Family Systems

Systems Theory doesn't have to mean bringing in your entire family. A look at your family system gives info into how and why you are the cog shaped the way you are, just like in a clock. We look at how all the cogs work together & by changing only one of the cogs (you), all the others are affected. Understanding your family system and how you function(ed) in it is key to lasting change for yourself, since we tend to find people (or cogs) that looks just the ones we already know.

I am a systemic therapist who explores relationships through the context of systems. I like to explore family of origin, while looking at the processes of what is happening between those who are present in the room/online or those that are not able to be physically present. I like to use this way of thinking in exploring all different types of relationships.

My background is in marriage and family therapy and I am a systemically oriented therapist - meaning I see all people as existing in connection to the beliefs, social norms, ideas, and pressures of the people and systems around them.

Family Systems are a multigenerational/historical approach to understanding emotional and behavioral disorders. Rooted in the notion that the self needs to be differentiated from the family system with clarity, insight, and evaluation of the transmission processes one can have a reduction in anxiety, depression, and symptoms related to family processes and can become highly individualized engaging in the extended families system.

My degree from LIOS/Saybrook University includes a focus in Systems Therapy. The Family Systems we are exposed to during our development informs how we look at the world, our sense of ourselves, and how the two interact. Our Family System especially informs our behavior, and learning more about how that works, and how to change our interactions with and perspectives on our family unit helps lead to change in our own behavior.

I am also trained in Family Systems and use this approach to help clients deal with family issues/concerns by helping them understand their roles in their families and learn how these roles affect the way they treat each other and experience the outside world.

No matter where we come from, all family systems are complex. Our original families play a big part in our current families. Or maybe we are having a hard time creating the partnership or family we want now because of what we have been through in life. Exploring the historical components that impact our relationships is key to increasing our healthy functioning.

As a marriage and family therapist my primary training and expertise is in family systems and working with relationship dynamics.

Everybody had or has some form of family, whether you born into it, choose it, or found yourself in a situation with others that essentially represented a family. I use the Systems approach to change the perception of who you are and why you do the things you do by looking at how you were shaped and influenced by the people in your lives as you developed. We were all set up to think and believe and act the ways that we do because of those around us as we developed.

I work with families dealing with communication challenges, attachment difficulties, issues of self esteem, school and social difficulties, anxiety and depression, grief and loss, traumatic experiences, family dynamics and changes in family structures. My job is to learn about the dynamics and about the goals you have. From there, we will together find a way that gives you the best results.

A guy goes to a therapist and says, "please help me, my brother thinks he's a chicken". The therapist says, "well, did you try telling him he's a human?" The guy says, "I would but we need the eggs." (Woody Allen)

In my work with families experiencing relational conflict, my clients find that employing an approach rooted in attachment theory allows me to help them learn about the communication patterns within the family unit. Through this work, members of the family typically report that they understand where their own communication patterns come from, how their family system operates as a whole, and their role in improving communication within that system.

Similar to attachment theory, family systems shape our childhoods and give us experience playing certain roles early in life. These roles may or may not create difficulty later on, especially when you are faced with a need to be flexible and divert from your most comfortable role. We can merge family systems work and analysis with role playing and other embodied methods to help break free of the constraints that roles can force upon you.

We explore the patterns and structures present within the family that impact relational patterns that can lead to individual behavioral and emotional struggles, as well as communication challenges. We work to build healthier patterns of interaction, and reinforce healthy structure within the family to improve the function of both the individuals and family as a whole.

I am adept with working with in family and the complicated patterns of behavior that can exist between members. I am particularly adept at help adult parent/adult child estrangement - helping the parent understand why a child would choose estrangement, and working towards healing that relationship.

Family systems was foundational in my master's program of couple and family therapy. I use this lens in sessions to further expand the view and experience of each individual, knowing that their current and past family experiences has informed their development.

Families can be complicated and having insight into your family group dynamic can promote overall health. When growing up the relationships inside your family can become impacted by unhealthy behaviors. With this understanding in mind, using family systems therapy, you can learn to resolve issues in the context of the family unit.