Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Even though they both fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships are two very different things. Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. Whatever form of non-monogamy you practice or are interested in exploring, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. If you are running into issues or roadblocks, seeing a qualified mental health professional provides a safe and supportive space to discuss your concerns and improve communication skills. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s polyamorous and open relationships experts today.

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Whether you are an established Polyamorous couple or needing support in starting a new chapter with other partners, I think having a basic foundation of communication/honesty is important for any relationship to work. In session I hope to encourage both couples to discuss what a relationship is and define how all partners can set boundaries to enrich their lives.

— Ishmaella Brutus, Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY

Whether your involved in or wanting to explore an ethical non monogamous relationship, as a couple or solo I will help not only answer but ask questions that will guide you and have you better equiped for any bumps that lay ahead. Together we will figure out a course that is tailored and best for you. At any time any agreemnets can be altered, lets talk about it.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

Many individuals find joy in having close relationships on both sexual and emotional levels with multiple partners. These relationship styles require honest communication and healthy boundaries. As a trained sex therapist, I work with participants to strengthen communication skills and utilize resources that best support the sustainability of consensual and ethical non-monogamous relationship styles.

— Janice Leonard, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plano, TX

Whether your involved in or wanting to explore an ethical non monogamous relationship, as a couple or solo I will help not only answer but ask questions that will guide you and have you better equiped for any bumps that lay ahead. There are plenty of informative books on this topic, together we will figure out a course that is tailored to you.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

My personal and professional experiences with polyamorous relationships have led me to specialize in working with others within the community. I'd love to support you on your journey and help you navigate concerns about your poly relationships.

— Misty Gibson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Tacoma, WA

Nearly a quarter of my caseload has been centered around relationships that are practicing ethical non monogamy, transitioning into opening or closing their relationships, and other conversations around the impacts of society’s expectations for monogamy.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR

I help individuals develop the relationship they want by working through open communication and developing a solid foundation to stay connected. As we are all products of our childhood environment, sometimes we need help shedding old ideas and biases about what a relationship should look like. By acknowledging and and working through these barriers we can get you to the relationship you want to have.

— Rachael Lastoff, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Asheville, NC

Whether you are just considering the idea of opening up your relationship, or you've been open or poly for as long as you can remember, you need a therapist who understands ethical non-monogamy. I don't make assumptions about what is right for your relationship--only you can know that. I can help guide each person in the relationship to be able to know and express their own needs, negotiate relationship contracts, and build more connection and intimacy.

— Colleen Hennessy, Licensed Professional Counselor in , CA

As with gender identity, I have personal experience navigating polyamory. I don't have a one-size-fits-all approach, but I am comfortable with and accepting of polyamorous and open relationships, and can work with individuals, couples, and other relationship configurations to support people navigating relationships outside the box.

— Zem Chance, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Eugene, OR

I believe that all of us have a right to love and relate according to what feels appropriate and fulfilling to us. I have been practicing and researching polyamory for over 16 years.

— Carolina Castano, Licensed Professional Counselor in Cincinnati, OH

I have also been part of the Polyamorous/Ethical nonmonogamous community for over 10 years. Through my own lived experience I have discovered how hard it can be to navigate a relationship that society does not teach us about. I also became a therapist in part because of how hard it was to find a therapist that understood nonmonogamy and could help me when my relationships were suffering. Throughout my education I have continued adapting therapy models to work for nonmonogamous relationships.

— Garreth Baldwin, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist

I have 14 years experience working with couples of in non-traditional relationship types (i.e. open, polyamorous, consensually non-monogamous). I have advanced clinical training in Polyamory and Kink Life Styles. I believe all relationship types are valid and deserve support toward relational health and success. I am also listed in the Poly Friendly Professionals Directory.

— Lauren Wynn, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Colorado Springs, CO

Polyamory may mean love without limits...but it certainly doesn't mean love without CHALLENGES. And none of us grew up with templates for anything outside the mono-norm. I often tell clients the great thing about consensual non-monogamy is it really makes us explore our issues and our insecurities. And the rough thing about consensual non-monogamy is it really makes us explore our issues and our insecurities! Together, we can find the path that works best for you.

— LAKink Shrink, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

I work with all different forms of non-traditional relationships including those who identify as polyamorous, solo-polyamorous, consensually non-monogamous, relationship anarchists, people who identify as "monogamish", swingers, aromantics, folks consciously choosing monogamy, and those in or curious about open relationships.

— Soren Stone, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor

I have both professional and personal experience in initiating and navigating ethically non-monogamous relationships. It can be a very exciting journey full of discovery and connection but it can also be challenging. I give partners and individuals tools and resources to understand and minimize the negative possibilities and enhance the positive ones.

— Jamila Dawson, Sex Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

My master's program included training in polyamory and ethical non-monogamy (ENM). I have a long-term interest in subverting traditional cis-heteronormative relationship structures in my personal life and am in relationship with people who are practicing polyamory and ENM. I believe all relationships (romantic or otherwise) are sacred, we need each other.

— Kelsey Miller, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

We work with relationships in all iterations of poly and open. We work with relationships just opening up, in the middle of a multi-decade poly marriage, deciding to close their relationship, or ending their relationship. We also see clients who are poly, want to know we're non-judgy of their poly ways, and then rarely bring it up in session. They just want to know that if it does come up, we won't judge them. We won't.

— Rouse Relational Wellness, Sex Therapist in San Francisco, CA

I've worked with many clients who've engaged in various forms of ethical non-monogamy in individual and couples sessions. I've had friends who engaged in ethical non-monogamy since I was in undergrad. I tried it myself, but didn't find it was a good fit for me. I educate clients about ethical non-monogamy as an option if they have historically been monogamous. I educate clients about how to do it well cause it involves a lot of communication and negotiation of needs as well as clear boundaries.

— Tia (Christia) Young, Counselor

I like helping poly folks and families deepen their connections through understanding and having compassion for each others'attachment styles, as well as take steps to define and honor the boundaries of all involved.

— Jules Allison, Professional Counselor Associate in Portland, OR

Originally inspired by Dr. Ruth Westheimer, I knew I wanted to be a sex therapist someday. I just didn't know it was possible. After graduation I learned that I could specialize in sex therapy! So I did! As a graduate of U of M's Sexual Health Certificate Program, I welcome working with people in non-traditional relationships, whether they be open, poly, or "monogamish." I "get you" and honor your path!

— Paula Kirsch, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in , MI