Nonviolent Communication

I have found nonviolent communication to be extremely helpful in clearer and more accurate expression. Additionally, the use of nonviolent communication bypasses many of the standard miscommunications and perceived offenses of standard conversation, facilitating information flow without argument. Interestingly, the use of nonviolent communication may also make the speaker appear more charismatic and persuasive.

NVC is the practice of making an observation, expressing a feeling, then a need and making a request. Using NVC takes the charge out of communication which can be so painful and threatening to the survival of the relationship. It allows people to take ownership of their experience and not direct their feelings towards others, which usually only escalates conflict and leads to breakdowns. Utilizing NVC makes hearing one another much easier by staying calm & cool.

Most of us have been taught to communicate passively, critically, or manipulatively––and that’s so normal to us that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. That is, until we find ourselves feeling powerless to get our needs met, repeating the same conflicts with those we love, and feeling alone or trapped in our relationships. The nonviolent framework provides a systematic approach by teaching us to be present to our own needs, feelings, and requests without blaming others or internalizing shame.

Therapy is all about relationships and communication: relationships with ourselves, with our partners, attachment figures, with our communities, with our environments. And communication is the primary way we interact with all of those entities. Nonviolent communication is a specific and mindful way of speaking that requires emotional identification and vocabulary, self regulation, attunement, and trust. Ultimately, it's a method of communication that will improve all of your relationships.

Do you want to resolve conflicts - with yourself and others - in ways that honor your deepest needs? Do you want solutions that work for you and also meet the needs of others? Nonviolent Communication is about how to make that happen. It's about creating the kind of relationship that helps to meet, or at least honor, everyone's needs. It doesn't always get us what we want, but it greatly increases the chances of truly satisfying our underlying needs.

NVC is the practice of making an observation, expressing a feeling, then a need and making a request. Using NVC takes the charge out of communication which can be so painful and threatening to the survival of the relationship. It allows people to take ownership of their experience and not direct their feelings towards others, which usually only escalates conflict and leads to breakdowns. Utilizing NVC makes hearing one another much easier by staying calm & cool.

Non-violent Communication is a fundamental skill that everyone should have, and yet in our fast-paced, go-get-em society so few of us do. I have specialized training (and practice! ), enabling me to help you learn how to communicate "with" people instead of "at" them, be better understood and get more of what you want by learning how to enlist help from those you are speaking with, rather than alienating them.

I was introduced to Nonviolent Communication as an undergraduate student. I have been utilizing its principles and literature for over 15 years.

NVC teaches us to understand and know what our needs and feelings are. I come back again and again to this practice with clients, no matter the circumstance.

I enjoy teaching Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to families and individuals as a framework for difficult, emotion-heavy conversations. I find that it reduces conflicts and makes it easier to discuss tough topics.

If you have struggles communicating with your family, friends, spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, boss, teacher, neighbor, etc. you will benefit from learning nonviolent communication (NVC). NVC is being used around the world to aid in communication and to decrease conflict. NVC is composed of four parts: observations, feelings, needs, requests. When you focus on your own experience, the receiver hears the message without blame or criticism (and are less likely to become defensive).

With (NVC) we learn to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. Through its emphasis on deep listening—to ourselves as well as others—NVC helps us discover the depth of our own compassion. This language reveals the awareness that all human beings are only trying to honor universal values and needs. NVC can be seen as both a spiritual practice that helps us see our common humanity, using our power in a way that honors everyone's needs, and and a concrete set of life-serving skills.

Nonviolent Communication is all about feelings and needs. I teach clients how to connect with their feelings and needs, so they can get a better understanding of themselves and their loved ones, and communicate in an open-hearted way, where curiosity replaces judgment. This type of heart-centered communication stops the relational tug of war and increases intimacy with those you love while honoring emotions and needs.

NVC focuses on developing empathic listening and communication skills and building emotional intelligence and conflict resolution skills. In couples counseling, NVC can help partners learn to communicate more effectively, express their needs and emotions in a non-judgmental way, and create a deeper sense of connection and understanding. Couples can develop greater empathy, compassion, and trust in their relationships by learning to listen and speak from the heart.

Specific training in this area.