The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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If you're struggling with low self-worth, you may find yourself taking care of everyone else's needs but neglecting your own. You might feel burnt out or unfulfilled in your work and relationships, and if you're honest with yourself, it may have been like this for as long as you can remember. Using attachment based interventions, we will explore the root causes of low self-worth and work though the hurt that is holding you back from experiencing the simple joys of life.

— Teddie Jackson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

Self-esteem also has to do with how we relate to ourselves and not just our relationships with others. The work I do around this topic is some of the most meaningful!In my work I use a three step system to help you improve upon your self esteem. I will work to help explore your level current of self esteem and confidence. Then get the history of where lower self esteem originated, and then give you tools methods to get to loving and respecting yourself

— Roma Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX

Having good self-esteem is about liking who you are and feeling comfortable in your own skin. You are daily bombarded with messages about who you should be and it's easy to be left with a feeling of falling short. This can contribute to many of the symptoms that cause you to seek therapy. The path of self-discovery and self-acceptance can be confusing and disorienting. I enjoy helping people find an identity and direction that feels true and fulfilling.

— Matthew Beeble, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Vancouver, WA

I have worked with many women and men who initially seek out counseling for anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and work issues--and often underlying these problems is a lack of trust in themselves, lots of negative self-talk, and unfinished healing from past family and relationship events. My hope is to create a safe environment to better understand what is happening and to then collaborate in implementing skills that will foster self-confidence, and self acceptance.

— Amanda Rebel, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Wheat Ridge, CO

I believe that people with esteem issues struggle in their relationships and work. Let's explore your thinking regarding how you view yourself and get you on a more empowered pathway toward greater success in your relationships and work life!

— Stefan Dombrowski, Psychologist in Mt. Laurel, NJ

Self-esteem is impacted by basically everything else in our life. If we're struggling with anxiety, it's hard to feel good about ourselves and have higher self-esteem. Sometimes working on self-esteem means working on other things, like anxiety first. Other times it means processing through how you actually see yourself, and getting yourself to a place where you can see yourself in a more positive way. But it is possible to change how you see yourself!

— Danielle Wayne, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Boise, ID

Self-esteem has a huge impact on everything we do, but it can be hard to recognize it. Sometimes it's to the point that it's hard to even imagine feeling confident, or worthy. You're worthy, but I can understand how you may not feel that way. Together, we can help you get to a place where you feel worthy, valuable, and confident, in a way that feels genuine to you.

— Danielle Wayne, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Boise, ID

Esteem can be affected by many things from a single word said by a parent to bullying by schoolchildren to overbearing bosses, friends and romantic partners. It is also affected by the words we tell ourselves. As a team, we explore what you need to build confidence in different areas of your life. We set both short and long-term goals so that you can see and experience the process of taking action and achieving your goals. How do you want to see yourself? Are you ready to change?

— Diana Sturm, Counselor in Mobile, AL

The way we feel about ourselves tends to be fairly stable across time, and when that inner assessment is negative, it can leave us to carry that heavy burden throughout our lives. You may hold a list of reasons why you feel this way about yourself, but very often these feelings are not connected to any true flaw, and instead are the result of wounds you experienced in your early relationships. Healing those wounds is your pathway to a healthier and more fulfilling relationship with yourself.

— Dana Basu, Psychologist

Learn how to parent yourself and get the love you need. Learn to feel free in your decisions and choices. Leant to set healthy boundaries with others. Expect more for yourself!

— annette pheby, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Tampa, FL

Confidence is everything when you are working in the arts. If you don't buy it, they won't! I help clients find self-esteem outside of their work, and help to let go of the anxieties holding them back.

— Elle Bernfeld, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY

If you feel like you are not good enough or you struggle with not having enough confidence to get what you want in life, I am the therapist for you. I will help you fall in love with yourself and build up your confidence so that you can attain any goal that you have set for yourself and live out your dreams.

— Sarah (Chen) Zhang Park, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Every person is worthy of acceptance, love, and respect. I help my clients learn how to embrace and love who they are by clarifying values, exploring parts, and increasing self-compassion.

— Kiley Ellefson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern

I'm trained in Pia Mellody's work and looking at self-esteem issues in the context of grandiosity and toxic shame.

— Jason Polk, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO

How much you appreciate and like yourself regardless of the circumstances is what we call self esteem. People with low self-esteem tend to feel less sure of their abilities and may doubt their decision-making process as well as having issues with relationships and expressing their needs. There are steps and therapy techniques that as a therapist I can provide to help you address problems with self-esteem.

— Adriana Beck, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plano, TX

I assist my clients in discovering their natural sense of self-worth. The most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the one that you have with yourself. My clients rediscover and nourish this relationship and work toward growing it into self-acceptance and self-love.

— Rebecca Haney, Counselor in Middletown, OH

Self-Esteem issues are common, and I believe they are often the result of not being true to who we truly are. A lot of people aren't sure who they are, because they try so hard to be who they think they are supposed to be. They want to be accepted, they don't want to hurt loved ones, etc. Self-esteem increases when we start tapping into our authentic selves, and when we start behaving in ways that are in alignment with our core beliefs, values and dreams.

— Rayna Milner, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , OK

Self-esteem is an individual's subjective evaluation of their own worth. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame. Not only do I address self-esteem and identity in therapy, but I also address self-love and compassion. Self-compassion involves treating ourselves with kindness and understanding while being aware of our own pain and suffering, and understanding that this is a hard, but normal human experience.

— Christina Kafalas, Clinical Social Worker in Tempe, AZ

If constant feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism are creeping in, it’s very difficult to feel any sense of self-confidence. Instead, feelings of defeat, loss of motivation, and lack of joy become the new reality. You can break free! What would life be like if you viewed your core self as unconditionally worthy of acceptance, compassion, and value? How do you think your life would change? Let’s start the journey together toward building a sense of self-esteem that truly enables you to thrive

— JaLeah Law, Clinical Psychologist in Newport beach, CA