Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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I have completed Level 1 training in Gottman Couples Therapy.

— Shari Anderson, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Nashville, TN

Gottman Method therapy is a type of couples counseling based on over 40 years of research (that is still ongoing) into what creates happy, stable relationships. What ARE those people who are loving their relationships doing anyway? This type of couples therapy is based off the answers to that question and is very skills based. I will use it to help you reconnect with each other, have the conversations you haven't been able to have (or at least not well), and look forward to your future together.

— PK Ponti-Foss, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

This approach is based on Dr. John Gottman’s 40 years of research investigating and defining behaviors and communication skills found in healthy, long-lasting relationships. I work with couples to identify these communication patterns that are blocking them from forming a deeper connection and instead work to learn new ways of interacting that are statistically proven to improve relationships and promote healing and connection.

— Elizabeth Bryant, Licensed Professional Counselor in Atlanta, GA

asha is also trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 2), and can teach you the communication skills known to be associated with happier relationships as a supplement to the our deeper work with EFT. Using the most effective methods, we will develop an understanding of the pattern in which you’re caught, learn how to relate in a way that will deepen your understanding of one another, and restructure your interaction with each other for true connection.

— Heart of the Matter Couples Therapy, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fort Collins, CO

I have completed Level 1 of Gottman Method training. Gottman Method is heavily researched with long term success with partnerships and couples.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in , OH

How cool is Gottman? If you don't know, John Gottman is a researcher who can accurately predict divorce with 93% accuracy after observing a couple for three minutes in a conflict discussion. At Resolve, we are students of this kind of research, and practitioners of the Gottman Method. The owner of Resolve, Dr. Hecht, is Gottman certified. Come see us today.

— Heather Hecht, Psychologist in Arlington, VA

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman Method. Gottman Method focuses on helping couples increase respect and create an environment of appreciation for each other. As a result of this, couples tend to see an increase in intimacy and report that they are better able to navigate through conflict and are better able to process the aftermath of a conflict. Through the Gottman method couples gain education on relationships and learn skills to help them communicate and stay connected when experiencing stress or when they are in conflict. The Gottman method has a lot of data to support its efficacy which is one of the reasons I am such a fan of this approach.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

Gottman Therapy is a method and approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship, and integrates research-based interventions. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to “disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.”

— Rachel Wachtel, Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY

My relationship work is rooted in the Gottman Method. The therapeutic process focuses on increasing interpersonal understanding of each partner’s worries, fears, and hopes; increasing mutual appreciation, respect, and fondness; identifying and effectively responding to bids for affection; improving conflict management and understanding the role of conflict in a healthy relationship; increasing effective communication skills; and developing a shared narrative for the future of the relationship.

— Jeanine Moreland, Clinical Psychologist in Chicago, IL

With the Gottman Method, we embark on a journey based on over four decades of research on thousands of couples. This method provides practical tools to help you understand your relationship dynamics, manage conflicts effectively, and enhance the intimacy, respect, and affection you share with your partner. Together, we'll explore the 'Sound Relationship House,' which serves as a roadmap to achieve relationship harmony. It's not just about addressing issues; it's about building a foundation.

— Danna Blumenau, Student Therapist in Frisco, TX

I am Level I trained in the Gottman Method, and I also help run a couples workshop The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work.

— Leah Webster, Licensed Professional Counselor in Wilmington, NC

I am Level II trained in using the Gottman method, and I have much experience working inclusively with all couples/relationship structures. My particular expertise is working with those in romantic relationships where one or more individuals are experiencing trauma symptoms which are getting in the way of safe and healthy connection.

— Rae Cuffe, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Miami, FL

Practical strategies for communication and conflict resolution.

— Jackie Lee, Therapist in Grapevine, TX

The Gottman Method is a popular and evidence-based approach to couples counseling developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. It is grounded in extensive research on couples' interactions and aims to help couples improve their relationships, resolve conflicts, and build lasting connections.

— Alex Osias, Psychotherapist in Boulder, CO

I work with couples in Maine via virtual platform and using a Gottman approach.

— Amy K. Cummings-Aponte, Counselor in Gainesville, FL

Secondary method I use with couples (after attachment- and somatic-based EFT). I have a standard foundation of training and experience in Gottman as an LMFT, and use these methods alongside an EFT framework. I am currently pursuing additional training in these specific approaches to best serve clients from a variety of helpful techniques.

— Jacqueline Warner, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Boston, MA