The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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Releasing fear and grabbing hold of your inner strength to be able to release your internal dialogue of power, boldness and confidence. This will be explored through mantras, affirmations, guided meditation, and the power of presence.

— Collene Taylor, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Supervisor in Rockford, IL

I help work with client on their self-esteem through different approaches such as acceptance and commitment , working through art, talk therapy, workbooks and other ways.

— Jody Allen, Counselor in Arlington, WA

Esteem can be affected by many things from a single word said by a parent to bullying by schoolchildren to overbearing bosses, friends and romantic partners. It is also affected by the words we tell ourselves. As a team, we explore what you need to build confidence in different areas of your life. We set both short and long-term goals so that you can see and experience the process of taking action and achieving your goals. How do you want to see yourself? Are you ready to change?

— Diana Sturm, Counselor in Mobile, AL

Some people are lucky and were born into wonderful, supportive, emotionally available families. Many are not so lucky. Even if you are part of the former, that doesn't insulate you from struggles with self esteem. If you're part of the latter group, your family may actually be part of the problem rather than the solution. This is where therapy can really help you sort out your past and your present in order to help you create the best future for yourself.

— Cadence Chiasson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Morrison, CO

Living in this world can take a toll on your sense of self, your self love, and your self-esteem. When you come into my office, I seek to understand which forms of oppression have impacted you most so that we can contradict harmful systemic messaging that has taken away some of your sense of self-wonder and reintroduce you to your own inherent majesty.

— Sam Krehel, Mental Health Counselor in , WA

How we feel about ourselves strongly impacts our life choices and relationships. I enjoy teaching self-compassion techniques and helping clients build confidence using a strengths-based approach. Together we will challenge negative self-talk and change your life from the inside out.

— Amy Braun, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor

Low self-esteem is a drag. It limits us from achieving dreams. It may even cause us an inability to dream. It limits our ability to form meaningful relationships, advance in careers, come out, transition and more. It also causes us to create false narratives and rigid rules that further limit and drag us down. The good news is low self-esteem can be changed. I will help you shift the negative core beliefs to positive beliefs with EMDR and/or Brainspotting therapy.

— Jordan Nodelman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Wilton Manors, FL

I use a strengths-based/solution-focused approach to help clients get "unstuck" when they're in an emotional rut and don't know how to get out. My approach helps me to empower clients by helping them identify their strengths and learn how to build upon them.

— Susan Pollard, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Menlo Park, CA

Jaci works with ages 15+ to develop a stable sense of self-esteem and identity. Jaci uses gentle guidance, humor, and finding joy with her clients in order to explore the tender parts of their core beliefs and self-perception. Jaci has been on her own self-acceptance journey for 10 years, participating in her own therapy experiences for half of that. Jaci wholly believes in offering compassion to oneself as the antidote to toxic shame and low self-esteem.

— Jacqueline Hynes, Counselor in Princeton, TX

Self-Esteem and Sense of Self are very important areas in which I help clients. Many clients come to therapy feeling badly about themselves. It is common for very accomplished people to begin therapy reporting feeling like an imposter. Others present with feeling unlovable if people really knew them. Through therapy my clients learn to accept themselves as they are and at the same time to increasingly live in ways that reaffirm their worth, materializing their core values and abilities.

— David Shapiro, Psychologist in Newport Beach, CA

How much you appreciate and like yourself regardless of the circumstances is what we call self esteem. People with low self-esteem tend to feel less sure of their abilities and may doubt their decision-making process as well as having issues with relationships and expressing their needs. There are steps and therapy techniques that as a therapist I can provide to help you address problems with self-esteem.

— Adriana Beck, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plano, TX

When you are over-focusing on the needs of others ahead of your own, you start feeling resentful, stressed, and burned out. I will help you develop a plan to protect your energy, meet your needs, and have the fabulous life you want. Relationships involve give and take, especially the relationship you have with yourself.

— Nicole Love, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I believe that people with esteem issues struggle in their relationships and work. Let's explore your thinking regarding how you view yourself and get you on a more empowered pathway toward greater success in your relationships and work life!

— Stefan Dombrowski, Psychologist in Mt. Laurel, NJ

Together we'll work on you realizing that people admire you because you are an AMAZING individual! You have many admirable qualities and everyone around you notices that. We just have to work together to remind you of how great you are! You'll realize that you’re not an imposter. You worked hard to get to where you’re at. You’ve earned all the good things that life has presented you with by showcasing the knowledge and capabilities you posses. In therapy, you’ll realize that you are worthy!

— Darryon Spencer, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Rebuilding self-esteem is the foundation of all of the work that I do with my clients. To do this work, I help folks understand the core beliefs that are unconsciously shaping their feelings about themselves. Once these beliefs have been brought into the light, we can get right to work squashing them! For body image work, I focus on body liberation and acceptance of all body types.

— Natosha Knight, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I have worked with many clients on their self-esteem by exploring the root of insecurities, identifying strengths, and challenging negative thoughts or beliefs.

— Elizabeth Latsos, Social Worker in New York, NY

Self-esteem is often wrapped up with how we view others and how we allow them to dictate our inner world. It is important to have a safe space where you can explore who you are and learn how to improve your sense of self, so you can live an empowered life.

— heidi hewett, Therapist in Athens, GA