Men's Issues

Studies have shown that women are much more likely than men to seek therapy. However, just like women, men can benefit from having a confidential, private space to explore any issues that might be coming up for them. The term “men’s issues” can refer to any number of concerns men might face, including anger management, addiction, intimacy issues, domestic violence, mid-life crises, grief or loss – in addition to mental health issues like anxiety or depression. If you have found yourself experiencing any of these issues (or others), reach out to one of TherapyDen’s men’s issues specialists today.

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In many ways, the world is changing for the better. Unfortunately, the way we were raised has not prepared us for these changes, and old ideas and beliefs may be creating stress, burden, and confusion without giving us the tools to meet the moment. I help men make sense of the changing landscape of expectations, and guide them in tapping into the deep inner resources that allow them to overcome fears, release themselves from the past, and step fully into their best selves.

— Daniel Fulton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

For men, there are often so many unspoken rules about asking for help, naming feelings and needs. I love gently walking men through these minefields so that they can first articulate areas of hurt, pain, even the shame that's "there" -- sometimes we don't have the words to say it's there. Then, we can start to attend to those wounds and work towards a state of being healed, healthy, connected with oneself and the people we love / who love us.

— Aaron Kelsay, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

You want people to know you, the real you, but what are they going to think of those embarrassing parts of your life? It’s terrifying to think about sharing those things with other people, so you just keep those things hidden, stay small, and march along. Imagine fully and confidently owning your identity, your presence, your voice and feeling empowered to pursue your vision of the future. It’s time to step out of secrecy and smallness to stand tall and own the life that is uniquely yours.

— Jesse Kauffman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Ann Arbor, MI

I provide a safe and validating therapeutic environment for men to explore concerns they may not feel comfortable sharing with others.

— Matt McKevitt, Clinical Social Worker in Wyckoff, NJ
 

In addition to my lived experience as a man, much of my clinical experience has been providing therapy to men. Specific men’s issues I have encountered as a therapist include men’s experiences with body image, sexual orientation, sexual performance, friendship, marriage/dating and societal expectations. I have experience working with male survivors of abuse as well as men experiencing depression and anxiety.

— Matt Bouse, Therapist in Ann Arbor, MI

My approach to working with men is through the lens acknowledging that we live in a culture where to be a man is defined by one's ability to be "strong." This condensing of human experience contributes to the intense pressure men are under to exist in the world in a way that is difficult for any human to accomplish.

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC
 

Within the context of our culture, men in particular can struggle with shame, accessing emotions and feeling a sense of belonging. A unifying experience for men is the sense that they must face their struggles alone. Therapy offers we need others; to know ourselves, to feel the range of our emotions, to connect to meaning in our lives and relationships. I work with men struggling to connect with loved ones, their emotions, and purpose.

— Andrew Fontana, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Seattle, WA

In this world of changing gender roles it helps to think directly about what it means to be a man. The toxic masculinity we have been shown is no longer meeting our needs for meaning, love, or even empowerment. It can be liberating to ask, "What is sacred masculinity?" If we can have compassion and curiosity for the parts of us that took on toxic masculine attitudes, we can also learn to live in ways that honor both the sacred masculine and the feminine aspects of our being.

— Carlyle Stewart, Counselor in Asheville, NC
 

You have been growing up in a culture where you constantly heard: "don't cry over spilled milk/just get over it/pull yourself by your bootstraps" and things alike. You have been told to be taught and that men don't cry. Maybe you are still feeling the remnants of your past trauma and your life is spinning out of control. You might be a high achiever, type A personality that just takes on too much and is absolutely infused with stress. It's time to gain control over your life and address these.

— Ioana Avery, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Katy, TX

Men have historically been suppressing trauma. The first time men experienced trauma, on the play ground, we were ridiculed for expressing it! This started the idea that we must suppress emotions. Because of that a lot of us are called toxic. For throes who want to change that I would love to help.

— Jose Feliciano, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in La MESA, CA
 

As men we have been set up to fail emotionally in society. A bold statement? Perhaps, but also true. For many of us we were not given the tools to be able to express our emotions in a healthy way. We were told "don't cry", "don't be a baby", or worse. We may have even suffered physical abuse for showing emotion. In my practice we set up a safe environment to give you the tools to begin to express yourself and your emotions in a healthy, productive way.

— Eric Strom, Clinical Social Worker in Minnetonka, MN

I believe that men have been privileged in many ways. However, men often receive little or no modeling or training in emotion regulation, communication, intimacy, or grief. I believe that the wellbeing of men is critically important and woefully underprovided. If you believe that your particular issues are influenced by your maleness, let's talk.

— Jon Reeves, Clinical Psychologist in Seattle, WA
 

Men can be trapped for years in a vortex of limiting beliefs, suffering needlessly. The good news is that with the help of an experienced therapist who specializes in treating men's issues, you can find relief from your discomfort and struggles. In my work with men, I've seen firsthand how taking the time to address fundamental issues with a trained professional often results in symptom resolution and a more satisfying and rewarding life.

— Lindsey McGehee, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in San Antonio, TX

Is there a problem you have that you feel like you cannot confide to your spouse, or perhaps your mother? I have a solution. Speaking about issues which you find to be specific to men is paramount in your quest for feeling better about yourself and your life. It helps dissolve the divide you may feel between yourself and the rest of the world. From self-esteem to relationships to depression, men's issues weaves its way through it all.

— Dylan Daugherty, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX
 

Seeking help is sign of strength. Men have been sold a lie that they need to be stoic and suffer in silence. The truth is that men are at their best when they can share their honest feelings with others. Then the facade of perfection falls away and men can offer their true potential to their friends, family and the world.

— Michael Ceely, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

As men, we know that life can be hard! Frequently, we are depleted of hope and then filled with regrets. Disappointments and self-doubt plague our thoughts and control our behaviors. We are dazed by people, places, things, and situations we cannot control or change. We also suffer sorrow, injury, and fear, along with being exposed to infidelity, suspicion, and ruminations. Yet, we are not allowed to speak of it because we are "men." I help men get in touch with who they want to be.

— Alan Zupka, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in ORLANDO, FL