About My Clients
You have been pleasing others while staying small and out of the way for most of your life. You may take pride in being able to do almost everything on your own or rather, you feel helpless without another person’s feedback. As a by-product of your community, you have been doing anything and everything you can to survive physically and/or emotionally. Survival and staying small are no longer your only options.
My Background and Approach
I will sit with you as you untangle what was never yours to hold in the first place. There are so many things happening around and to you that have nothing to do with you. However, because you were raised in an environment that depended on your commitment to assimilating and doing as others did, you lost what made you different, authentic, and powerful. All I ask is that you come as you are, and I will commit to working with whatever amount of willingness you bring to each session. My approach focuses on acceptance, not forgiveness. Forgiveness is not a bad word, but rather an act that often silences your grief and pain in order to clear the conscience of another. You matter, and it is not necessary for you to forgive the people that hurt you in order for you to be okay. I will create space for you to grieve the person or community that let you down so that you may be given an opportunity to move forward with grace and acceptance.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
My experience of other-ness has taught me the value of loving on intersecting cultural identities and how these values ping-pong off the value systems of those around and beside me. I have been practicing therapy since 2015 with older adults, young children, Families of Color, and Adult Children of Emotionally Unavailable Caregivers. My trauma and culturally-informed approach allows for a wide berth as my clients and I explore how the heck they got here and what to do about it now.