Hi ! I have 25 plus years of experience as a therapist. My approach is pretty straight forward, but the methodology is not. :)
Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Montclair, NJ
We all have them. Life transitions. Change. It sucks. However, reaching out for support is helpful to many whether it be a move out or a move in, a career change (by choice or not by choice) or adjusting to a marriage or divorce and so many others. My work with you would be to see how to the expected or unexpected life transition might be bringing up past traumas or past experiences.
Sometimes couples need a mediator to help them work through an issue that the couple cannot solve for themselves. That is a much healthier way to work on a relationship than leave it festering. I listen without prejudice so if the relationship is an open one, I do not judge.
The soaking wet blanket on top of you is uncomfortable. Yet it is so difficult to take it off. I have worked many years with people who suffer from depression. Sometimes substance use complicates matters and sometimes not. Sitting in the muck is part of the therapeutic process in order to get to the other side. I can help with that process and be side by side with you during it all.
Under this umbrella falls many theories and approaches such as : object relations and modern psychoanalysis. Object relations is in a nutshell you relate to others including partners how your caregiver related to you. We all strive for perfection but it is really about being "good enough". Modern psychoanalysis is focusing on protecting from self attacks and self-sabotage. (cue Bestie Boys music). The therapist job is to have the client "say everything."
I came to this way of working later in my career I had been doing much of this but now it had a name. The elements are 1. autonomy of the individual 2. collaboration with the individual 3. Evocation of motivation meaning to talk to the part of the person looking for sustainable change. When I work in this orientation, I point out discrepancies of their actions to their goals. I have empathic responses. I roll with the resistances. I also empower the individual in their change.
This approach is liked by the insurance companies. Why? Because goals and how to get to the goals are measured. Goals are more concrete and there is "homework" between sessions such as journaling or meditation.