Couples/relationship counseling for connection and shared meaning. Creative, experiential therapy for folks experiencing life transitions.
Counselor in Asheville, NC
Even if a relationship once felt easy, life changes can throw new stressors at a partnership. The past can color your present experiences. Sometimes the relationship struggles to grow in the same direction or at the same pace as the individuals. Or maybe you’re happy and you want to go deeper. I work with couples of all kinds with a focus toward attachment, trust, commitment, and communication. I use Emotionally Focused Couples therapy and Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
Whether it’s emerging adulthood, career shift, health changes, or existential crisis, these moments command a sense of terror and a sense of possibility. Grief and hope. Confusion and new clarity. Transitions are a time for looking forward, backward, and, most importantly, within. What brought you here? What will you keep? What will you shed? Who have you always been, and who are you going to become? I have experience in rites of passage and self-designed ceremony for interested clients.
Expressive arts therapy can help you get in touch with parts of yourself that aren't so easy to access in other ways, and it enables you to grow and heal without having to talk directly about issues. As a poet, storyteller, dancer, and guitarist, I can say that the arts are profoundly healing-even when you have no formal talent or training! Additionally, I completed graduate work in expressive and creative arts therapy and psychodrama.
Having a satisfying relationship is both an art and a science. The Gottman Method draws on over 40 years of research and helps couples learn skills and perspectives for a vital and healthy relationship. I help people in all kinds of relationships find authentic and meaningful ways to resolve issues and deepen connection in personalized ways that work for who they are and what they want.
Have you ever felt like you could talk yourself—and your therapist—in circles, but it was a waste of time and never translated to meaningful change? Yeah, me too. I combine talk therapy with other evidence-based techniques such as expressive and creative arts, role play, ecotherapy, self-designed ceremony, and movement and body awareness. These techniques allow you to have a new experience RIGHT NOW, which helps your brain update your understanding of the world and yourself.
Immigration/acculturation brings many demands at once: language barriers, a different culture, and new hopes, expectations, and stressors. These changes can cause issues as individuals and families grow and change, especially between generations. Therapy can help you explore your identity and move forward while holding onto what you treasure most. I speak Spanish at a non-native advanced level and have worked extensively with immigrants and the children of immigrants from Latin America.
I have advanced training in EFT, a gold standard, research-backed approach to working with couples. This model gives us a way to recognize patterns of disconnection that keep creating roadblocks or conflict in the relationship. In our sessions, we are able to map out what this pattern is and slow it down, peeling back the layers of defenses the members of the couple have built up and exploring the vulnerable emotions and needs that lie protected within.