Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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Using EFT, it is possible to understand what is happening when you and your partner are plagued by the same unproductive, dysfunctional patterns over and over again. Let me show you how to understand what is really happening and how you can solve it once and for all.

— Ashley Evans, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX

Emotionally Focused Therapy allows for couples to go deeper into their concerns, recognize underlying patterns of relating to one another, and address underlying unmet needs and wants. This therapy orientation provides for more depth during couples counseling and helps each person's perspective and desires to be seen and held safely in the counseling room.

— Brittany Steckel, Licensed Professional Counselor in Littleton, CO

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term form of therapy that focuses on adult relationships and attachment/bonding. The therapist and clients look at patterns in the relationship and take steps to create a more secure bond and develop more trust to move the relationship in a healthier, more positive direction.

— Devona Stalnaker-Shofner, Licensed Professional Counselor

I have current and ongoing training in Emotionally Focused therapy. EFT is an attachment-based therapy that helps clients face existential life issues by creating a solid sense of self and resiliency. This type of therapy is experiential and offers corrective experiences to help clients relate better to themselves and others in a safe and secure way.

— Joshua Bogart, Professional Counselor Associate in Beaverton, OR

My practice focuses more on processing emotions, in a multitude of ways, so people feel better.

— Sonia Kersevich, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Greenbelt, MD

When working with couples and families, I tend to use EFT as my primary lens. Identifying the dysfunctional relational patterns at play is vital for preventing further damage and getting unstuck from vicious cycles. It's so much easier to see what others could be doing differently, but the only way to be truly empowered is to take accountability for your own part in the relationship dynamics and focus on what you can do differently.

— Joy Linn, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Campbell, CA

I believe that connection and emotional safety are the keys to happiness in relationships. But unfortunately, we tend to become stuck in negative patterns that reinforce disconnection. What we bring to the relationship is formed through our experiences with past relationships and our histories. I help clients to become aware of these patterns and change them. Through this, we can have new healthy interactions and experience more vulnerable communication and connections.

— Kelsey Riddle, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Scottsdale, AZ

At the core of any eating disorder or body image struggles is a sense of unworthiness. The challenges are also a way to cope with emotions. Therefore, focusing on re-learning how to feel is an integral part of growth and recovery.

— Food Is Not The Enemy Eating Disorder Services, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

The core base of my therapeutic orientation focuses on emotions, how we relate to them, what we can learn from them, and how to regulate them.

— Lacey Buckingham, Licensed Professional Counselor

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you gain insight into your feelings to help deepen relationships, improve decision making, expand self knowledge and emotional awareness.

— Alexandra (Sasha) Goodman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake, OH

Our emotional state shapes the way we think and interpret our life experiences. Discovering there is no emotional experience that does not have a benefit can help you unlock your best life journey.

— Sheldon Kay, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Duluth, GA

Attending, Labeling, and Validating emotions is a crucial skill that we can all benefit from. I help teach families, couples, and individuals to be able to respond to their emotions in a way that is regulating and helpful.

— Jasmine Stoker, Associate Professional Counselor in Tyler, TX

Do you find you and your partner(s) are getting stuck in the same argument over and over? You know you both care for each other but neither of you feel heard and seen. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I can help you get in touch with your deeper emotions, address your relational conflict cycle, and build safe & emotionally connected relationships.

— Taylor Kravitz, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

I was trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Graduate school and have been using it for the past 3.5 yrs. I find it to be very effective in helping clients easily recognize their patterns of behavior that lead them into the cycle of negativity and eventual despair for the relationship. This therapy allows couples to practice restructuring their "dance" moves or cycle both in and out of session eventually each partner can sooth and feel soothed by the other creating a secure attachment

— Alicia Bradshaw, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chattanooga, TN

Connecting to and understanding your emotions and utilizing your emotions to meet your needs and create positive shifts in the way you relate to yourself, to important people in your life, and in the way you interact with the world.

— Jerry Ochoa, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Turlock, CA

EFT is used in couples therapy, although it can also be applied to individuals. EFT focuses on exploring and meeting the attachment needs of both partners. Sessions usually involve each partner speaking to the therapist about their state, followed by the therapist instructing the partners to talk to one another about emotions and needs. EFT is effective for reducing conflict, improving communication, and increasing emotional connection.

— Anna Khandrueva, Therapist in Broomfield, CO