The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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I specialize in working on self-esteem and confidenc, and through evaluating evidence and challenging distorted self perceptions, I believe I can help you with improving your self esteem!

— Cheryl Lim, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY

You’re doing everything “right” but you still feel dissatisfied. You have trouble letting go of the “shoulds” and “ought tos.” aybe you are a recovering (or hoping to become recovering) people-pleaser, seeking to figure out who you are independent of your utility to others. Let’s shift beliefs and patterns that no longer serve you in favor of relearning to trust your innate wisdom.

— Elizabeth Orrick, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Self-esteem frequently plays into depression, anxiety, codependency, and other maladaptive ways we cope with life.

— Christina Kostopoulos, Therapist in Eagan, MN

Having low self-esteem can cause you to stay in situations that are not good for you, put up with bad treatment or abuse, not go after the things that you deserve, and lack the confidence that would allow you to live the life of your dreams. While you may sometimes feel blind to your strengths, superpowers, badass qualities, and adorable quirks, I will see them quickly and easily. We will work together until you see them, too, and believe in yourself enough to go after what you deserve.

— Breanne Hull, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Austin, TX

When confronted with difficult relationships, be it with a friend, family member, romantic partner, coworker, or employer, we often adopt roles to fit those relationships and compromise our relationship with ourselves. I help my clients to examine their relationships with themselves and others by observing what they do, how they think, and how they feel. We then use this information to heal the client's internal relationship with themselves and forge healthier external relationships.

— Michael Germany, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Austin, TX

I have struggled with self-esteem issues my whole life. Because of that, I feel I am equipped with the necessary experience to truly understand and help individuals grappling with this issue.

— Sam Abboud, Therapist in Oak Park, IL

I strive to provide a supportive environment in which my clients can learn to love themselves.

— Caila Shaw, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in North Attleboro, MA

Self-esteem and self-confidence issues are very common, though many suffer silently alone. I used to be like this. I wish I had sought counseling much earlier in life. My passion today is helping people feel comfortable and understand why they feel this way. I know how to help people transform their lives so they can feel confident and live the lives they truly want to live. Feel free to set up a complimentary session on my website and let's discuss how I can help you.

— Timothy Long, Psychotherapist in Boulder, CO

Self-esteem is a concept that speaks to how we feel about ourselves. The good news is that it is something that can be changed! The recommended treatment is Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which helps you learn to change your beliefs, behavior and how you think about yourself.

— Kerry Diana, Licensed Professional Counselor in Mesa, AZ

In an ever-changing world both online and in-person, there are too many voices impacting how we view ourselves and determine our worth. I bring a non-judgmental and curious approach to support you in exploration, identity discovery, and expansion.

— Alex Moritz Brooks, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I help guide client's in improving self-worth/confidence through use of CBT/self-talk strategies, and exploring the root of where the lack of confidence/self-esteem stems from based on their past experiences (childhood, past relationships, etc).

— Rachel Relkin, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY

My expertise in this area comes from my deep interest in narrative therapy and self-directed learnings about the power of stories (external and internal) to shape our sense of self.

— Tyler Benjamin, Therapist in Durham, NC

It is my strong belief that all humans are worthy of love and connection. Low self esteem is a learned behavior that develops through attachment wounding, traumatic experiences, and societal oppression. Through deep listening and unconditional positive regard, I'll help you explore the origins of your inner critic, unravel struggles with worthiness, and identify values. I help to untangle appropriate guilt from unhealthy shame and to re-balance self-acceptance with taking responsibility.

— Liz Ortland, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

Learn to stop chasing self-esteem and start developing self-compassion! With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we'd give to a good friend. Learn ways to use compassion and self-kindness to transform suffering!

— Angel Whitehead, Psychotherapist in Blacksburg, VA

One of the biggest destructive forces on self-esteem is those toxic situations in which your value as a person is not recognized. When people treat you like you are not worthwhile, you can begin to think that about yourself. And then the littlest criticism can trigger self-doubt, discouragement, and powerlessness. Together, we can clarify the respect, care, and love you deserve, embrace all the unique, wonderful, weird ways that you are YOU, and help you to feel re-empowered.

— Monica Vilhauer, Counselor in Portland, OR

Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy. There's a critical voice in our heads that try to keep us in line. While that helps us be likable and good members of society, it can also limit us from our true potential of living a life with intention.

— Sayuri (Julie) Heinl, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Arlington, VA

Just about everyone struggles with self-esteem sometimes. None of us a perfect, but so many of us feel like we should be. Learning to love and accept all the parts of you, even the ones you don't like, can be enormously healing. One of the ways that we can learn to improve our self-esteem is through practicing self-compassion. Many of us are kind and compassionate towards others, but not ourselves. The good news is, we can learn to care for ourselves the way we care for others.

— Aaron Alicea, Licensed Professional Counselor

Having adequate self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth are important aspects of being a human, creating healthy fulfilling relationships, and creating the life you want. I also help my clients heal from narcissistic abuse and relationships and how those have impacted their self-esteem.

— Kim Stevens, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA