Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent communication was developed out of a belief that our culture has taught us to think and speak in ways that can actually perpetuate conflict, internal pain and even violence. Nonviolent communication is founded on the tenet that all human beings have the capacity for compassion and only resort to violence or behavior that harms themselves and others when they do not recognize more effective strategies for meeting needs. It is typically taught, often in a therapy session, as a process of interpersonal communication designed to improve compassion for, and connection to, others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s nonviolent communication specialists today. 

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I have been working with Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for nearly 20 years. This form of communication supports skills building in emotional awareness, needs awareness, conflict resolution, and more. I am happy to offer support in learning and using NVC, or in simply hearing me offer examples of NVC to the client.

— Caera Gramore, Mental Health Practitioner in Arlington, WA

When working on creating better relationships with partners, colleagues, or family members, non-violent communication is essential. I'll introduce the basics, you'll practice, and begin implementing it in your own life.

— Molly McCracken, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Owings Mills, MD
 

Compassion is key to our work together, as is developing an awareness of your worth and your values. In a relationship with others, NVC helps us recognize that we are all autonomous beings and effective, clear communication is key to getting our needs met. It removes the "good" and "bad" labels we may impose on things and instead encourages us to be curious and nonjudgmental. It's quite liberating!

— Shelby Dwyer, Counselor in Cambridge, MA
 

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a wonderful technique for helping you connect to your own feelings and needs, and figure out ways to work through conflicts with others in a clear and compassionate way.

— Deborah Ranker, Clinical Social Worker in Portland, OR

Communication styles and patterns are learned. We can learn new ones and unlearn what doesn't serve us. If the goal is to achieve harmony and progressive and positive outcomes as a result of communication, learning how to do this so our approach is effective, has integrity, and the goals are clearly defined. It's incredibly frustrating to attempt to communicate with someone important in our lives only to be met with defensiveness and a lack of receptivity. Let's improve the outcomes together.

— Lara Falberg, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Columbus, OH
 

NVC is the practice of making an observation, expressing a feeling, then a need and making a request. Using NVC takes the charge out of communication which can be so painful and threatening to the survival of the relationship. It allows people to take ownership of their experience and not direct their feelings towards others, which usually only escalates conflict and leads to breakdowns. Utilizing NVC makes hearing one another much easier by staying calm & cool.

— Annette Barnett, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Cruz, CA

It can be difficult to explore our inner world when we lack the words and structure necessary to communicate them effectively. For years I have incorporated Nonviolent Communication perspectives of human feelings and needs in order to empower clients to request from others what they need out of their relationships. I developed my approach through training with practitioners and Nonviolent Communication trainers as a part of my graduate studies.

— Dylan Keenberg, Clinical Psychologist in Bellingham, WA
 

When I see women or couples in abusive situations, many times things have escalated at home. When people are angry, or feel they are being verbally attacked, they may start to lose control and lash out at the other person. The abuser, who expects to be the one in charge, may lose his temper, go from verbally attacking to physically harming the other person. This may occur by his or her throwing objects, or hitting them. My expertise is in helping people communicate without resorting

— Dr. Patricia Field, Clinical Psychologist in Los Angeles, CA

Nonviolent communication helps to communicate from a place of compassion and empathy to share thoughts, feelings, basic human needs, self-responsibility, and the desire for connection.

— Monique Jessie, Mental Health Counselor in Portland, OR
 

I enjoy teaching Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to families and individuals as a framework for difficult, emotion-heavy conversations. I find that it reduces conflicts and makes it easier to discuss tough topics.

— Josh Powell, Licensed Clinical Social Worker - Candidate

I was introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) about 17 years ago and have been drawing upon the practice ever since. NVC is a way of viewing one's self, one another and the world. At the center of NVC is empathy--truly listening with an open heart to ourselves and to those we want to connect with. I am inspired by NVC's stance that humans share common needs. In my work, I listen for those needs; to be understood, to have choice, or be considered to name a few.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in East Bay, CA
 

I was introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) about 17 years ago and have been drawing upon the practice ever since. NVC is a way of perceiving one's self, one another and the world with empathy--truly listening with an open heart. I am inspired by NVC's stance that humans share common needs. In my work, I listen for those needs; to be understood, to have choice, or be considered, to name a few. Learning to connect with our feelings and needs creates space for healing.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in East Bay, CA