Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) focuses on helping individuals and couples improve their emotional connections in their relationships. Communication becomes peaceful, disagreements and past hurts are easier to discuss, and your ability to love and be loved improves for the better.

— Relationship Anxiety Help, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in online therapy for relationship anxiety,

EFT for couples is an excellent source to use to help with couples since communication, understanding, and empathy are missing out of the relationship. I use primary and secondary emotions to have each person understand one another and to help interact and enhance the emotional bond.

— Amisha Gandhi, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Kirkland, WA

I have extensive training in Emotion-Focused Couple Therapy.

— Amy Markley, Therapist in Chicago, IL

When couples come to me after the discovery of an affair, the emotional bond between them appears broken. I help them to pick up the pieces by exploring the unmet attachment needs they are each dealing with. Emotion is the music of the dance of love. Change the music; change the dance.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX

My practice focuses more on processing emotions, in a multitude of ways, so people feel better.

— Sonia Kersevich, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Greenbelt, MD

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) are both rooted in identifying an attachment style and its direct effect on one's feelings. After identifying the feelings, I help the client remedy past traumas and attachment injuries through emotional realization and processing. These practices are evidence based and empirically backed to show lasting change.

— Ryan Pescaia, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Houston, TX

In my work with couples, I explore attachment issues and identify unhealthy emotional and behavioral patterns.

— Jackie Lee, Therapist in Grapevine, TX

EFT is one of the only models used to help couples heal with evidence based research to back it up. https://iceeft.com/eft-research-2/ I have completed both an intensive externship and core skills in this model specifically.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in , OH

Using tools like empathy and validation during sessions, I seek to guide you to healthier conclusions and resolutions for the difficulties you are experiencing.

— Jill Butler, Addictions Counselor in Oklahoma City, OK

I use techniques from EFT in my relationship counseling to help you communicate in empirically validated ways to improve your relationship, by breaking out of destructive cycles and learning to communicate in a more authentic and vulnerable way.

— Jeni Allton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

The root of all healing comes from processing emotion, and this is not an easy thing to do. As humans we avoid, resist, and repress in order to protect ourselves. Using EFT, I can build a relationship with my clients, pull the emotion out, and help make connections. Therapy is a safe space to process emotions and my clients and I work together to break down those barriers.

— Jacqueline Siempelkamp, Licensed Professional Counselor in Radnor, PA

I focus on emotions in session, and encourage clients to express themselves deeply, to themselves and to others in their life. Many people do not give their emotions enough recognition and respect. Often, our emotions can lead us to understand the pain that we are facing, and can provide the key to knowing what tools to use to start to heal ourselves.

— Sandy Rose, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

When working with relationships and families, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT is one of the most successful treatments for couples/family therapy that pulls from a combination of Experiential, Attachment, and Systemic Theories. I believe it is crucial to develop a safe, empowering relationship with clients. EFT teaches family members to slow down interactions and fully experience emotions as a strong, family unit. I advanced have experience using EFT within the LGBTQ community.

— Casey Brasfield, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Winston Salem, NC

EFT concepts are at the core of my philosophical understanding of people and what gets in the way of connection in relationships. During couples sessions, I help couples understand their habitual negative interaction patterns, work with them to deescalate this negative cycle, and help them understand the underlying needs and fears that underpin unproductive relationship behaviors.

— Heather Hollysmith, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Our earliest relationships shape our view of the world and our sense of safety. I have completed trainings in EFT to expand my understanding of the foundations and techniques of EFT. Using this method, we will address your attachment figures and how they are impacting your current relationships. In a society that so often teaches us to be numb and neutral, EFT is a platform to experience emotion, which in itself leads to change.

— Brooke Bayles, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in ,

I use a highly experiential approach to therapy. This means I believe that simply thinking or talking about a problem is not enough to create real change. In order for change to occur, we need to go deeper, beyond the thinking mind. Research shows that having a felt experience opens up pathways to new ways of thinking and being. This means we will be working toward having new, felt sense experiences to help you move beyond stuck patterns and ineffective coping strategies and toward real change.

— Jane Thibodeau, Somatic Psychotherapist, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in , NC

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you gain insight into your feelings to help deepen relationships, improve decision making, expand self knowledge and emotional awareness.

— Alexandra (Sasha) Goodman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake, OH