Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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I have completed Gottman training and work with relationship dynamics from the perspective of the Sound Relationship House lens. When asked Dr. Gottman stated he never had nonmonogamous relationships last long enough to study, fortunately I have that experience. I also utilize attachment theory and positive psychology approaches to relationships, building and supporting each other through strengths to growth.

— Cody Glover, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

We explore many areas of your relationship such as sex and intimacy, dreams and meaning-making, and conflict. We will work to bring you closer emotionally while giving you skills to lower the temperature when things get too hot so to speak.

— Sarah Lauterbach, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Carmel by the Sea, CA
 

I am a Level 1 Gottman Method clinician, and I love this technique because it is rooted in such real life behavior. I find it easy for couples to take the Gottman methodology and apply it to their own lives.

— Jenny Shully, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Napa, CA

I fell in love with the Gottman Method as a client, when my wife and I started couples counseling with a Gottman certified therapist. The techniques simply worked, and years later, when I started working with couples, I started using them myself. I now have Level 2 training in Gottman Method couples therapy, and I use it because I believe in it. I believe in it because it made real, lasting difference. It saved my marriage.

— Michael McVey, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Fort Worth, TX
 

The Gottman Method was the first couples modality I was trained in (Level I + II, as well as Affair Recovery and Addiction Recovery). My clients and I love it for its very approachable framework, and I still use it often.

— Christian Bumpous, Marriage & Family Therapist in Nashville, TN

I have been following the Gottman's for years and was able to complete my level one training with the Gottmans themselves. I use Gottman principles in my own marriage and this method really resonates with me and makes sense for my clients. It's user friendly, science based and effective.

— Katherine Pfeiffer, Counselor in Tampa, FL
 

I am a Level 3 Certified Gottman Method Couples counselor who brings a strong feminist, emotion-focused perspective to supporting couples and relationships to have the tools they need to create the relationships they want.

— Kristin Tucker, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Seattle, WA

I am a Gottman Level 1 certified counselor. Although I employ other modalities for couples counseling, I find the Gottman techniques to be most effective in helping clients improve their communication with each other.

— Christine Kotlarski, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,
 

My relationship work is rooted in the Gottman Method. The therapeutic process focuses on increasing interpersonal understanding of each partner’s worries, fears, and hopes; increasing mutual appreciation, respect, and fondness; identifying and effectively responding to bids for affection; improving conflict management and understanding the role of conflict in a healthy relationship; increasing effective communication skills; and developing a shared narrative for the future of the relationship.

— Jeanine Moreland, Clinical Psychologist in Chicago, IL
 

The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that integrates research-based interventions. Those in the relationship work together to disarm conflict, increase intimacy and respect, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship. Sessions can be in person or virtual.

— Mollie Yocum, Therapist in Pacifica, CA

I am level one trained and use the Gottman Method with couples to create practical interpersonal relationship skills that build intimacy and relationship satisfaction.

— Allison Jensen, Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago, IL
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couple Therapist, #406.

— Sheila Addison, Counselor in Oakland, CA
 

Completed Clinical (L1) Gottman Method Couples Therapy through the Gottman Institute.

— Alyssa Doberstein, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC

My success with relationship repair and fortifying is a result of transforming my approach and marriage with Gottman researched tools & strategies. I completed the following Gottman trainings: Level 1 (overview of the research, method), Level 2 (assessment, intervention & co-morbidities training with video samples of research couples), Affairs and Broken Trust repair, Couples & Addiction Recovery. I help your areas of friendship & conflict with this approach.

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor
 

When starting with most couples, I have them complete a Gottman Relationship Check-up assessment to help me understand, which areas in the relationship are the most pressing. From there I educate my clients on Gottman's 4 Horsemen as it relates to communication in conflict, Love Maps to help build emotional intimacy, Bids for Connection to help them understand when and how to reach for one another, as well as many other Gottman principles to help foster effective communication and intimacy.

— Ashley Gray, Social Worker in Arvada, CO

The goals of the Gottman Method Couples Therapy approach are to reduce conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect and affection , help you get unstuck from feeling stagnant in your relationship and increase empathy and understanding of one another.

— Joann Ikeh, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO