About My Clients
Relationships can be greatly rewarding though over time eventually bring challenges. It can start with slight miscommunication that build over time leading to each conversation seemingly carrying the emotional weight of previous ones. At some point we begin to wonder why this pattern feels so familiar, is it normal, and will I ever be able to change this? Slowing down the process and practicing new techniques that start with the present moment help to rebuild trust, communication, and intimacy.
My Background and Approach
Notice that feeling of tension and stress while in an argument. That feeling of the relationship spiraling beyond your control to a familiar place that you both go. I begin our work right there. In our session, we work with slowing that process down and making more choices available to us than just our typical stress response. My approach helps people recognize the moment when you and/or your partner step off the path of secure relationship functioning. Through making small adjustment I can help you to see and be seen by your relationship in a much deeper and nourishing way.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
I believe that all relationships are hard and take work. Like most things, there is an intuitive way to go about it and yet often times that intuitive approach gets us only part way there. We only know what we saw while growing up and often times that can be an incomplete picture. I can help one learn the difference between sticking to what works and what habits we need to abandon altogether for the sake of our relationships. Evidence has been shown that our brains are adaptable to change and can be reprogrammed. No matter what our childhood relationships were like and no matter what our internal critic tells us about ourselves, I believe that I can help to make new habits and choices that promote better communication and intimacy.