The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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When we feel low self-esteem it is usually because we are comparing ourselves negatively to others around us. These thoughts often have their roots in beliefs we have about ourself and our self worth that we learned in childhood. Our first step is to identify the thoughts and where they first came from, and then begin to challenge them.

— Stephen Grimes, Psychotherapist in New York, NY

Lacking trust in ourselves makes it hard to show up authentically. You might see a fun, energetic kiddo at home and then hear from their teacher that they barely know they are in their class because they are so quiet! This lack of trust in ourselves sticks with us as we grow up and makes it hard to feel confident in our lives, careers, relationships, and and personal lives. Let's chat about what you see in your kiddo or what you're noticing for yourself. I promise there is another way.

— Sarah Jane Thomas, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

I have firsthand experience on the difficulties of low self esteem and have developed a tool kit of activities and tricks that can help you reconnect with self love and self compassion when speaking positively about yourself feels foreign and sometimes even impossible.

— Cassie Rovig, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Sacramento, CA

The way you feel about yourself matters, and in a world that constantly showcases perfection, it is all too easy to want to hide who you really are. Developing a sense of who you are and learning how to honor that person starts with realizing that you are valuable and worthy of honor and respect. Through narrative theory, we can work together to explore who you are and empower you to be yourself more confidently.

— Jacob Santhouse, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in ,

When you've been involved in a controlling relationship or are just starting out in life, it can be easy to doubt yourself. Over time, that can snowball into a lifetime of missed opportunities and mistakes. But it doesn't have to be that way. Counseling can help you work through the events that have caused you to doubt yourself. Together, we can help you better understand yourself, build confidence, and create a life you are proud to call your own.

— Shawna Anderson Curry, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

It is difficult to feel allowed to be fully ourselves, this is often ties to how we feel about and look at ourselves. While there are ways to help ourselves in this area, I've seen one of the best ways is to have a helper to come look with us, and build foundation with us!

— Emily Chavez-Nguyen, Professional Counselor Associate in Portland, OR

Negative emotions are a natural part of our emotional repertoire as they are a component of our threat-protection system so we need to learn how to accept, tolerate and cope with them. How you interpret your own beliefs, thoughts and feelings as well as others’ and how you cope with them can have a significant impact on your self-esteem. Making yourself and your emotional health a priority while investing in growth and recovery will lead to increased self-worth, self-esteem and confidence.

— Vanja Buckley, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in San Diego, CA

Feeling paralyzed by low self-worth, fear, limiting beliefs or the comparison trap? I help individuals feeling energetically and emotionally drained restore their confidence in themselves while rediscovering their purpose to finally feel free & inspired. If you're feeling disconnected from yourself and your vision, let's work together and start releasing the expectations and beliefs that are holding you back!

— Christina Rogers, Therapist in St. Petersburg, FL

Self-esteem also has to do with how we relate to ourselves and not just our relationships with others. The work I do around this topic is some of the most meaningful!In my work I use a three step system to help you improve upon your self esteem. I will work to help explore your level current of self esteem and confidence. Then get the history of where lower self esteem originated, and then give you tools methods to get to loving and respecting yourself

— Roma Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX

I'm passionate about helping souls who have suffered at the hands of their partners, friends, family members, co-workers or bosses with narcissistic traits. To live with someone who has no empathy for your needs damages your self-esteem. This form of gaslighting & invalidation is terribly painful. Low self-worth is inevitable and NOT your fault. I get it because I've lived it. Therapy can create awareness and understanding of your experience, as well as help you find your way out of the pain.

— Anny Papatheodorou, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Walnut Creek, CA

So many of us suffer from poor self-image and a lack of self worth. This oftentimes has deep roots in childhood and is perpetuated by certain life events. You don't have to live the rest of your life struggling with feeling bad about yourself. With therapies such as EMDR, it is possible to go deep into the roots of the matter and uproot the negative believe patterns than keep you stuck. You deserve to feel good about yourself!

— Jeffrey Gianelli, Clinical Social Worker in Wilmington, NC

Low self-worth can manifest in many different ways and wreak havoc on your life. In my office, we work from a depth-oriented perspective to identify the roots of low self-worth and rework self-narratives to include your strengths, unique gifts, and inherent worth.

— Alexandra Jennings, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Sacramento, CA

The peace that comes from truly knowing and accepting yourself with compassion is like no other and can be fostered through self-exploration. I am here to hold your experience with patience and empathy. Together we will come to understand your life story and unravel rigid belief systems that no longer serve you. Through this deep understanding, we will begin to see a path forward that is rooted in truth, forgiveness, and self-compassion.

— Jessica Heinfeld, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I have 10 years of experience working with clients experiencing low self-esteem and helping them to realize their own worth and greatness. Empowerment is a great tool for helping client increase self-esteem and it's a hallmark of feminist therapy, my main therapy modality!

— Erin Shapiro, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX

Self-esteem matters in how we chose to live our lives. If we suffer from low self-esteem then we have disrupted the flow of our life to thinking that we are not worth living a meaningful, purposeful life. If we battle low self-esteem it's largely due to the way we were raised and nurtured. Being older and feeling low about ourselves is because we have not tapped into our genuine power and our authenticity, It takes a strong person to combat low sense of self. I know you can.

— Nancy Bortz, Therapist in Denver, CO

My role is to reflect your innate worthiness. Together we may take a curious stance towards "esteem" and find new ways to define what it means to you. You may decide to slow down, to become increasingly aware of the sensations related to when you feel most "esteemed." I can be a supportive guide to tapping in to your unique esteemed Self.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in East Bay, CA