Infidelity or Affairs

Infidelity, or cheating, in a relationship or marriage can be devastating and may mark the end the relationship. However, sometimes couples (either with the help of a professional or on their own) can repair the relationship and develop an even stronger, healthier bond. Infidelity can cause a myriad of feelings in both partners, including confusion, grief, guilt, anger, and betrayal. A therapist specializing in infidelity is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively) and move past the affair. In addition to helping those who have experienced cheating in a relationship recover, counseling for infidelity can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s affairs/infidelity experts today.

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I can help you heal the pain, guilt, remorse, distrust and shattered rapport an affair brings to a relationship. You, individually or as a couple, and I identify the unmet needs the affair tried to provide and discover healthier ways of meeting them. Whether your partner knows you’ve cheated or you suspect is cheating, we will address ways and options for you going forward. The work of forgiveness, and letting go is powerful and can be rewarding.

— Bryan Holmes, Counselor in Nashville, TN

Think you and your partner have recovered from the affair simply because neither of you is discussing it? That's a common misconception. The truth is, the broken trust and hurt feelings may be running through one or both of your minds pretty often. If you don't discuss your thoughts and feelings about this issue, it will likely never be resolved and trust won't be restored. Counseling can help by prompting you both to rebuild trust.

— Dave Payne, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Burlington, KY
 

I have experience with betrayal trauma, including partners who have significant others who have compulsively viewed porn.

— Aurora Molitoris, Mental Health Counselor

Having walked the infidelity journey and successfully overcome it many years ago, I believe I have life experience that suits me well for dealing with this issue. I am also a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Candidate, a Meadows trained Post Induction Therapist, and a Certified Complex Trauma Therapist. I believe my life experience and subsequent training has given me expertise with this issue to help clients overcome the trauma and PTSD associated with infidelity.

— Cindy Hyde, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX
 

I am a trained couple's therapist and have expertise in helping guide couples through the overwhelming process of managing post-affair communication, decision making, boundary setting, and ideally healing. While there is no 'right way' to navigate this chapter, I have helped many couple's determine the best path for them.

— Maureen Bethea, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fairfax, VA

Discovering that the person you trusted with your heart lied to you leads to questioning everything, including one’s identity. It affects one’s self-esteem, perception of reality, and safety of the relationship. I have specialized training in assessing and treating sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist
 

Discovering that the person you trusted with your heart lied to you leads to questioning everything, including one’s identity. It affects one’s self-esteem, perception of reality, and safety of the relationship. I have specialized training in assessing and treating sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist

Hurts heal with specific steps. Experienced in guided repair & healing of broken trust in couples using world renowned research informed approach of the Gottman Institute. Online Relationship Check-up option to get a complete personalized picture of strengths, what is missing and what needs to be shifted out of the habits of the relationship. Sessions for addressing the broken trust can also provide strategies and coaching on reinforcing the positive you are doing right.

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor
 

I have extensive experience working with partners who have suffered betrayal in the context of sexual addiction.

— Barbara Christian, Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA

I have worked with many couples on the brink of losing their relationships to lust. Infidelity comes in many forms and the reasons people stray are varied. I lead couples through a process that helps them learn from the affair, incorporate the new information, and negotiate a new monogamy between them. There is no right way to overcome infidelity, but there are many ways that are unhelpful and unhealthy. Recovering from an affair is possible. Don't leave your relationship susceptible.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX
 

I've helped several couples rebound from infidelity. I follow a tested framework.

— Jason Polk, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO

When you discover the betrayal of your partner, it can plunge you into pain, confusion, loss, and grief. The losses can range from the loss of trust in your partner to the loss of your sense of self. In my experience, I have learned that this type of trauma parallels the sudden loss of a loved one.This will be a process and it will take focused amounts of self-compassion. Please be patient and kind with yourself.

— Dr. Jessica Lamar, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Bellevue, WA
 

I am training in Emotionally Focused Couples therapy to help client rebuild their trust and establish connection. By helping clients process and regain trust my hope is to help each couple find each other again. It is a process and can take time but there is hope to rebuild the relationship. Once trust is building I also help clients find where they get stuck in their own pattern and reduce the distress and learn new tools to connect together. I believe relationships can heal and be whole again.

— Victoria Hicks, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Atlanta, GA

I have 10 + years of experience working with couples struggling with infidelity and have received additional training though the Gottman Institute on treating infidelity, California Institute of Integral Studies in Sex Therapy , and advanced supervision.

— Alyssa Doberstein, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC
 

Relationships often go through challenges, inflection points, infidelity can be one of the hardest things a couple ever has to navigate. I work with couples in my practice and infidelity is an experience that can feel shattering, you don't have to navigate it alone. Affairs have the opportunity to shine the light on what wasn't working in your relationship. Although they can be incredibly painful, they also offer the opportunity to deepen in relationship. Healing is possible- I can help!

— Jenna Noah, Counselor in Denver, CO

I have extensive experience helping couples work through relationship trauma due to my training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

— Jennifer Moynihan Wynn, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC