The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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Are you struggling to connect, feeling lonely or misunderstood? Explore your values with me and find your path to becoming your authentic self, thereby attracting more like-minded people into your life.

— Nicola Gosen, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Bellingham, WA

The woman you see in the mirror is not the person you desire to be. Too often you compare yourself to others, which leaves you feeling worthless. Your physical health has fallen by the wayside, and the pounds won’t stop piling up. I will help you gain the confidence to start living the life you imagined.

— Esperanza Winters, Counselor in Milwaukee, WI

Self-Esteem and Sense of Self are very important areas in which I help clients. Many clients come to therapy feeling badly about themselves. It is common for very accomplished people to begin therapy reporting feeling like an imposter. Others present with feeling unlovable if people really knew them. Through therapy my clients learn to accept themselves as they are and at the same time to increasingly live in ways that reaffirm their worth, materializing their core values and abilities.

— David Shapiro, Psychologist in Irvine, CA

If constant feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism are creeping in, it’s very difficult to feel any sense of self-confidence. Instead, feelings of defeat, loss of motivation, and lack of joy become the new reality. You can break free! What would life be like if you viewed your core self as unconditionally worthy of acceptance, compassion, and value? How do you think your life would change? Let’s start the journey together toward building a sense of self-esteem that truly enables you to thrive

— JaLeah Law, Clinical Psychologist in Newport beach, CA

Self esteem is about how you view yourself. If you view yourself in a positive light and feel you have what it takes to overcome life challenges, that is called high self esteem. If you don't have a positive assessment of yourself, or feel like you can't overcome life challenges, that is called low self esteem. Another term that is used interchangeably is self image. Low self esteem chips away at life quality and it takes a toll on emotional health. I can help you to improve your self esteem.

— Tonya Jordan, Licensed Professional Counselor

I have undergone training in mindful self-compassion, a research-supported, evidence-based intervention that helps individuals grow to authentically accept all of themselves to make way for happier relationships, personal growth, and more satisfaction out of life. Maybe you are falling short of your goals or are afraid to take the next step in life because of limiting beliefs. If you're reading this, wondering if therapy can help; please know that you're worth it! I look forward to meeting you.

— Kayla Freeman, Social Worker in Austin, TX

Are you your own worst critic? Do you feel that you can never be good enough? Those feelings come from the constant barrage of messages from family, friends, and media that tell us how we should be, or how we fall short of someone else’s expectations. And then we repeat those messages over and over in our minds until we fully believe them. But these messages aren’t truth. The authentic You has been buried under all this pile of accusations and disappointments. I will work with you to help reclaim your real identity and rewrite the story that you play in your thoughts. I have had clients who now walk through life proud of who they are, confident in what they bring, and excited with where they are going. I would love to work with you to see how far you can go.

— Jaclin Belabri, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in ,

Whether its racial, cultural, gender, sexual orientation, or even work/career - you might be feeling overwhelmed with trying to figure yourself out. I can help you make better sense of yourself, develop deep self-compassion, and move through identity integration. Let’s get into some radical self-love practices and celebrate who you are!

— Jackie Jacobo, Associate Professional Clinical Counselor in San Diego, CA

It is important to have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-worth throughout our lives. I help support my clients in knowing, trusting, and believing in themselves, and in learning to have more self-compassion, prioritize self-care and increase their confidence.

— Jodie Solberg, Hypnotherapist in Lynnwood, WA

We live in a world where we are constantly being compared, sized up and made to feel as if EVERYTHING is a competition. In the world of entertainment, this is especially true and extremely difficult to ignore. Sometimes as entertainers, it can be challengeing to separate the art product from the artist themselves, making criticism something that that can just make you feel all around crappy. Together, we can discuss ways to create an improved relationship to yourself and your art.

— Rebecca Brown, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,

Self-esteem also has to do with how we relate to ourselves and not just our relationships with others. The work I do around this topic is some of the most meaningful!In my work I use a three step system to help you improve upon your self esteem. I will work to help explore your level current of self esteem and confidence. Then get the history of where lower self esteem originated, and then give you tools methods to get to loving and respecting yourself

— Roma Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX

Maybe you are starting to notice that your anxiety is getting in the way of living your authentic life. You spend hours overthinking even the smallest, most insignificant things, which causes you to question your relationships with others. Instead, it’s much easier to just stay at home and isolate yourself. You can’t sleep because you are constantly thinking about all the things you didn’t get done or all the things you need to get done tomorrow.

— Stephanie Milliron, Counselor in phoenix, AZ

I assist my clients in discovering their natural sense of self-worth. The most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the one that you have with yourself. My clients rediscover and nourish this relationship and work toward growing it into self-acceptance and self-love.

— Rebecca Haney, Counselor in Middletown, OH

I help work with client on their self-esteem through different approaches such as acceptance and commitment , working through art, talk therapy, workbooks and other ways.

— Jody Allen, Counselor in Arlington, WA

Does your lack of confidence and worthiness keep getting in the way of your life or relationship? Fortunately, we all have the ability to rewire old patterns of thinking and move toward solution-focused outcomes and growth. When we feel worthy and have higher self-esteem, we open ourselves up to a world of love, hope, resiliency, belonging, possibility, and opportunity. Cultivating self-worth, esteem, and love gives us a foundation to experience a life transformation.

— Heather Rose LeCompte, Associate Professional Counselor in Eugene, OR

Understanding a client's narrative by deconstructing their negative internalized messages & empathizing with how these have impacted them can help clients reconstruct a new narrative that emphasizes their strengths, resiliency, and positive qualities.

— MacKenzie Knapp, Marriage & Family Therapist in Tacoma, WA

Every day I hear people speak with that voice in the back of our heads. It tells us we are stupid, not normal, that we should have known better, that its all our fault. Over time, it starts to feel like just another part of us. But it's not even our voice. This is the voice of our bullies, abusers, and the people who could have helped, but didn't. We don't have to hold onto those voices. We can let go and find peace. You are worthy. You are enough. I'd like to help you see that.

— Chris Eaton, Licensed Professional Counselor in , TX

Self Esteem & Soul work is all about empowerment. It’s about deciding to move in a direction that honors what you truly want for yourself, not what your family or society believe is best for you. Our culture has worked hard to have a powerful hold on us and it takes courage to take a look at ourselves and our lives to see if we are leading it, or if others are doing it for us. We don’t work to fix our ourselves, we work to discover and cherish our true selves.

— Christina Sheehan, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

Self-esteem is impacted by basically everything else in our life. If we're struggling with anxiety, it's hard to feel good about ourselves and have higher self-esteem. Sometimes working on self-esteem means working on other things, like anxiety first. Other times it means processing through how you actually see yourself, and getting yourself to a place where you can see yourself in a more positive way. But it is possible to change how you see yourself!

— Danielle Wayne, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Boise, ID