The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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Treating self esteem is nuanced, and in my opinion, best treated with a systems approach. It is important to look at the systems that have made us feel they way we do.

— Timothy Armon, Clinical Social Worker in Chicago, IL

Many of us struggle with our self-esteem. We often have negative self talk and see ourselves as imperfect. I believe that most healing starts with forgiving and accepting yourself as a perfectly imperfect human being. You are worthy of love, respect and care just as you are, right now. My clients have benefitted from my ability to help them make peace with their inner self. I create a calm, relaxed environment where they can be safe to express themselves honestly.

— Katie Robey, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Los Gatos, CA

I have a passion for empowering clients to set boundaries, free themselves from shame & guilt, acknowledge their worth, embrace their most authentic self, and give themselves permission to rest and play.

— Anja Patten, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Seattle, WA

Are you your own worst critic? Do you feel that you can never be good enough? Those feelings come from the constant barrage of messages from family, friends, and media that tell us how we should be, or how we fall short of someone else’s expectations. And then we repeat those messages over and over in our minds until we fully believe them. But these messages aren’t truth. The authentic You has been buried under all this pile of accusations and disappointments. I will work with you to help reclaim your real identity and rewrite the story that you play in your thoughts. I have had clients who now walk through life proud of who they are, confident in what they bring, and excited with where they are going. I would love to work with you to see how far you can go.

— Jaclin Belabri, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in ,

One of the most common problems plaguing Creative People is self-esteem. The most amazing creators struggle with loud inner critics and perfectionism. Beginning as motivation, high standards, and drive, the issue of inner critic hovers over many of us drowning out what initially it was meant to inspire. In counseling, we work to refocus self-esteem from our products to our internal resources and reclaim a healthy inner voice.

— Cindy Cisneros, Licensed Professional Counselor in Sykesville, MD

Living in this world can take a toll on your sense of self, your self love, and your self-esteem. In our work together, I seek to understand the forms of oppression that have impacted you most so that we can start to unlearn the harmful systemic messaging that has taken away some of your sense of self-wonder and (re)introduce you to your own majesty.

— Sam Krehel, Mental Health Counselor in , WA

Self-esteem can be a tricky issue to address. There are many things that can be affecting it. I am very proficient at working with clients to explore all possible reasons your self-esteem, self-worth or confidence feels low. If it's situational we will figure out how to move through it and if it's rooted in past experience we will bring it to the surface and learn how to leave it in the past.

— Jeff Guenther, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

Anxiety, depression, and trauma can contribute to decreased self-esteem and people pleasing tendencies. Low self-esteem can look like consistently like putting yourself aside and making decisions based on what other people want. You deserve to live for yourself and have your needs met. I bet you are more capable than you know. It would be my privilege to help you grow your confidence and feel more comfortable being yourself.

— Thai Alonso, Psychologist in Watchung, NJ

It is important to have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-worth throughout our lives. I help support my clients in knowing, trusting, and believing in themselves, and in learning to have more self-compassion, prioritize self-care and increase their confidence.

— Jodie Solberg, Hypnotherapist in Lynnwood, WA

I work with my clients to identify the clouded lense that makes it difficult to see your strengths and positive attributes.

— Natasha Lamb, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Jacksonville, FL

As we go about our lives, we have thoughts and experiences that can shape how we view ourselves. Over time, if we find ourselves feeling devalued, invisible, or unworthy, our actions will follow as such. These actions can then either continue the lowering of our self-esteem or maintain it. My goal is to help you challenge automatic thoughts and the choices we make in a way that allows the healing process to begin. I want you to be able to find value and purpose within yourself.

— Dylan Lawson, Mental Health Counselor in Brooklyn, NY

Therapy and changing our beliefs, behavior, and how we think about ourselves can raise our self-esteem. Since many people have struggled with self-esteem issues from early childhood until the present, it’s often necessary to seek therapy for this condition as it’s one that most people aren’t often able to treat on their own. Left untreated, this could lead to serious mental health issues and even self-harm.

— Radmila Hollnagel, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Charlotte, NC

I have undergone training in mindful self-compassion, a research-supported, evidence-based intervention that helps individuals grow to authentically accept all of themselves to make way for happier relationships, personal growth, and more satisfaction out of life. Maybe you are falling short of your goals or are afraid to take the next step in life because of limiting beliefs. If you're reading this, wondering if therapy can help; please know that you're worth it! I look forward to meeting you.

— Kayla Freeman, Social Worker in Austin, TX

I work with individuals with eating disorders and body image concerns utilizing a CBT and ACT approach to therapy. I work with clients in learning to be more compassionate with themselves and teach them healthier ways of thinking.

— Taylor Larsen, Counselor in Gilbert, AZ

Negative emotions are a natural part of our emotional repertoire as they are a component of our threat-protection system so we need to learn how to accept, tolerate and cope with them. How you interpret your own beliefs, thoughts and feelings as well as others’ and how you cope with them can have a significant impact on your self-esteem. Making yourself and your emotional health a priority while investing in growth and recovery will lead to increased self-worth, self-esteem and confidence.

— Vanja Buckley, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Seattle, WA

I want to help you find your path to self-acceptance and self-compassion.

— Michael Germany, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Austin, TX

My role is to reflect your innate worthiness.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in ,