I believe grief is not limited to the few sanctioned items Western culture allows: a death in the family, a breakup. Grief is a natural response to the many losses that take place over a lifespan: loss of friendship, the loss of moving from a place you've known, loss of identity after a major career change, loss of physical abilities. I want to treat your loss, whatever it may be, with compassion as we seek to understand together what that loss means for you.
I have had the privilege of walking clients through the different stages of healing from both repeated sexual abuse as well as assault and rape. I have witnessed the powerful transformation that occurs as a survivor gradually reclaims ownership of their story and a sense of safety in their body. I consider it one of the greatest honors of my job to walk alongside clients bravely engaging this process.
I think codependency is best defined as an inability to identify where self ends and another person begins. Codependency is often at play when one has a partner or loved one with addiction issues, but it can also also be a feature in relationships where one person enables the other's under-functioning, immaturity, and inability- or unwillingness- to take responsibility for their own life. I am endlessly curious about the reasons why we over focus and enable others to our- and their- detriment.