Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

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As a society, a not-so-subtle message of "you're immoral or vulgar" has been sent to the kink/BDSM community and LGBTQIA people. This message of shaming leads people to feel they must suppress who they are and hide. I aim to help members of the kink community and anyone who would define themselves as not fitting into the societal norms of sexual activity/romantic desires to break free from the confines of that message of shame.

— Aaron Bachler, Counselor in Tempe, AZ

I have both personal and professional experience with the kink community and I really love working with people within the kink and BDSM world. My particular specialties within this community are focused on D/s relationship dynamics.

— Misty Gibson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Tacoma, WA
 

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environmen

— Jerry Moreau, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

Sexual life orientation should not be a barrier to mental health services. As a pansexual, I have been a member of the BDSM/alternative lifestyle community for nearly ten years and have an understanding of a wide variety of kinks. While I am well-read in BDSM classics, I have researched many other related topics.

— Candis Zimmerman, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in , TX
 

Leather, BDSM, ENM, Dom/Sub, Master/slave, SIR/boy (or boi), Daddy/son (boy or boi), Handler/pet dynamics.

— Cub Larkin, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern in Wilton Manors, FL

Providing competent, compassionate care to individuals and couples who identify as kinky is one of my specialties, and with my training in sex therapy I am confident that I am both kink-knowledgable and kink-affirming. I have years of experience working with couples and relationship groups looking to explore power imbalances, introduce an individual's kink in a safe and appropriate way and learning how to integrate their kinks into their experience of their sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR
 

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redding, CA

I have additional training in sex therapy and alternative relationships through the Ohio Center for Relationship and Sexual Health. I am currently being supervised by a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor to obtain hours for AASECT. I am a proud AASECT and NCSF member.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH
 

I think this does not encompass in total one's erotic identity, which is my actual specialty. I work with various aspects of eroticism and sexuality to include asexuality, improving sexual intimacy, exploring one's own eroticism, and/or addressing infidelity to name a few.

— Elle Blodgett, Clinical Psychologist in Austin, TX

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC
 

Whether it is a kink, a 24/7 dynamic, a polyamorous relationship, or an i-don't know-what-it-is, there is nothing that can't be talked about in a session. I have a heavy focus in decreasing shame and stigma around sex and sexual interests, especially for those who don't identify in the majority.

— Laura Wood, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in SEATTLE, WA

I am a sex therapist who specializes in working with folks in the kink community. I have experience helping folks understand and explore this part of their identity.

— Coty Nolin, Sex Therapist in Denver, CO
 

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences, or who want to dive into their own sexualities with support and encouragement.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT
 

Sex is still so taboo in America. This makes it particularly challenging for folx who engage in kink, D/s relationships, or work in the sex industry. Do you talk to your family about it? Your docotr? Your kids? It's a lot to navigate. I for one have paid for too many therapy sessions where I was educating my therapist. You deserve knowledgeable, capable support. Surround yourself with professionals who can see you, celebrate you, and support you where you are for all of who you are.

— Lou Sanfillipo, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Hyattsville, MD

I am the author of The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients, winner of the AASECT 2021 Book Award and the SSTAR 2022 Professional Book Award, and it's sequel Kink-Affirming Practice: Culturally Competent Therapy from The Leather Chair. Working with members of the BDSM community, and teaching other clinicians how to do the same, is what I do.

— Stefani Goerlich, Sex Therapist in Royal Oak, MI
 

We’re all born with innate sexual response and drives (or a lack thereof), and our sexual identity is based on these innate responses; they’re an integral part of every person. Our current cultural sexual construct leaves most of us fumbling around in the dark, searching for an acceptable way to fit our perfectly unique sexual selves into the rigid construct that is normative sexuality

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions.

— Joseph Doherty, Psychologist in Portland, OR
 

Proud to say I am kink-positive and knowledgeable, LGBTQIA2S+ inclusive, experienced in supporting HIV+ folx, sex worker positive, and genuinely enjoy challenging shame and stigma surrounding sexually expansive folx.

— Elizabeth Hawkins, Sex Therapist