Welcome! I am getting my online psychotherapy practice going after years of providing psychotherapy with an agency.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York
As a gay man, I have faced many struggles related to being a sexual minority, even today as we have more rights and access than when I was coming out. Understanding yourself and your sexuality can be difficult if you're doing it alone or without support. The life issues related to being LGBTQIA+ are easily overlooked by some who do not share these identities. I certainly don't know your lived experience, but I might have had similar experiences to work from.
Men face many issues today that can make it hard to feel comfortable in our skin sometimes. It is possible to celebrate the strength and honor men tend to understand naturally without feeling less than or devalued for who we are. Toxic masculinity can be a dangerous trap. I believe it's important for men to embrace ourselves before we can have the deep compassion and generosity to be all we can for those we love.
Anger is often a trap that becomes too familiar and habitual. But anger is also a great motivator that helps us move mountains. How to find the golden mean where it is not dangerous, but empowers us to get things done? Mindfulness is a uniquely useful method for developing self-awareness whenever anger arises. Learning my individual anger triggers and cues is a good way to begin understanding how to shape my anger into the engine that creates better relationships and a joyful life.
I have used mindfulness techniques for many years and find them useful in settling in to the safe space where therapy happens most effectively. Genuinely being in our bodies is a rare experience in life today, and having that ability to "be where you are" can help us tap into our authentic selves more readily. This, in turn, helps us to ask for what we truly need and to be the person we truly are.
CBT has been the core of my work for over thirty years. Understanding our selves and why we do what we do from a more objective viewpoint can change the choices we make to be more in line with what we want and who we are. Being conscious and intentional in our words and actions helps us to be more authentically ourself. Being aware when we rely on old habits or old beliefs can move us to bravely speak our truth and find the deeper connections to ourselves and others.