Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, Gottman Method couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach to helping couples that teaches couples to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

This systematic and research-based approach to helping individuals and couples with relationship concerns is highly effective. It involves numerous concepts and tools that are easily-understood and that you can start using right away.

— Kate McNulty, Clinical Social Worker in ,

I am a level 1 Trained Gottman Therapist. As a Marriage and Family Therapist I have been incorporating Gottman Method interventions and strategies into my work with couples since 2008.

— Lauren Wynn, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Colorado Springs, CO
 

I'm working through training to be Gottman Levels I & II certified. While I practice Feminist Family Therapy, I use Gottman interventions to aid in helping you be an effective communicator.

— Gabrielle Gebel, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Chicago, IL

When starting with most couples, I have them complete a Gottman Relationship Check-up assessment to help me understand, which areas in the relationship are the most pressing. From there I educate my clients on Gottman's 4 Horsemen as it relates to communication in conflict, Love Maps to help build emotional intimacy, Bids for Connection to help them understand when and how to reach for one another, as well as many other Gottman principles to help foster effective communication and intimacy.

— Ashley Gray, Social Worker in Arvada, CO
 

Gottman Method for Couples Therapy is a treatment approach, backed by research, that involves a thorough assessment of the relationship/partnership which focuses on the Sound Relationship House Theory. The goal is to disarm unhealthy communication by fostering understanding, respect, connection and compassion. As a practitioner of this model, I have witnessed so many couples gain just what they've needed to improve and create the partnership they've desired to have and you can too.

— Breeza Quezada, Clinical Social Worker in Orange, CA

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman Method. Gottman Method focuses on helping couples increase respect and create an environment of appreciation for each other. As a result of this, couples tend to see an increase in intimacy and report that they are better able to navigate through conflict and are better able to process the aftermath of a conflict. Through the Gottman method couples gain education on relationships and learn skills to help them communicate and stay connected when experiencing stress or when they are in conflict. The Gottman method has a lot of data to support its efficacy which is one of the reasons I am such a fan of this approach.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA
 

Gottman's method provides a great framework for thinking about healthy relationships. I use many strategies from Gottman particularly in relationship to improving conflict.

— Leah Murphy, Marriage & Family Therapist in Silver Spring, MD

I am currently a Level 2 Gottman practitioner. The Gottman approach includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions to help couples cultivate healthy lasting relationships.

— Paula Kirsch, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in , MI
 

The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

— Monica Manuel, Licensed Professional Counselor in Atlanta, GA

Couples counseling provides the opportunity for couples at all stages of marriage to deepen their commitment, enhance communication, and strengthen positive behaviors that will help partners cope with issues that frequently impact marriage. Most couples are in some distress by the time they make the call for an appointment. In fact, couples wait an average of seven years after they realize that there are problems in their relationship. You don't have to wait that long.

— Dr. David Shoup, Psychologist in Pacifica, CA
 

I am Level I trained in the Gottman Method, and I also help run a couples workshop The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work.

— Leah Webster, Licensed Professional Counselor in Wilmington, NC

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman Method. Gottman Method focuses on helping couples increase respect and create an environment of appreciation for each other. As a result of this, couples tend to see an increase in intimacy and report that they are better able to navigate through conflict and are better able to process the aftermath of a conflict. Through the Gottman method couples gain education on relationships and learn skills to help them communicate and stay connected when experiencing stress or when they are in conflict. The Gottman method has a lot of data to support its efficacy which is one of the reasons I am such a fan of this approach.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA
 

My relationship work is rooted in the Gottman Method. The therapeutic process focuses on increasing interpersonal understanding of each partner’s worries, fears, and hopes; increasing mutual appreciation, respect, and fondness; identifying and effectively responding to bids for affection; improving conflict management and understanding the role of conflict in a healthy relationship; increasing effective communication skills; and developing a shared narrative for the future of the relationship.

— Jeanine Moreland, Clinical Psychologist in Chicago, IL

My success with relationship repair and fortifying is a result of transforming my approach and marriage with Gottman researched tools & strategies. I completed the following Gottman trainings: Level 1 (overview of the research, method), Level 2 (assessment, intervention & co-morbidities training with video samples of research couples), Affairs and Broken Trust repair, Couples & Addiction Recovery. I help your areas of friendship & conflict with this approach.

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor
 

I have completed Gottman training and work with relationship dynamics from the perspective of the Sound Relationship House lens. When asked Dr. Gottman stated he never had nonmonogamous relationships last long enough to study, fortunately I have that experience. I also utilize attachment theory and positive psychology approaches to relationships, building and supporting each other through strengths to growth.

— Cody Glover, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist (CGT). I am the first Black psychotherapist in the world to become a CGT. The Gottman Method for couples counseling is a research based couples counseling modality that can help couples and other "non traditional" relationships repair, reconnect and revitalize. It is a leading edge treatment that can be used to work through just about any problem including communication issues, infidelity, trauma and substance abuse.

— John Edwards, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO