Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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I am currently in the process of completing Gottman 1 couples therapy certification

— Beth Rice, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Indianapolis, IN

Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship, and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

— Robin Schelling, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Sugarland, TX
 

My success with relationship repair and fortifying is a result of transforming my approach and marriage with Gottman researched tools & strategies. I completed the following Gottman trainings: Level 1 (overview of the research, method), Level 2 (assessment, intervention & co-morbidities training with video samples of research couples), Affairs and Broken Trust repair, Couples & Addiction Recovery. I help your areas of friendship & conflict with this approach.

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor

I have completed Gottman training and work with relationship dynamics from the perspective of the Sound Relationship House lens. When asked Dr. Gottman stated he never had nonmonogamous relationships last long enough to study, fortunately I have that experience. I also utilize attachment theory and positive psychology approaches to relationships, building and supporting each other through strengths to growth.

— Love Let Out , PLLC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX
 

Gottman Method Couples Therapy uses 50 years of research on communication in relationships to help clients hear/understand each other, move past conflicts and misunderstandings, and develop greater intimacy, trust, and commitment. This method works to help you learn the most effective, concrete tools that you can have for the rest of your life so that your relationship gets better and better over time.

— Eva Belzil, Marriage & Family Therapist in Fort Collins, CO

I am level one trained and use the Gottman Method with couples to create practical interpersonal relationship skills that build intimacy and relationship satisfaction.

— Allison Reifsteck, Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago, IL
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns, to repair past hurts, and to increase closeness and intimacy through proven tools and skills.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

— Noelle Benach, Counselor in Baltimore, MD
 

My relationship work is rooted in the Gottman Method. The therapeutic process focuses on increasing interpersonal understanding of each partner’s worries, fears, and hopes; increasing mutual appreciation, respect, and fondness; identifying and effectively responding to bids for affection; improving conflict management and understanding the role of conflict in a healthy relationship; increasing effective communication skills; and developing a shared narrative for the future of the relationship.

— Jeanine Moreland, Clinical Psychologist in Chicago, IL

Couples counseling provides the opportunity for couples at all stages of marriage to deepen their commitment, enhance communication, and strengthen positive behaviors that will help partners cope with issues that frequently impact marriage. Most couples are in some distress by the time they make the call for an appointment. In fact, couples wait an average of seven years after they realize that there are problems in their relationship. You don't have to wait that long.

— Dr. David Shoup, Psychologist in Pacifica, CA
 

If you are not familiar with Gottman he and his wife are the couples counseling geniuses of our time. We look for how people act when fighting. Respect and reacing out are critical.

— Dian Grier, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in san fransico, CA

I work with couples in Maine via virtual platform and using a Gottman approach.

— Amy K. Cummings-Aponte, Counselor in Gainesville, FL
 

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist (CGT). I am the first Black psychotherapist in the world to become a CGT. The Gottman Method for couples counseling is a research based couples counseling modality that can help couples and other "non traditional" relationships repair, reconnect and revitalize. It is a leading edge treatment that can be used to work through just about any problem including communication issues, infidelity, trauma and substance abuse.

— John Edwards, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist (CGT). I am the first Black male psychotherapist and in the world to become a CGT. The Gottman Method for couples counseling is a research based couples counseling modality that can help couples and other "non traditional" relationships repair, reconnect and revitalize. It is a leading edge treatment that can be used to work through just about any problem including communication issues, infidelity, trauma and substance abuse.

— John Edwards, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO