I’m Dr. Kate Bautch (she/her), a psychologist and trail guide for people whose identities and experiences fall outside of the status quo.
Psychologist in Sacramento, CA
If you are in an ethically non-monogamous relationship, chances are you’ve been asked inappropriate questions like if you all share a bed, and how the sex part works. The last thing you want to do is to have those conversations in therapy. I worked with many people in poly and open relationships and see diverse relationship structures as healthy and normal. This part of your life may or may not be the center of the work. Either way, shame and judgement won’t have any place in the conversation.
Living with chronic illness or pain involves regular battles with health insurance companies, figuring out whether dishes or laundry are more crucial when you don’t have enough energy for both, and chronic fatigue no amount of coffee can fix. Here you can get the support you’ve been needing with a therapist who understands the challenges of living with chronic illness in a world that assumes every illness can be cured by a visit to the pharmacist, or through strategic application of turmeric.
What is the difference between affirming and accepting? It’s the difference between your aunt saying “Well, I love you no matter what.” and her saying “How wonderful! Do you have a partner? Bring them over, I’d love to meet them!” It’s a totally different experience. You aren’t loved despite who you are, you are loved because of who you are. As a member of the community, I create a space where you can bring the heartache, the struggles, and the joys of your experience as a queer person.
Imagine you show up for dinner with your family. Everyone is there, including your mom who asks inappropriate questions, your nephew who wants to talk all night about sports, and your uncle who hasn’t spoken to your brother since the fiasco at your aunt’s funeral. It can get chaotic quickly. The inside of your mind has different parts too that interact in complicated ways. With IFS we work to bring these parts into balance, so the inside of your mind feels like a safe place to be.
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms- to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” This quote by Viktor Frankl changed my life. I was in the middle of my own therapy journey and needed a lifeline. This was it: permission to choose my own way, no matter how hard the situation. Existential therapy is all about finding meaning in your experiences, and giving you back the power to create change in your life.