Men's Issues

Men are underrepresented in therapy and I'd like to change that by breaking down barriers, reducing stigma, and making therapy for men a productive and even enjoyable experience. Regardless of sexual orientation, men these days are starved for emotional connection and support. As a therapist, that places me in an ideal position to help those who most need it.

I work with men in expressing their emotions, anger issues, and relationship issues.

I work with a lot of men around masculinity, gender roles, processing shame, and managing anger.

I work with men around issues of sexual identity, challenges with out of control sexual behaviors and sex addiction, libido and performance anxiety issues, and navigating sexual issues in relationships.

I specialize in helping men work through issues around shame, vulnerability, sexuality, communication, competence, and finding a sense of purpose and meaning in life. I bring a long background leading men's circles, retreats, and rites of passage for both adolescent and adult males. To be a male-identified person brings with it a unique set of roles and expectations which are often internalized. I will support you to get to know yourself and make new, more satisfying choices.

Is there a problem you have that you feel like you cannot confide to your spouse, or perhaps your mother? I have a solution. Speaking about issues which you find to be specific to men is paramount in your quest for feeling better about yourself and your life. It helps dissolve the divide you may feel between yourself and the rest of the world. From self-esteem to relationships to depression, men's issues weaves its way through it all.

Men face many issues today that can make it hard to feel comfortable in our skin sometimes. It is possible to celebrate the strength and honor men tend to understand naturally without feeling less than or devalued for who we are. Toxic masculinity can be a dangerous trap. I believe it's important for men to embrace ourselves before we can have the deep compassion and generosity to be all we can for those we love.

I understand that seeking help can sometimes can be seen as a sign of weakness, particularly in a society that places a strong emphasis on traditional notions of masculinity. However, reaching out for support is a brave and important step in taking care of yourself. I address a variety of issues including relationships, work stress, mental health and more. Let's work together to challenge toxic masculinity and help you lead a fulfilling, authentic life.

Stress and Anxiety Trauma or Depression Substance Abuse and Alcohol Addiction Parenting and Legal Issues Changes in Life Employment and Un-Employment

You have been growing up in a culture where you constantly heard: "don't cry over spilled milk/just get over it/pull yourself by your bootstraps" and things alike. You have been told to be taught and that men don't cry. Maybe you are still feeling the remnants of your past trauma and your life is spinning out of control. You might be a high achiever, type A personality that just takes on too much and is absolutely infused with stress. It's time to gain control over your life and address these.

Body image issues in men just aren't talked about, are they? I want to help to change that. Our appearances are tied to our masculinity, which then brings up all kinds of issues about the toxic masculinity messages we were raised in. Maybe we even participated in that kind of regressive thinking when we were younger, and are trying to reconcile that with who we want to be now. While this is a binary description, I do this sort of work with all genders and sexual orientations.

Men often aren't allowed a safe space to process their feelings. Many men I work with are victims of abuse, and have no where to turn. I understand the specific issues that men face, without toxic masculinity.

I have assisted men in managing concerns, such as life transitions, relationship stress, self-esteem, and eating disorders. Men are deserving a safe place to explore their emotions and difficult situations.

I have enjoyed working with men from the ages of 22-65. In particular, a passion of mine has been working with new dads. Men who become new fathers often experience depression, anxiety/OCD, issues with anger along with substance use. We have been enduring difficult times of late and it is okay for men to seek help with their mental health.

Thankfully, society is changing. Men are now open to seeking therapy and/or coaching, but often, they want a male therapist who understand the demands placed on men. Most, but not all, of my clients are males who are professionals or executives such as real estate developers, executives, leaders, and entrepreneurs. What they have in common is that they seek not just counseling but help with navigating the stresses of business deals or corporate environments.

As men, we know that life can be hard! Frequently, we are depleted of hope and then filled with regrets. Disappointments and self-doubt plague our thoughts and control our behaviors. We are dazed by people, places, things, and situations we cannot control or change. We also suffer sorrow, injury, and fear, along with being exposed to infidelity, suspicion, and ruminations. Yet, we are not allowed to speak of it because we are "men." I help men get in touch with who they want to be.

As a counselor, it is my goal to help you gain awareness and insight into your current stressors and emotions.

You felt curious about therapy for a moment, and then a part of you said, "You don't need it; asking for help would mean that you're weak. You're supposed to be able to handle things on your own; be a man". Unhealthy forms of masculinity have been passed down through cultural attitudes and social norms from generation to generation. Mindful masculinity can be a solution in and of itself to some of the world's most significant problems. Verve is here to guide you, dude.

I help successful career-focused men who are feeling misunderstood, isolated and without meaningful connections. I teach mindfulness, emotional regulation and dialogue skills to build strength while using Socratic Questions and Jungian Dream Analysis to uncover the powerful unconscious resources to break their negative relationship patterns and connect. Through our work together, these men have a deeper experience of their own humanity and discover the capacity to create meaningful connections.