Hi! I'm Dave McNew, a licensed clinical psychologist with a passion for deepening your relationship with yourself and others.
Psychologist in Seattle, WA
Complex PTSD can leave you feeling as if you are a "bad person," unworthy of love, connection, or acceptance. Even years later, the good things in life can feel too good to be true. Your hostile inner critic may feel like it runs your life. I help you find to find safety in the therapeutic relationship so that you can make peace with the deeper causes of your relational trauma. I work to help you heal from shame, mistrust, and self-criticism that make relationships feel unworkable.
You may feel as if anything you do will be judged--yearning to connect with others, yet unable to do so. You may carry tension and uncontrollable worries. I offer lifestyle interventions and techniques to reduce anxious distress. As you experience growing relief, we will work together to unearth the emotional and relational dynamics within that provoke tension. Compassionately exploring the roots of your emotional experience can lead to significant improvements in mood and wellbeing.
You may feel as if the pleasure and meaning of your life has faded away. I work closely with you to sound out the underlying aspects of your being that impact how you feel, behave, and see the world within and around you. With greater awareness and access to these parts of yourself comes greater agency, choice, and peace. You will find that you become less trapped in the invisible patterns of your life that leave you miserable and drained, and more able to bear life’s inevitable ups and downs.
I use relational psychodynamic therapy because I see the relationship we build together as the crucible of change: it acts as both a window into your interpersonal world, and also an arena in which you can try on new ways of being. We learn how to see ourselves and the world around in relationship, and this can become known and changed in relationship. In a non-judgmental, compassionate space, we contact and rework the dynamics that keep you feeling stuck, dissatisfied, and in pain.
Some parts of ourselves are hidden from our own awareness and become apparent only in the ways we relate to others: the impact we have on them, how we engage them, what seems to come up again and again. Because of this, I use the relationship we build as a window into your world–and as an agent of change in your life. With greater awareness of the underlying habits, patterns, and motivations that direct our lives, the greater your agency, choice, and freedom.