Couples get relief, & hope with proven strategies. Coming out trans in marriage support, and anti-racism work for white activists is here.
Licensed Professional Counselor in California
Like a healthy garden, couples need more than just love and aspiration to keep doing well. Beautiful things grow from intentional efforts -you don't have to guess or wing it to take good care of your relationship. My lifetime vision is all about bringing what we know for sure to what you plant, weed out, and keep feeding in your relationship. To you it is baffling or overwhelming till I coach you in what I know works. Hold on-keep going. Call me.
Successful marriage building blocks start at the first date. Relationship Check-Up (of the Gottman Institute, aka Relationship Research) available to clients. Learn your strengths as well as specific habits to be rid of to build your happy ever after based on the research on what makes love last. Gottman trainings taken are described in the Gottman Method section of this profile.
Mind Body Medicine tools are available to tap your wisdom and growth through a variety of experiences that I have participated in as a member and through workshops with Dr. James Gordon. Guided imagery, creative writing, drawing, looking inward and various types of meditation and mindful practices are available.
My success with relationship repair and fortifying is a result of transforming my approach and marriage with Gottman researched tools & strategies. I completed the following Gottman trainings: Level 1 (overview of the research, method), Level 2 (assessment, intervention & co-morbidities training with video samples of research couples), Affairs and Broken Trust repair, Couples & Addiction Recovery. I help your areas of friendship & conflict with this approach.
A Portland, OR Race Talks Consultant and Facilitator since 2018, mentored by Black women and other BIPOC team leaders. Launched in 2020 weekly anti-racism self exploration groups for white people using Me and White Supremacy by Layla Saad to do the inner work and stay involved in systemic change efforts for diversity, equity and inclusion. Reparations offer for CA or OR couples with a Black partner or partners to obtain relationship counseling at no charge (or by donation).
Hurts heal with specific steps. Experienced in guided repair & healing of broken trust in couples using world renowned research informed approach of the Gottman Institute. Online Relationship Check-up option to get a complete personalized picture of strengths, what is missing and what needs to be shifted out of the habits of the relationship. Sessions for addressing the broken trust can also provide strategies and coaching on reinforcing the positive you are doing right.
Helping folks be who they are. Medical letter writing for gender affirming surgery, specialized couples support for couples with gender questioning, coming out, and transition events. Cisgender Spouses Group for supportive spouses of transgender partners. Couples group both beginners, and advanced ongoing drop in for Spouses Group members/partners. My family and friends are of the LGBTQ rainbow. Effective research based Gottman Method couples counseling when needed.