Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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I completed training in EFT with Dr. Silvina Irwin in Los Angeles. I hope to continue my growth as an EFT therapist with advanced training in the coming year. I practice EFT with couples and individuals, and have seen remarkable results in expression of feelings, ability to build connection, and sense of security in relationships. I have been an EFT client myself, and truly believe that this work is a powerful healing tool.

— Hannah Schaler, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

I am trained in EFT Tapping and use this regularly in treatment for OCD, eating disorders, and anxiety

— Allison Summer, Licensed Professional Counselor

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps to address the underlying root of what is keeping you stuck in your relationship and prioritize deep understanding and connection in order to feel safety and security with your loved one.

— Annika Yokum, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Nearly 10 years of clinical experience and advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

— Ross Kellogg, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

EFT is an approach to therapy treatment based on the premise that our emotions are critical to our identity and guide decision-making. When we lack awareness of our feelings or avoid unpleasant emotions, we cannot use the information provided by these emotions. Unlike other therapeutic approaches, EFT assumes that emotion can be a source of healing and works with specific emotions to increase adaptation.

— Jennifer Hamrock, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Hermosa Beach, CA

Our emotional state shapes the way we think and interpret our life experiences. Discovering there is no emotional experience that does not have a benefit can help you unlock your best life journey.

— Sheldon Kay, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Duluth, GA

In my work I am always paying attention to the emotional processes and experiences that are occurring in the room, often under the surface, particularly when they arise in our closest relationships. We all have attachment patterns that can cause us to miss each other on an emotional level, and a big part of couples therapy is bringing those patterns into our conscious awareness and help us learn to meet each other's and our own needs more effectively, for a closer relationship.

— Jackie Turner, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Portland, OR

My approach to meeting with clients has been deeply influenced by the work of Sue Johnson with Emotionally Focused Therapy, a highly researched and validated, evidence-based model. We'll work together to help you and your partner repair your ability to trust each other again and feel deeply connected.

— Marla Mathisen, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Online sessions for individuals & couples across Florida, FL

Emotions play a critical role in therapy and our daily lives. I help individuals truly understand how their emotions play an integral role in their lives and how they can connect with their emotions in a way that allows them to become empowered by them. This is what is meant by experiential therapy and putting clients in the driver seat of their therapeutic experience.

— Daniel Lavelle, Licensed Professional Counselor in Vienna, VA

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you gain insight into your feelings to help deepen relationships, improve decision making, expand self knowledge and emotional awareness.

— Alexandra (Sasha) Goodman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake, OH

Dr. Parlor is an advocate of EFT techniques in light of relationship stressors. She focuses on relationship first in therapy and recovery.

— Jessica Parlor, Psychologist in New York, NY

Sometimes you feel your emotions so strongly that it prevents you from thinking straight. I teach clients to regulate and cope with negative emotions as well as gain awareness of their emotions. Furthermore, I assist with developing a strategy to work effectively with a range of emotions.

— Yifan Jin, Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY

I work with emotions to help you explore, tolerate, and understand them. Expressing your emotions works when you have someone who responds to them appropriately. I find that the most meaningful thing that you can do for someone, is to genuinely listen which is the staple of this approach to help you feel comfortable with expressing your true feelings. When this happens you can listen to your emotions and understand the wisdom that comes from listening to them rather than pushing them away.

— Chardonnay Badchkam, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in , NY

Emotionally Focused Therapy, otherwise known as EFT, is a therapeutic approach specifically focused on relationships, developing deeper connections, and bonding. Though EFT was initially developed for counseling couples, it has been expanded into both individual and family counseling, as it is particularly effective for clients who have experienced betrayal or trauma in their close relationships. The goal of EFT is to enhance trust and strengthen the bonds with one another.

— Rachel Wachtel, Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY

Our earliest relationships shape our view of the world and our sense of safety. I have completed trainings in EFT to expand my understanding of the foundations and techniques of EFT. Using this method, we will address your attachment figures and how they are impacting your current relationships. In a society that so often teaches us to be numb and neutral, EFT is a platform to experience emotion, which in itself leads to change.

— Brooke Bayles, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you gain insight into your feelings to help deepen relationships, improve decision making, expand self knowledge and emotional awareness.

— Alexandra (Sasha) Goodman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake, OH