Sexual Identity

The term sexual identity typically refers to how one thinks of oneself in terms of to whom one is romantically or sexually attracted. Gender identity, sexual orientation and romantic orientation play interconnected roles in a person’s sexual identity. While your sexual identity might match your sexual orientation, this is not always the case. There are endless possibilities for sexual identity, all of which natural expressions of human sexuality. However, questioning or evaluating your sexual identity can be confusing and overwhelming process. If you are working through questions about your sexual identity, a qualified mental health professional can help. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s sexual identity experts today.

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I have worked in an LGBT community center that was committed to raising awareness and diminishing stereotypes regarding those of the LGBTQIA community. It is a personal mission of mine to take the stigma out of sex and sexuality as well as to serve the communities that get prejudged, including the poly/swinger/kink/sex worker communities.

— Alejandro Rodriguez, Mental Health Counselor in Lake Mary, FL

Despite being a member of the LGBTQ community, I sought specific training to become a competent therapist for same. I have worked as a clinician in two LGBTQ centers and served as an advisor to a high school LGBTQ club. I am a member of Gaylesta, the Psychotherapist Association for Gender and Sexual Diversity.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redding, CA

For anyone who is experiencing a transition in their gender and/or sexual identity. Our culture still operates under a binary view of female or male gender and a limited understanding of sexual identities. The reality is that both gender and sexuality are fluid for most people. We can work together to help understand your identities and how they interrelate. I also work with sexual concerns.

— Natalie Stemati, Psychologist in Denver, CO

I hold experience with the LGBTQ2IA+ community both professionally and personally. In a professional context, this has included support for clients in discovering and affirming their sexualities and gender identities, support through life transitions such as coming out to friends or family, and support working through internalized homophobia or transphobia. I have also attended numerous trainings on sexual and gender identity and have completed several years of academic coursework.

— Bridge Condron, Student Therapist in Seattle, WA

Questioning your sexual orientation as an adult can be confusing and terrifying. You can feel the pent-up energy and longing in your body, and yet you're so afraid of what this might mean. I offer a safe, open-minded, and private space to connect with your body and explore your desires and identities. Then, we'll work together to figure out how you want to integrate your truth into your life and relationships.

— Lauren Pass Erickson, Psychotherapist in Boulder, CO

Issues around sexual identity bring up many different thoughts, emotions and reactions. We all have a story around our sexuality. That story influences our way of being in this world. Therapy that is respectful, curious, and open to hearing all that is part of your story of sexuality is a gift to your journey. I believe that there is JOY to be found in this story. There is WONDER and LIFE to be experienced in this journey. This story is yours. YOURS. I can help you in the journey of writing it.

— Emily Stone, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX

I help clients reconnect with their healthiest, most authentic sexuality and sexual self.

— Kirsten Cannon, Counselor in Memphis, TN

Prior to becoming a licensed therapist, I was a Peer Counselor to others living with HIV. I have been HIV positive for 22 years and have worked with all kinds of folx around sexual health and sexual identity.

— Kelly Hill, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Seattle, WA

I was clinical Director of one of only 4 LGBT mental health agencies licensed to provide services to the community in 1991 which brought me from Boston to Portland.

— Joseph Doherty, Psychologist in Portland, OR

With the enormous amount of labels that have surfaced over the last few years, finding the right label for yourself can be important. Sexual identity can start from not wanting to have sex at all to being extremely sexual and being okay with either identity and how to love and accept yourself with that.

— Chase Tucker, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lakewood, CO

Sex positive and experienced in helping clients explore their sexual identity, attractions, kinks, and unmet interpersonal needs

— Amanda Earle, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

I became a therapist and have worked with many individuals who are questioning their sexual identity. I identify as an LGBTQ+ ally.

— Bonnie Wright-Robinson, Counselor

In a world where sex is simultaneously shamed and commodified, there's a lot of messages to sort through to get to the roots of your own thoughts and feelings about sex. Sexuality is often that final frontier of emotional wellness that people don't ask about and yet it is so integral to feeling whole, grounded, and truly seen. It is an extremely courageous act to explore your own sexuality, but it is needed and soulful work in service of having the relationships you want and deserve.

— Lou Sanfillipo, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Hyattsville, MD

Nothing is so nefarious as the bully that we find installed inside ourselves. I have experience working with people in the coming out process and working to resolve the internalized homophobia that we're not often aware of. I also have lived experience in this area.

— Gregory Gooden, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in POMONA, CA

I often let clients know that sex therapy is like any other form of therapy with the addition of an “open door” to explore topics related to sexuality and intimacy with a highly trained and knowledgeable professional. Some clients walk through this door every session, some with some frequency, and some never at all depending on what they are looking for.

— Kate Breslin, Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO

A client's sexuality is a key component in many relational and individual issues. Whether you identify as lesbian, gay, straight, bi, trans, queer, asexual or any variation thereof, your sexuality is a major factor in determining your preferences and sexual behaviors. Sexuality is about your sexual identity, about the gender roles you carry with you, and the "scripts" you learned from family, religion, society and significant others. All of these factors have contributed to your understanding of sexual expression. Sometimes, these interconnecting parts do not fit well together and can cause distress in your life. I believe one of my primary roles is to help you find out how to rework pieces of your sexual identity, your social conditioning and your sexual preferences so that you can feel integrated and content in your experience of your sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

Exploring topics of sexuality, gender, and identity; coping with discrimination and oppression; navigating relationship, family, and cultural challenges.

— Matthew Tratner, Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY