and shared vulnerability, couples begin to understand and resolve their conflict and distress. The therapist aims to bring the couple to a place where they can soften criticism and blame, can engage rather than withdraw and risk reaching out to each other. Trust can grow and flourish within such a shared experience.

— Sarah Thompson, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

In my work I am always paying attention to the emotional processes and experiences that are occurring in the room, often under the surface, particularly when they arise in our closest relationships. We all have attachment patterns that can cause us to miss each other on an emotional level, and a big part of couples therapy is bringing those patterns into our conscious awareness and help us learn to meet each other's and our own needs more effectively, for a closer relationship.

— Jackie Turner, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Portland, OR

Do you find you and your partner(s) are getting stuck in the same argument over and over? You know you both care for each other but neither of you feel heard and seen. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I can help you get in touch with your deeper emotions, address your relational conflict cycle, and build safe & emotionally connected relationships.

— Taylor Kravitz, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

I often work from an Emotion Focused Therapy perspective. Through this approach, we work together to deepen awareness of emotions, feelings and experiences that might be getting in your way, or making you feel stuck. Exploring these emotions in a safe space with deep compassion, can often be very meaningful and freeing, allowing for new insights and renewed sense of grounding, and peace in how you want to be in the world.

— Arah Erickson, Professional Counselor Associate in Portland, OR

EFT is geared towards improving emotional bonds and attachment which is imperative post trauma. Our emotions are central to human experience and relationships and this treatment helps individuals and families better understand their emotional needs and responses, and to foster secure and supportive connections. The therapist helps clients identify patterns of communication, recognize underlying emotions, and develop new ways of interacting that promote emotional safety and intimacy.

— Shariyfa Polite, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Graduate training in EFT through university, as well as additional CEU certificates and workshops in EFT and treating couples.

— Alyssa Doberstein, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC

I work with emotions to help you explore, tolerate, and understand them. Expressing your emotions works when you have someone who responds to them appropriately. I find that the most meaningful thing that you can do for someone, is to genuinely listen which is the staple of this approach to help you feel comfortable with expressing your true feelings. When this happens you can listen to your emotions and understand the wisdom that comes from listening to them rather than pushing them away.

— Chardonnay Badchkam, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in , NY

My primary couple's therapy modality is EFT. EFT is an attachment theory informed modality that focuses on helping couples look under the surface of their recurrent conflict cycles. Couples who find themselves wondering why they are seemingly having the same argument over and over without resolution would be a great fit for EFT.

— Kate Breslin, Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO