Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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Gottman's principles are part of the foundation of my work with couples. In particular, my clients find it helpful to learn and draw from Gottman strategies about connection and communication. They find it easy to understand and not very hard to incorporate, which empowers and provides hope to couples.

— Robin K. Schnitzler, Marriage & Family Therapist in Middleton, WI

“This work is helping couples build a great marriage not just an OK or not as bad marriage.” John Gottman This is a researched method. I have specific tools to use to help teach you and your partner how to move out of conflict and into connection. You will have opportunity to work through and process in session, then take the intervention home to practice. I have been trained through level 3 for this method. “Conflict is an opportunity for connection.” Julie Gottman

— Rose Atondo, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Yreka, CA
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns, to repair past hurts, and to increase closeness and intimacy through proven tools and skills.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship. -Gottman

— Filippo M. Forni, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I am level 2 trained in Gottman Method Couple’s Therapy. I have helped many couples navigate conflict in ways that preserve their relationship as well as rekindle the friendship at the heart of every healthy relationship.

— Kim Haas, Licensed Professional Counselor
 

When starting with most couples, I have them complete a Gottman Relationship Check-up assessment to help me understand, which areas in the relationship are the most pressing. From there I educate my clients on Gottman's 4 Horsemen as it relates to communication in conflict, Love Maps to help build emotional intimacy, Bids for Connection to help them understand when and how to reach for one another, as well as many other Gottman principles to help foster effective communication and intimacy.

— Ashley Gray, Social Worker in Arvada, CO

I am currently a Level 2 Gottman practitioner. The Gottman approach includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions to help couples cultivate healthy lasting relationships.

— Paula Kirsch, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in , MI
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman Method. Gottman Method focuses on helping couples increase respect and create an environment of appreciation for each other. As a result of this, couples tend to see an increase in intimacy and report that they are better able to navigate through conflict and are better able to process the aftermath of a conflict. Through the Gottman method couples gain education on relationships and learn skills to help them communicate and stay connected when experiencing stress or when they are in conflict. The Gottman method has a lot of data to support its efficacy which is one of the reasons I am such a fan of this approach.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA
 

I have completed Level 1 of Gottman Method training. Gottman Method is heavily researched with long term success with partnerships and couples.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

My success with relationship repair and fortifying is a result of transforming my approach and marriage with Gottman researched tools & strategies. I completed the following Gottman trainings: Level 1 (overview of the research, method), Level 2 (assessment, intervention & co-morbidities training with video samples of research couples), Affairs and Broken Trust repair, Couples & Addiction Recovery. I help your areas of friendship & conflict with this approach.

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor
 

I have completed my Level 2 training on Gottman Method Couple Therapy.

— Esra Nihan Bridge, Marriage & Family Therapist in Morrisville, PA

I have been following the Gottman's for years and was able to complete my level one training with the Gottmans themselves. I use Gottman principles in my own marriage and this method really resonates with me and makes sense for my clients. It's user friendly, science based and effective.

— Katherine Pfeiffer, Counselor in Tampa, FL
 

I am level 2 trained in Gottman Method Couple’s Therapy. I have assisted many couples in learning the skills to manage conflict in ways that don’t damage their connection, as well as rekindling the friendship that is at the heart of every healthy relationship.

— Kim Haas, Licensed Professional Counselor

I am Gottman Method Level II trained as well as trained on affairs, trauma, and addiction in the context of couple's counseling.

— Gabby Jimmerson, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Capistrano Beach, CA
 

The Gottman Method Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. This method teaches specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage resolvable problems and learn to engage in healthy dialogue about gridlocked issues.

— Rebecca Ray, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX

I'm tried in the Gottman method and offer this framework in the work I do with couples and relational systems.

— PNW Sex Therapy Collective: Sex, Intimacy, and Relationship Therapists, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA
 

The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy it integrates research-based interventions. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

— Guan Ellerbe, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Brockton, MA