Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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In my work with couples, I use the Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

— Tomoko Iimura, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in ,

I have completed the level 1 training of the Gottman Method and regularly teach and apply their skills for my clients to improve their sound relationship house.

— Courtney Davey, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Philadelphia, PA

I work with couples in Maine via virtual platform and using a Gottman approach.

— Amy K. Cummings-Aponte, Counselor in Gainesville, FL

This systematic and research-based approach to helping individuals and couples with relationship concerns is highly effective. It involves numerous concepts and tools that are easily-understood and that you can start using right away.

— Kate McNulty, Clinical Social Worker in ,

When starting with most couples, I have them complete a Gottman Relationship Check-up assessment to help me understand, which areas in the relationship are the most pressing. From there I educate my clients on Gottman's 4 Horsemen as it relates to communication in conflict, Love Maps to help build emotional intimacy, Bids for Connection to help them understand when and how to reach for one another, as well as many other Gottman principles to help foster effective communication and intimacy.

— Ashley Gray, Social Worker in Arvada, CO

Gottman therapy techniques for relationship and personal counseling interventions are used as well. The Gottman techniques are effective in helping couples and families improve their communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their relationships. The ideas from this model are based on many years of research and practice. It can be prescriptive and onerous at first, but it provides a "role model" of behavior where none may have existed previously.

— James Creighton, Clinical Psychologist in Houston, TX

Gottman Method Couples Therapy uses 50 years of research on communication in relationships to help clients hear/understand each other, move past conflicts and misunderstandings, and develop greater intimacy, trust, and commitment. This method works to help you learn the most effective, concrete tools that you can have for the rest of your life so that your relationship gets better and better over time.

— Eva Belzil, Marriage & Family Therapist in Fort Collins, CO

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couple Therapist, #406.

— Sheila Addison, Counselor in Oakland, CA

The Gottman Method was the first couples modality I was trained in (Level I + II, as well as Affair Recovery and Addiction Recovery). My clients and I love it for its very approachable framework, and I still use it often.

— Christian Bumpous, Marriage & Family Therapist in Nashville, TN

Techniques from the Gottman Method are used in my relationship coaching, bringing years of research on what healthy communication actually looks like. You will learn to be an expert on healthy communication techniques.

— Jeni Allton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

I am trained in using the Gottman Method and use research based concepts and techniques to assist with identifying patterns, addressing conflicts effectively, and building a healthy relationship based on trust, mutual goals, and connection.

— Rachel Mitchell, Clinical Social Worker in San Diego, CA

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist (CGT). I am the first Black psychotherapist in the world to become a CGT. The Gottman Method for couples counseling is a research based couples counseling modality that can help couples and other "non traditional" relationships repair, reconnect and revitalize. It is a leading edge treatment that can be used to work through just about any problem including communication issues, infidelity, trauma and substance abuse.

— John Edwards, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

I am levels 1-3 trained in the Gottman Method and was supervised by a certified Gottman supervisor for over a year.

— Lauren Garza, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist in Hutto, TX

Gottman Method is a highly researched couples therapy modality. I have Gottman level 1 and Gottman level 2 trainings.

— Kelsey Carney, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I have completed the first two levels of training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy in addition to studying several of Gottman’s books. Gottman Method centers communication, conflict resolution, empathy, and intimacy in relationships. I utilize Gottman Method in conjunction with a social justice oriented approach to provide support for everyone.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR

We explore many areas of your relationship such as sex and intimacy, dreams and meaning-making, and conflict. We will work to bring you closer emotionally while giving you skills to lower the temperature when things get too hot so to speak.

— Sarah Lauterbach, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Carmel By The Sea, CA

I love the Gottman Method for treating couples. It helps to build relationships on the basis of friendship and respect. The method gives couples a concrete box of skills to use to improve communication, resolve conflict, and build trust. I’ve seen my couples build hope for a brighter future, together.

— Marie Ragona, Creative Art Therapist in , NY