Self-harm, also known as self-injury, means hurting yourself on purpose. While cutting (using a sharp object to pierce your skin) is the most common form of self-harm many other forms exist, including burning, scratching or hitting body parts. Self-harm often first manifests itself in adolescence or young adulthood and is typically used as a way to cope with emotional pain. Individuals who have experienced trauma, neglect or abuse are particularly susceptible to self-harming behaviors. Self-harm can be a passing phase, but it is sometimes a symptom of a more serious psychiatric problem, like anxiety, depression, borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, or schizophrenia, so it is important to take it seriously. Whether you, or a child in your care, has recently started hurting yourself or you’ve been doing it for a while, there is help available! Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-harm experts today.

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I have worked with self injury for over 15 years and also provide trainings and workshops on the topic for clinicians, parents and schools. I use a harm reduction approach, and help people to explore the meaning and purpose of their self injury as they learn instead to find words for their pain.

— Kirsti Reeve, Licensed Professional Counselor in Ferndale, MI

Intensively trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy through Behavioral Tech

— Kate Horsch, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I have experience working with clients with a wide range of self harm experiences. I will not judge your experience and offer a safe and healing space to process self harm behaviors.

— Mallory Striesfeld, Licensed Professional Counselor in Houston, TX

I have 8 years of experience working with individuals that have significant urges to harm themselves or are experiencing suicidal ideation. I think that recognition, honesty, openness, and having a supportive ally, are really important steps in beginning the path of challenging self harm urges and actions.

— Sam Anderson, Clinical Social Worker in Golden Valley, MN

I have been working with clients who struggle with self harm and suicidal ideation since 2002. Using DBT skills, mindfulness, and other modality approaches, one can find other ways to cope with difficult emotions.

— Johanna Limmer, Licensed Professional Counselor in ,

Self harm is a result of intense pain and often times is a way to avoid and lessen that pain. You may feel shame or keep this pattern secret from people in your life. Therapy with me is a way to experience compassion and learn how and why this is happening. I will help you develop skills that can help you choose other ways of coping with your pain. Self harm is nothing to be ashamed of. You are hurting and I want to help you heal.

— Jennie Wang-Hall, Psychologist in San Marcos, CA

If you are self-harming or you have a loved one who is self-harming it can be hard for both of you to understand. I have found that most who self-harm want a better way to cope with their emotions, but it sometimes feels impossible to stop self-harming. Whether that is because it has become a habit, it feels good, or you feel that you have no other way of dealing with life. I work with individuals from 12 years-old to adults on learning coping skills to replace self-harming using DBT.

— Amber Kosloske, Counselor in Colorado Springs, CO

I understand that there is a difference between self-harm and suicidal behavior and have experience helping people learn adaptive coping strategies.

— Debbie Duquette, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Madison, AL

You will have access to 24/7 hour phone coaching with me when you have urges for self harm. I will teach you ways to regulate such urges and find better coping strategies to fulfill your needs.

— Ann Guzman, Counselor in Peachtree Corners, GA

I have worked extensively with clients struggling with self-harming behaviors. I have worked in a Partial Hospitalization Program and Intensive Outpatient Program that often included work with adults and adolescents working to change their self-harming behaviors. I have been trained in Dialectic Behavioral Therapy to help work on both distress tolerance to decrease the impulses as well as interpersonal skills to be able to express their emotions more effectively.

— Annie Bertran, Clinical Social Worker in Rockville, MD

The shame you hold and carry with you can be overwhelming. I encourage you to find a trusted person you can talk to about this secret and welcome your visit if you want me to be that person to confide in.

— Christine Lillja, Psychologist in Laguna Hills, CA

One of the most meaningful experiences that I have had as a therapist is meeting a number of clients who have felt in such a dark place as to turn to self-harm or to to experience such a level of self-hate as to want to hurt themselves----and being a part of those client's healing. If interested in improving your relationship with yourself or being able to understand why you self-harm to feel better and no longer need it, we can begin therapy using strategies of DBT and self-compassion.

— JENNIFER GERLACH, Therapist in Swansea, IL

Using Cognitive behavioral Therapy (CBT), I am able to guide you to healthier coping mechanisms.

— Darcy Barillas, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor

I have extensive experience working with individuals suffering from depression, anxiety, conduct disorders, juvenile delinquency, eating disorders, self injury, ADHD and substance abuse.

— Antonia "Tanya" Katsaros, Counselor in Hoffman Estates, IL

Whether through cutting, hitting, or using a "good" behavior to the point of hurting ones self, many people will try to soothe distressing emotions or thoughts by hurting themself, usually beginning in their teen years. In session, we will talk through the purpose of the behavior, what it "gives", and find safer alternatives to achieve the same goals, while also working through the pain which led to the self-harm in the first place.

— Elizabeth Bolton, Licensed Professional Counselor in Cypress, TX

Self harm is in my opinion misunderstood. A client that is using self harm doesn't have the appropriate tools to manage distressing emotions. Clients that self harm are in an extreme amount of pain, and they take the pain out on themselves to feel better. Learning healthy and appropriate ways to tolerate, and work their way out of this addictive pattern of self abuse takes time, patience, and love.

— Bethany Juran, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lincolnshire, IL

I use Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) to help clients decrease self harm and increase healthier coping strategies.

— Rena Blatt, Clinical Social Worker in flushing, NY

I have been working with individuals who self-harm for over five years. Utilizing DBT, my clients are able to understand the reasons they self-harm and find other ways to cope, along with making effective changes in their lives to eliminate stressors that lead to destructive behaviors.

— Casey Perisin, Clinical Psychologist