Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

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Having explored several different kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Proud to say I am kink-positive and knowledgeable, LGBTQIA2S+ inclusive, experienced in supporting HIV+ folx, sex worker positive, and genuinely enjoy challenging shame and stigma surrounding sexually expansive folx.

— Elizabeth Hawkins, Sex Therapist

As a society, a not-so-subtle message of "you're immoral or vulgar" has been sent to the kink/BDSM community and LGBTQIA people. This message of shaming leads people to feel they must suppress who they are and hide. I aim to help members of the kink community and anyone who would define themselves as not fitting into the societal norms of sexual activity/romantic desires to break free from the confines of that message of shame.

— Aaron Bachler, Counselor in Tempe, AZ

I am extremely active with the kink community, often presenting at conferences and providing education. I have been a member of this community for a number of years and have an extensive understanding of dynamics and power exchange. I am able to work with individuals or couples and, when working with me, there is no need to defend or hide the dynamics of your relationship(s) as I already possess high levels of understanding of the BDSM, D/s, and kink community.

— Farrah Bonnot, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Denton, TX

I have both personal and professional experience with the kink community and I really love working with people within the kink and BDSM world. My particular specialties within this community are focused on D/s relationship dynamics.

— Misty Gibson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Tacoma, WA

A non judgmental kink-friendly / sex-positive clinician available for safe and encouraging exploration of personal and group dynamics. BDSM D/s Sex Work-friendly Unconventional Sexuality LGBTQA Sexual Diversity

— Dr. Cynthia Giocomarra, Psychologist in Brooklyn, NY

As a writer, teacher, and advocate for the kink community, this is my biggest area of specialty. I understand the unique dynamics that exist while living in line with your kink identity. I have extensive knowledge and experience working with various power dynamics and kinks. You will not find me yucking your yum.

— Elyssa Helfer, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Are you facinated by the idea of kink/BDSM and don't know how and where to start? Together we will navigate what turns you on & where to begin. Embarrassement and shame has no place here. Instead you will feel empowered, sexy and adventerous. You will learn to say what you want and more importantly what you don't want. Together we will figure out what to do if you want something and your partner wants something else. Talking about your fantasy can be as sexy and fulfilling as playing them out.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

Cultivate eroticism, connection, and intimacy in your relationship; enhance sexual desire, arousal, and pleasure Explore kink and BSDM with care and intentionality. Heal from relationship trauma, miscommunication, loss of desire, infidelity, the impact of normative life cycle stress Navigation and exploration of Non-monogamous Relationships!

— PNW Sex Therapy Collective: Sex, Intimacy, and Relationship Therapists, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA

I have additional training in sex therapy and alternative relationships through the Ohio Center for Relationship and Sexual Health. I am currently being supervised by a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor to obtain hours for AASECT. I am a proud AASECT and NCSF member.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

Finding someone who is kink friendly and knowledge can be difficult. I have worked with many clients who are kinky and want someone who can have this framework while working with them. This may be your presenting problem of what you want to discuss or you just want someone who has an understanding. Either way, I will meet you where you are at and we will work together as a team. Give me a call to chat further about what is going on and how I can help!

— Michael Stokes, Mental Health Counselor in Newport, RI

I pledge to provide LGBTQ+ affirming care, and consensual non-monogamy/sex-positive awareness. I am also a National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) Kink Aware Professional.

— Erick Sowell, Clinical Social Worker in Owings Mills, MD

I am trained and experienced in working with couples who are a part of erotically marginalized kink communities like BDSM, ABDL, swinging, and others.

— Anna Khandrueva, Therapist in Broomfield, CO

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redding, CA

I am a BDSM friendly therapist. I am kink aware an open to supporting your alternative life style. When you work with a therapist it's hard to know, will they understand my kink? Will I be safe talking about my desire? Rest assured, all of you is welcome here! We can explore your history and preferences in an open and accepting environment. Whatever your kinks are, I'm here to support you!

— Jenna Noah, Counselor in Denver, CO

Human sexuality is one of the most enjoyable topics to work with as each person has their own unique sexual expression. BDSM, consensual non-consensual, and DDLG are three of the kinks that I have worked with on a regular basis. When it comes to legal related sexual topics I also have experience working with sex offenders and pedophilia. I treat human sexuality as one piece of the puzzle that comprises your individual identity.

— Taryn Sinclaire, Clinical Social Worker in Greenville, MI

Variations in sexuality are part of human nature, but the way our society sees it is highly stigmatized and being involved in the kink and bdsm community can be highly spiritual and gratifying experience. We work with the LGBTQIA and sex worker communities. Saying that you love sex work is healing. Recognizing the difference, because for some sex work is for survival we can help you with that, too.

— Moushumi Ghose, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I am very kink affirming in my approach and offer education on what psychological factors may lead one to engage in fetishes/kink. I believe that engaging in BDSM or other types of kink can be a fun and healing experience when consent is involved.

— Julia Moore, Licensed Professional Counselor in Las Vegas, NV

I am BDSM/Kink, Poly and ENM affirming. I have specialized training working with this population so you don't have to worry that you will spend your whole session educating your therapist on what terms mean or worried that you will be shamed or judged. You are free to show up as your authentic self

— Aydrelle Collins, Counselor in Dallas, TX