Men's Issues

Studies have shown that women are much more likely than men to seek therapy. However, just like women, men can benefit from having a confidential, private space to explore any issues that might be coming up for them. The term “men’s issues” can refer to any number of concerns men might face, including anger management, addiction, intimacy issues, domestic violence, mid-life crises, grief or loss – in addition to mental health issues like anxiety or depression. If you have found yourself experiencing any of these issues (or others), reach out to one of TherapyDen’s men’s issues specialists today.

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In addition to my lived experience as a man, much of my clinical experience has been providing therapy to men. Specific men’s issues I have encountered as a therapist include men’s experiences with body image, sexual orientation, sexual performance, friendship, marriage/dating and societal expectations. I have experience working with male survivors of abuse as well as men experiencing depression and anxiety.

— Matt Bouse, Therapist in Ann Arbor, MI

Men often aren't allowed a safe space to process their feelings. Many men I work with are victims of abuse, and have no where to turn. I understand the specific issues that men face, without toxic masculinity.

— Mikah Watford, Licensed Professional Counselor in San antonio, TX
 

When it comes to men's health there is a contradiction: Men are supposed to be strong and in control, but our inner reality often does not match this ideal. The advantages many men have in society commonly do not translate into better health outcomes. Men tend to be in worse health than women globally and many of the behaviors associated with ‘masculinity’ increase the risk of mental illness and relationship problems. Let's have an honest conversation about the kind of man you really want to be.

— Hans Reihling, PhD, LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SAN DIEGO, CA

I have enjoyed working with men from the ages of 22-65. In particular, a passion of mine has been working with new dads. Men who become new fathers often experience depression, anxiety/OCD, issues with anger along with substance use. We have been enduring difficult times of late and it is okay for men to seek help with their mental health.

— Scott Bragg, Licensed Professional Counselor in Paoli, PA
 

For men, there are often so many unspoken rules about asking for help, naming feelings and needs. I love gently walking men through these minefields so that they can first articulate areas of hurt, pain, even the shame that's "there" -- sometimes we don't have the words to say it's there. Then, we can start to attend to those wounds and work towards a state of being healed, healthy, connected with oneself and the people we love / who love us.

— Aaron Kelsay, Counselor in Portland, OR

I believe that men have been privileged in many ways. However, we have often received little or no modeling or training in emotion regulation, communication, intimacy, or grief. I adamently believe that the wellbeing of men is critically important and woefully underprovided. If you believe that your particular issues are highly influenced by your maleness, let's talk.

— Jon Reeves, Clinical Psychologist in Seattle, WA
 

As men we have been set up to fail emotionally in society. A bold statement? Perhaps, but also true. For many of us we were not given the tools to be able to express our emotions in a healthy way. We were told "don't cry", "don't be a baby", or worse. We may have even suffered physical abuse for showing emotion. In my practice we set up a safe environment to give you the tools to begin to express yourself and your emotions in a healthy, productive way.

— Eric Strom, Clinical Social Worker in Minnetonka, MN

Men's Issues is kind of a strange, blurry category that ranges from problems directly connected to having a male body on the one extreme to problems that are fairly typical of the human experience (while just happening to be male) on the other. Men often seek out my help in dealing with sexual performance related issues, feelings of jealousy/possessiveness/insecurity, electronic addictions, difficulty expressing emotions, and many varieties of anger and impulsivity.

— Samuel Wilson, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Kensington, MD
 

Men, we were set up to fail emotionally by society. Strong statement? Maybe, but it is true. For many of us, the expression of emotions was not something that we saw, nor was it encouraged. In fact for many of us the expression of emotion would lead to ridicule. Even physical abuse. In my office, we establish a safe environment for developing the skills and learning how to express emotions. Together we will work you help you become emotionally empowered and take hold of your emotions.

— Eric Strom, Clinical Social Worker in Minnetonka, MN

The three most destructive words that every man receives when he was a boy is when he's told to "Be a Man". Wearing a mask to reduce our risk of exposure to COVID-19 is one thing, but wearing the mask you live in to hide your emotions is harmful. Its personally & socially injurious, AND we avoid emotions because that's what many traditional ideals of masculinity have socialized us to do. Let's modernize masculinity. We can help empower your verve.

— Matthew Braman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker
 

Within the context of our culture, men in particular can struggle with shame, accessing emotions and feeling a sense of belonging. A unifying experience for men is the sense that they must face their struggles alone. Therapy offers we need others; to know ourselves, to feel the range of our emotions, to connect to meaning in our lives and relationships. I work with men struggling to connect with loved ones, their emotions, and purpose.

— Andrew Fontana, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Seattle, WA

I believe that it is important for men to reexamine the standards of masculinity that have been put forth by our cultures. I offer a non-judgmental space for male-identified persons to process their feelings regarding their place in a changing world. I take inspiration from Robert Bly, Joseph Campbell, Robert A. Johnson, and the mythopoetic men's movement.

— Andrew Conner, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Portland, OR
 

Dealing with Men's issues has been a passion of mine for over 20 years. Men have unique development and social norms that have been cultivated by society. Unraveling those core value that is helpful for the 21st Century and beyond needs to be teased out.

— Kwabena Siaka, Psychotherapist in PORTLAND, OR

You felt curious about therapy for a moment, and then a part of you said, "You don't need it; asking for help would mean that you're weak. You're supposed to be able to handle things on your own; be a man". Unhealthy forms of masculinity have been passed down through cultural attitudes and social norms from generation to generation. Mindful masculinity can be a solution in and of itself to some of the world's most significant problems. Verve is here to guide you, dude.

— Matthew Braman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker
 

Balancing work/school, family, relationships, marriage, kids, and all of the current events in our world today is difficult for even the healthiest of people. Helping you unlock what brings you joy and helps you feel whole and connected is a big part of managing stress. Everything from meditation and prayer to eating right and exercising is vital to a holistic approach to men's health.

— Charlie Luther, Associate Professional Counselor in Buford, GA

Men face many unique challenges in the world today. We often receive conflicting messages as adults that are different from the ones we received growing up. the messages we receive growing up are to be strong, protective problem solvers, who should show little to know emotion. But now as adults, we receive the messages that we are also supposed to be emotionally supportive, emotionally vulnerable, and open. These conflicting messages can lead to many problems as we try to go through life.

— Jacob Butler, Counselor in Canadian, OK
 

You have been growing up in a culture where you constantly heard: "don't cry over spilled milk/just get over it/pull yourself by your bootstraps" and things alike. You have been told to be taught and that men don't cry. Maybe you are still feeling the remnants of your past trauma and your life is spinning out of control. You might be a high achiever, type A personality that just takes on too much and is absolutely infused with stress. It's time to gain control over your life and address these.

— Ioana Avery, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Katy, TX

As men, we know that life can be hard! Frequently, we are depleted of hope and then filled with regrets. Disappointments and self-doubt plague our thoughts and control our behaviors. We are dazed by people, places, things, and situations we cannot control or change. We also suffer sorrow, injury, and fear, along with being exposed to infidelity, suspicion, and ruminations. Yet, we are not allowed to speak of it because we are "men." I help men get in touch with who they want to be.

— Alan Zupka, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in ORLANDO, FL