Infidelity or Affairs

Having walked the infidelity journey and successfully overcome it many years ago, I believe I have life experience that suits me well for dealing with this issue. I am also a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Candidate, a Meadows trained Post Induction Therapist, and a Certified Complex Trauma Therapist. I believe my life experience and subsequent training has given me expertise with this issue to help clients overcome the trauma and PTSD associated with infidelity.

Relationships often go through challenges, inflection points, infidelity can be one of the hardest things a couple ever has to navigate. I work with couples in my practice and infidelity is an experience that can feel shattering, you don't have to navigate it alone. Affairs have the opportunity to shine the light on what wasn't working in your relationship. Although they can be incredibly painful, they also offer the opportunity to deepen in relationship. Healing is possible- I can help!

Betrayal in any form can be devastating. I have worked with many couples to rebuild their relationship after an affair. This process can be painful, but when a couple makes it through this type of challenge they often come out stronger than ever.

Infidelity and affairs are unfortunately all too common. Please know you are not alone. When working with couples experiencing infidelity, I utilize a specific protocol developed by the Gottman Method for processing, atoning, and rebuilding after infidelity.

I have extensive experience helping couples work through relationship trauma due to my training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

I use my specialized experience in this specific issue to help correct the distorted thinking that has persons return to the destructive/ self destructive behavior of affairs.

Discovering that the person you trusted with your heart lied to you leads to questioning everything, including one’s identity. It affects one’s self-esteem, perception of reality, and safety of the relationship. I have specialized training in assessing and treating sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.

Tami is a level I PACT couples therapist trained in the psychobiological approach to couples therapy. Using the principles of neuroscience, attachment theory, and biology of human arousal Tami will support you while assisting you in learning powerful strategies to implement desired change in your relationship.

I have been seeing an abundance of clients the last several years who are trying to recover from infidelity. I have helped many clients have a better marriage than they did before the affair even started. I have many issues to address with the person who cheated to move forward so that both parties recover However, some couples cannot be reunited, because one party is refusing, or incapable of changing. In these cases, I have to work on helping the non-cheating spouse move forward and recover.

When you discover the betrayal of your partner, it can plunge you into pain, confusion, loss, and grief. The losses can range from the loss of trust in your partner to the loss of your sense of self. In my experience, I have learned that this type of trauma parallels the sudden loss of a loved one.This will be a process and it will take focused amounts of self-compassion. Please be patient and kind with yourself.

As one can imagine, an affair(s) can have a tremendous impact on the relationship. Couples I meet with after a betrayal feel many ways: ashamed, anxious, embarrassed, angry, sad, shocked, depressed and find it very challenging to move forward. I have been helping couples reconnect, rebuild and restore their relationship for nearly a decade. I am a SOLUTION-FOCUSED TALK THERAPIST and no other Therapist does the type of work I do.

I have experience with betrayal trauma, including partners who have significant others who have compulsively viewed porn.

When treating infidelity you need to have a plan, a map, a direction to go in. I view working through infidelity as a multi-step process. I will help take you through each step so that you can address not only the wounds caused by such an event, but starting the work to rebuild trust, and rebuild the skills within your relationship to feel you can move forward in a healthy manner.

With over a quarter century & 40k hours of expert treatment for sexual misbehavior provided, I give you an evidence based, research oriented treating of “sex addiction”, Out of Control Sexual Behavior, App Hook-Ups, Strip Clubs, Massage Parlors, compulsivity, Professional Sexual Misconduct, serial affairs, porn, as a Certified sexual misbehavior professional. That is, I am a highly trained, non judgmental, clinician that will use my superior insights to help you improve faster.

I have 10 + years of experience working with couples struggling with infidelity and have received additional training though the Gottman Institute on treating infidelity, California Institute of Integral Studies in Sex Therapy , and advanced supervision.

The discovery of an affair is by far the most devastating trauma a relationship can experience. Often, the “participant” feels deep shame, regret and fear that he/she will “lose every person” he/she loves. The "betrayed" feels as if he/she is in free fall. Every moment shared prior to the disclosure comes into question. Marriage can survive an affair. Several studies have demonstrated that couples who recover from an affair can come out of the experience even stronger!

Hurts heal with specific steps. Experienced in guided repair & healing of broken trust in couples using world renowned research informed approach of the Gottman Institute. Online Relationship Check-up option to get a complete personalized picture of strengths, what is missing and what needs to be shifted out of the habits of the relationship. Sessions for addressing the broken trust can also provide strategies and coaching on reinforcing the positive you are doing right.

Think you and your partner have recovered from the affair simply because neither of you is discussing it? That's a common misconception. The truth is, the broken trust and hurt feelings may be running through one or both of your minds pretty often. If you don't discuss your thoughts and feelings about this issue, it will likely never be resolved and trust won't be restored. Counseling can help by prompting you both to rebuild trust.

Are you reeling from the recent discovery of your partner's infidelity? Do you feel like you're losing your mind? Are you embarrassed, angry, scared, and still in love? I can help you share your truths, develop a deeper understanding of your relationship vulnerabilities and how you arrived at this place, and help you create a roadmap to a new and better relationship. There are no "bad guys," just two people in need of a deeper understanding and a return to connection, trust and safety.