White Privilege/Fragility

White privilege is the privilege that benefits those who society identifies as white, beyond what is commonly experienced by non-white people under the same social, political, or economic circumstances. According to Peggy McIntosh, an activist and writer, whites in Western societies enjoy advantages that non-whites do not experience, as "an invisible package of unearned assets". Having and recognizing your white privilege is not racist and does not mean that you have not “earned” your success or struggled in your life. It is about acknowledging the inherent advantage of having white skin in America – an advantage that many others do not have. A therapist that specializes in white privilege can help you think about how you can create a more meaningful and purpose filled life. They can help you come up with ways to be a good ally and part of the solution – rather than the problem. They can help uncover fears that are holding you back. They can help you prepare for tough conversations that you want to have with your family, friends or colleagues about diversity, inclusion or racial justice. If you want to explore the idea of white privilege in a safe and supportive environment, reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today.

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As a former higher ed faculty member, part of my coursework was on recognizing privilege and oppression and ways to be accountable with privilege. Our group practice serves a number of white folks who are activists, organizers, spiritual leaders, and community members who are wanting to process ways that white supremacy may show up in their lives and work, as well as ways to move through white fragility.

— Kendra Smith, Counselor

A Portland, OR Race Talks Consultant and Facilitator since 2018, mentored by Black women and other BIPOC team leaders. Launched in 2020 weekly anti-racism self exploration groups for white people using Me and White Supremacy by Layla Saad to do the inner work and stay involved in systemic change efforts for diversity, equity and inclusion. Reparations offer for CA or OR couples with a Black partner or partners to obtain relationship counseling at no charge (or by donation).

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor
 

As a black man who grew up in the conservative south, I know how white supremacy can color the way in which you see people. I have held beliefs about my own people that were abhorrent and based on stereotypes I was taught and experiences I had. My black experience includes being bullied and made fun of by other black people, meaning, I understand what it is like to be on both sides of this dynamic. The antidote to privilege and fragility is a validating environment to be allowed to be curious.

— Derrick Hoard, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , WA

As a multiracial individual who at times passes for White, I've done a lot of self exploration and have participated in much training around White privilege. I enjoy working with clients who are exploring their own White racial identity and especially am interested in helping White therapists so they can better understand and help their clients of color without being fragile when race is brought up in the therapy session.

— Catherine Bitney, Clinical Psychologist in Austin, TX
 

This is my keen interest. I am currently in a doctoral program studying ways for counseling to help white people to change how we think, in order to free ourselves and others from the traps of racism. I am on this journey myself and I am very motivated to help other white people who are ready to move past the guilt and shame and experience a new awareness that makes room for greater love and joy. The way we change the world is by changing ourselves. We can do it together.

— Lisa Wenninger, Counselor in teletherapy only, CA

I welcome white people to my practice who are working on their own racism and want to learn to be sturdier allies to people of color.

— Carolyn Moore, Counselor in San Francisco, CA
 

As a White therapist I can come along side you in the work of examining your own White privilege, fragility, guilt, and savior complex. If you are ready to do the work of exploring, understanding, dismantling, and becoming a true ally, this is the place for you.

— Jesika Austad, Psychologist in ,

As a White therapist, I am open to having difficult discussions and being challenged, as part of the process of healing. I know it can be difficult to trust a therapist enough to talk about issues involving race and the challenges that come from living in a classist society. My heart is open.

— Lina Lewis-Arevalo, Licensed Professional Counselor in , NJ
 

If you are new to the social justice scene and need a dedicated space to discuss your own White privilege and feelings of fragility, therapy is the perfect place to learn and grow. I work with other White folks to reflect on their culture, thought patterns, and behaviors that contribute to racism and White supremacy. I will suggest readings, activities, and discussions that help you process personal reactions while centering leadership and calls to action by BIPOC leaders.

— Katherine Jorgenson, Psychologist in Kansas City, MO

I was trained in multicultural community counseling where I had the opportunity to work with individuals on white privilege/fragility. It was a very precious experience and I hope to provide a space for this journey of exploring white privilege/fragility.

— Elizabeth Hua, Counselor in Oceanside, CA
 

Honestly exploring the role of White privilege in our lives is a critical part of healing. For all of us with this experience, it is a life-long practice. In my work, I prioritize the acknowledgement of race-based privilege and

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in East Bay, CA

For over twenty years, I've worked on issues of racial and social justice, with an emphasis on helping white people develop a healthy racial and ethnic identity that includes interrupting white supremacy culture. I combine compassion with self-responsibility to create a space for healing, learning, and unlearning.

— Carrie Heron, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Seattle, WA
 

After working as a volunteer facilitator of anti-bias consultation and training programs in nonprofit, corporate, school, and community settings, I went to graduate school to study the psychological impact of oppression and racial identity development. While in school, I ran a weekly group for anti-racist white students, to explore white identity, intersectionality, and privilege. I am passionate about supporting folks of all races/ethnicities in intersectional social justice work.

— Shannon Budelman, Counselor in Seattle, WA

A lot of white people, including myself, are beginning to come to terms with how our privilege has played out in our lives at the expense of people of color. And we're coming to terms with a history of violent oppression that is the legacy of whiteness. This is undeniably painful and can really mess with one's identity as "a good person". If you're going to engage in the hard work of unpacking this history and taking responsibility for dismantling racism, you're likely going to need support. It's natural to feel shame, to feel defensive, to want to disengage and go back to pretending racism isn't that bad. But we have to do better. Talking about it in therapy can help you stay engaged and have a space to be messy in the process.

— Lily Sloane, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA
 

As a white therapist with experience in anti-racist organizing, I have worked closely with clients exploring their whiteness and privilege, providing an emotional container as they deepen their understanding of their own intersecting identities.

— Ally Barlow, Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY