Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

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For the past 20 years, I have worked with erotic and sexual minority clients. Most often they see their kink as a resource, not the problem requiring therapy. Yet it’s still a road of self-discovery that can have its rites of passage. They may be discovering their kink identity, or are experienced kink practitioners or educators. The journeys often heal – and become a part of adult personal development. We know from research that they may also need the skill of an experienced diagnostician

— Robert Odell, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Seattle, WA

Providing competent, compassionate care to individuals and couples who identify as kinky is one of my specialties, and with my training in sex therapy I am confident that I am both kink-knowledgable and kink-affirming. I have years of experience working with couples and relationship groups looking to explore power imbalances, introduce an individual's kink in a safe and appropriate way and learning how to integrate their kinks into their experience of their sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR
 

I am familiar and open to those people that participate in the Kink community.

— Bonnie Wright-Robinson, Counselor

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redding, CA
 

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences, or who want to dive into their own sexualities with support and encouragement.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT
 

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. Meeting our sexual selves in the spirit of inquiry and curiosity can bring about radical transformation and profound acceptance of ourselves and our relationships. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marI provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences, or who want to dive into their own sexualities within a supportive space.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environmen

— Jerry Moreau, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA
 

I am very kink affirming in my approach and offer education on what psychological factors may lead one to engage in fetishes/kink. I believe that engaging in BDSM or other types of kink can be a fun and healing experience when consent is involved.

— Julia Moore, Licensed Professional Counselor in Las Vegas, NV

Having a kink and poly-aware therapist means: Not having to teach me about terms, practices or relationship structures. Knowing that I won’t blame your concerns on your sexual expression or number of partners. Having a therapist well-versed in jealousy and jealousy-management. Having your sexual expression and openness embraced as part of your identity. Having someone to help find the words for your exact needs in relationship.

— Mike Lysaght, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA
 

Sexuality, especially outside of the supposed "norm," has historically been categorized as deviant, wrong, abnormal. I vehemently disagree and believe that sexual expression is a basic human right that no one has the right to judge. I strive to create an environment of understanding and validation that helps those who have been told they are wrong realize that they are healthy human beings worthy of a fulfilling life.

— Greyson Smith @ Forge Counseling Collective, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Colorado Springs, CO

I think this does not encompass in total one's erotic identity, which is my actual specialty. I work with various aspects of eroticism and sexuality to include asexuality, improving sexual intimacy, exploring one's own eroticism, and/or addressing infidelity to name a few.

— Elle Blodgett, Clinical Psychologist in Austin, TX
 

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions. I create a safe, contained space to emotionally and mentally explore your challenges, hopes, and ways to establish a full and healthy sex life and relationship with both yourself and those who you are connected with.

— Adrian Scharfetter, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SACRAMENTO, CA

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT
 

We all deserve to find pleasure, joy, and acceptance in our identities and bodies. I can help you understand your own wants and needs, and support you in building satisfying sexual relationships based on clear desires, boundaries, and consent. BDSM and kink practices have too often been pathologized in the mental health field. You won’t find that with me. I have lived experience in this territory, not just book learning, so I can speak your language and affirm your interests.

— Augustin Kendall, Counselor in Minneapolis, MN

I am a sex therapist that works couples.

— Katie Beers, Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO
 

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions.

— Joseph Doherty, Psychologist in Portland, OR

I am a firm believer that people in kink-based relationships often have healthier relationships than "vanilla" people, because so much is based on communication. But even the healthiest of relationships can run into rough patches. My goal is to create a safe space where we can explore what's wrong, and ways to fix it, without you ever feeling condemned for your kink.

— LAKink Shrink, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA
 

As a society, a not-so-subtle message of "you're immoral or vulgar" has been sent to the kink/BDSM community and LGBTQIA people. This message of shaming leads people to feel they must suppress who they are and hide. I aim to help members of the kink community and anyone who would define themselves as not fitting into the societal norms of sexual activity/romantic desires to break free from the confines of that message of shame.

— Aaron Bachler, Counselor in Tempe, AZ

Proud to say I am kink-positive and knowledgeable, LGBTQIA2S+ inclusive, experienced in supporting HIV+ folx, sex worker positive, and genuinely enjoy challenging shame and stigma surrounding sexually expansive folx.

— Elizabeth Hawkins, Sex Therapist