I support couples to feel more confident, secure, and connected in their relationship. Accepting new clients now (January 2024)
Licensed Clinical Social Worker - Candidate in Ann Arbor, MI
A common place to get stuck is in some version of a vicious cycle: where one partner’s distancing triggers the other’s pursuing or critical tendencies, which exacerbate the distancing, and so on. Both partners are left feeling helpless, frustrated, and alone. But there is hope! Underneath our suits of armor are very practical, important human needs to be met: for secure, loving connection with our partners. When we put our suits on, it’s hard to even notice those needs.
With EFT, the goal is to replace the vicious cycle with a more expansive and positive one. To do this, we have to bring the cycle alive together, in real time. In sessions, we stay in the emotional “channel.” We don’t spend as much time on the “what,” but rather the “how.” This means how you’re relating to one another, how you view yourself and your partner, and how each of you elicit responses in the other. Our suits of armor can be removed in an intentional and safe way.