Kink / Sexual Outsiders

I am a sex therapist who specializes in working with folks in the kink community. I have experience helping folks understand and explore this part of their identity.

For the past 20 years, I have worked with erotic and sexual minority clients. Most often they see their kink as a resource, not the problem requiring therapy. Yet it’s still a road of self-discovery that can have its rites of passage. They may be discovering their kink identity, or are experienced kink practitioners or educators. The journeys often heal – and become a part of adult personal development. We know from research that they may also need the skill of an experienced diagnostician

Not vanilla? Not a problem. Whether you want to see someone who "gets it" and you don't need to explain colorful sexual terms and acts to, or you want to be sure to see someone who isn't clutching their pearls when you discuss what happens in your personal life, I'm here. I love discussing kink, whether generally, or if we touch on topics like getting started in kink, culture, shame, 24/7 lifestyle, expanding relationships, managing trauma around consent violations; I've heard it all before.

Sexuality, especially outside of the supposed "norm," has historically been categorized as deviant, wrong, abnormal. I vehemently disagree and believe that sexual expression is a basic human right that no one has the right to judge. I strive to create an environment of understanding and validation that helps those who have been told they are wrong realize that they are healthy human beings worthy of a fulfilling life.

I am a firm believer that people in kink-based relationships often have healthier relationships than "vanilla" people, because so much is based on communication. But even the healthiest of relationships can run into rough patches. My goal is to create a safe space where we can explore what's wrong, and ways to fix it, without you ever feeling condemned for your kink.

I am not only aware, but knowledgeable of kink. Many therapists are uncomfortable talking about sex, much less kink. Kink isn't something that's shameful, nor is it simply a trauma response. It can be a healthy part of a person's sexual expression.

Sexual life orientation should not be a barrier to mental health services. As a pansexual, I have been a member of the BDSM/alternative lifestyle community for nearly ten years and have an understanding of a wide variety of kinks. While I am well-read in BDSM classics, I have researched many other related topics.

I am a PhD student with Modern Sex Therapy Institutes studying Clinical Sexology with a focus in kink and alternative relationship styles. I welcome and affirm sexually expansive clients along the spectrum of gender and sexual expression.

Whether it is a kink, a 24/7 dynamic, a polyamorous relationship, or an i-don't know-what-it-is, there is nothing that can't be talked about in a session. I have a heavy focus in decreasing shame and stigma around sex and sexual interests, especially for those who don't identify in the majority.

I work with people who color outside the hetero-vanilla lines. Sexuality is on a spectrum, and the brain is the most vital sexual organ. I help support and clarify relationships between those capable of, willing, and able to give consent with full understanding of their choices. I provide sex-positive support for those who identify within the kink, fetish, poly, bdsm, power-exchange, and related communities. I have been listed with NCSF, the national coalition for sexual freedom for over a d

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences.

I adopt a sex-positive outlook and understand that folx who fall in this group may be hesitant to bring up these aspects of themselves out of fear of being pathologized and in some cases, have even been harmed by previous therapists when addressing this topic. If you are a lifestyler or just getting curious, I'm more than willing to explore these areas with you and discuss how these practices relate to your life, relationships, interests, and ways to find community within them.

As a society, a not-so-subtle message of "you're immoral or vulgar" has been sent to the kink/BDSM community and LGBTQIA people. This message of shaming leads people to feel they must suppress who they are and hide. I aim to help members of the kink community and anyone who would define themselves as not fitting into the societal norms of sexual activity/romantic desires to break free from the confines of that message of shame.

Leather, BDSM, ENM, Dom/Sub, Master/slave, SIR/boy (or boi), Daddy/son (boy or boi) dynamics.

Sexual outsiders you do not need to conform. You have reached the beautiful destination of knowing your sexual interest and enjoying your kinks. Where I can help is in a couple or individual therapy setting for you to further explore your desires or become more confident in your uniqueness. (For therapy related to Kink/ Sexual outsider all parties must be consenting adults engaging only in activity with other consenting adults)

Leather, BDSM, ENM, Dom/Sub, Master/slave, SIR/boy (or boi), Daddy/son (boy or boi), Handler/pet dynamics.

I have both personal and professional experience with the kink community and I really love working with people within the kink and BDSM world. My particular specialties within this community are focused on D/s relationship dynamics.

Finding someone who is kink friendly and knowledge can be difficult. I have worked with many clients who are kinky and want someone who can have this framework while working with them. This may be your presenting problem of what you want to discuss or you just want someone who has an understanding. Either way, I will meet you where you are at and we will work together as a team. Give me a call to chat further about what is going on and how I can help!

I work with people who color outside the hetero-vanilla lines. Sexuality is on a spectrum, and the brain is the most vital sexual organ. I help support and clarify relationships between those capable of, willing, and able to give consent with full understanding of their choices. I provide sex-positive support for those who identify within the kink, fetish, poly, bdsm, power-exchange, and related communities. I have been listed with NCSF, the national coalition for sexual freedom for over a d

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions.