Hi! I’m Stephanie. I tend to be laid back, validating, and warm while challenging and guiding people towards facing their hard stuff.
Licensed Professional Counselor in St. Charles, MO
Ugh, anxiety. It’s painful, it can paralyze us, and really limit our lives. A lot of my clients try so hard to control anxiety by being perfect, being on alert all the time, and by masking so hard so that no one sees what we’re really like. Sometimes it is just too much pressure. My approach helps clients build tolerance to anxiety, change the way we look and react to anxiety, and heal the wounds that increase our anxiety.
Many people overestimate the experiences that cause PTSD, and invalidate their experiences, saying things like, “I haven’t been through any big traumas, I can’t have PTSD.” And yet so many of my clients that struggle with perfectionism, inadequacy, low self esteem, and shame have many PTSD symptoms that they brush aside. Identifying and resolving past trauma, can greatly reduce our suffering.
When a trauma occurs, our brain tries to cope by getting our needs met in ways that others don’t understand. Those behaviors are often grouped together and labeled as a personality disorder. I work to take the shame and invalidation from these disorders and help clients learn coping skills and resolve trauma so that our brains don’t need to work so aggressively to get our needs met.
I looooove some DBT. 💗 I know every therapist has been teaching coping skills since forever, and DBT has so many science-backed skills that there really is something for everyone. And it has a trauma informed approach, which is so necessary. Got tough behaviors that are hard to change? DBT can help. Bullying yourself? Get some DBT. Big feelings that are hard to control? Yep, DBT! I’ve been using this since 2015, and it has been incredibly helpful, both for myself and my clients. 💛💛💛
I'm a certified EMDR Therapist. I have seen EMDR work wonders for my clients (and myself!). Here's the quick and dirty: it works SO MUCH FASTER than other treatments, YOU CHOOSE how to prioritize treatment based on what's comfortable for you - whether that's the biggest trauma you've experienced, something that's causing you pain in your daily life right now, or the things we say in our head as our meanest selves, and YOU GO AT YOUR OWN PACE and comfort level.