Attachment

Attachment issues, or attachment disorders, are broad terms used to describe issues resulting from a failure to form normal attachments to primary caregivers in early childhood. Most children with attachment disorders have had severe problems or difficulties in their early relationships (they may have been neglected or physically or emotionally abused). One specific attachment disorder is Reactive attachment disorder (RAD), a condition typically found in children who have received grossly negligent care and do not form a healthy emotional attachment with their primary caregivers (usually their mothers) before age 5. A mental health professional who specializes in attachment issues can be a great help to both the child and the caregiver affected. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today!

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I have completed specialized coursework in attachment theory and have treated clients with attachment or relationship problems and distress.

— Chanel Brown, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate

Attachment issues concern “something that happened” or “something that failed to happen” between child and parent. Children with attachment wounds can become adults who struggle to relate in healthy ways to themselves and to others. They scrabble for safety in relationships and behave in ways that reflect this. In therapy clients with attachment wounds develop more wholesome relationships with parts of them that were ridiculed and belittled or other parts that didn't get their needs met.

— Allison Grimes, Counselor in Cambridge, MA
 

Our origin story - the way we were raised, or not raised - really shapes how we connect into the world. Attachment styles develop way back in early childhood and give us a truthful glimpse into how we hold relationships as adults. Do you need to be reassured a lot? Do you tend to walk out when things get tense? There are ways to approach attachment styles through CBT and mindfulness that I would love to explore with you.

— Gin Eborn, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Washington, VA

When addressing issues around attachment its important for clients to explore their attachment style as a child and how they were or weren't able to get certain needs met growing up. Once we have explored their past dynamics. I then psychoeducate my clients on the ways these connections lead to the attachment styles we display as adults. Once this has taken place then we can work on utilizing cognitive tools to reframe their neural networks to build healthier relationships moving forward.

— Jaleesa Black, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA
 

We all need at least one secure attachment in order to feel safe. Attachment based therapy addresses the ways in which we attach to a significant person in our lives, often time in unhelpful ways. Creating a secure attachment helps us to navigate life in independently and interdependently, allowing us to experience joy without anxiety or fear.

— Megan Moeller, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Puyallup, WA

Part of what makes us human is relating to others, but doing that doesn't come as "naturally" as it may seem it should. Our survival and overall outlook on life are dependant on the kind and quality of relationships. I use an Emotionally Focused lens and strategies, along with some somatic work with EMDR to help re-process past hurts and work towards healthy dependency.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist
 

We all need at least one secure attachment in order to feel safe. Attachment based therapy addresses the ways in which we attach to a significant person in our lives. Often times, this attachment can be in unhelpful ways. Creating a secure attachment helps us to navigate life in independently and interdependently, allowing us to experience joy without anxiety or fear.

— Megan Moeller, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Puyallup, WA

I have completed 2 years psychoanalytic psychotherapy training with at the Minnesota Psychoanalytic Society and Institute. It's primary focus is on relationships and how they affect who we are or believe we are in the world, with others and with ourselves. I am passionate about relational work and how "symptoms" crop up as a way to help us adjust to both old and new experiences.

— Patricia Holdahl, Psychotherapist in Edina, MN
 

Therapy can be a powerful tool for every age and every stage of life, and our initial familial relationships serve as a foundation for all subsequent relationships that are formed throughout our lifetimes. An integral part of my process as a psychotherapist is to give individuals the tools needed to manage their emotions and communicate effectively with care and compassion, especially through life’s biggest challenges by way of right brain healing and attunement.

— Ariel VanDoren, Licensed Professional Counselor in Washington, DC

The quality of your first attachments are important and lay foundation to all relationships that come afterward. I work with individuals that notice that they want stronger or more intimate friendships and relationships with those around them. You can work through your attachment wounds and gain more secure attachments with those around you.

— Maria Trimble, Licensed Professional Counselor in , WI
 

I have additional training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy which utilizes and attachment perspective to help heal the bonds between you and your partner(s).

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

I'm immensely passionate about attachment theory, attachment parenting, attachment styles and helping clients resolve attachment wounds/trauma. Being social creatures, it makes sense that our relationships can "make or break us." Unfortunately, many of us carry wounds from broken attachments and as a result make choices that go against our own best interest or hurt others. When we understand attachment and how it has impacted us, we can know ourselves deeper and heal.

— Jennifer Dolphin, Licensed Professional Counselor in Anchorage, AK
 

I've worked for the past 8 years with clients on Attachment issues and how it affects their relationships. I've also done extensive therapy for my own attachment issues and taken several CEUs on attachment work.

— Anne Crawford, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

I have completed foundational certification in Theraplay - a parent-child attachment enhancing play therapy. The program also builds parenting confidence and positive parenting techniques. Theraplay has been used with children on the Autistic Spectrum and who have been fostered or adopted for many years. The treatment program is typically 18-25 weekly parent-child sessions and periodic parent-only sessions. Please enquire if you would like more information and I would be glad to email a handout.

— Robyn Holmes-Cannon, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA
 

Therapy can be a powerful tool for every age and every stage of life, and our initial familial relationships serve as a foundation for all subsequent relationships that are formed throughout our lifetimes. An integral part of my process as a psychotherapist is to give individuals the tools needed to manage their emotions and communicate effectively with care and compassion, especially through life’s biggest challenges by way of right brain healing and attunement.

— Ariel VanDoren, Licensed Professional Counselor in Washington, DC

I believe that attachment forms the basis of how we relate to each other as well as how we relate to ourselves. I have taken several trainings on attachment theory and its utilization in practice. Additionally, I work with a supervisor who comes from an attachment-based lens.

— Kiley Ellefson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern
 

I have completed 2 years of psychoanalytic psychotherapy training with the Minnesota Psychoanalytic Society and Institute. My primary focus is on relationships and how they affect who we are, or who we believe we are in the world, with others and with ourselves. I am passionate about relational work and how "symptoms" crop up as a way to help us adjust to both old and new experiences.

— Patricia Holdahl, Psychotherapist in Edina, MN

I have worked with a lot of parents who have adopted children and this issue comes up frequently. I also work with a lot of parents who feel “stuck” with trying to parent their children (both adopted and biological) who want to deepen their connection to their children while also maintaining boundaries! This is some of my favorite stuff to work on in therapy!

— Sarah Bonilla, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redlands, CA
 

How safe we felt with our original caregivers directly determines the kinds of attachments we have in our adult relationships. Being able to identify your attachment style (i.e. anxious, disorganized, secure) is a direct blueprint to navigating vulnerabilities in current relationships.

— Julie Morgavi, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Tarzana, CA

Therapy can be a powerful tool for every age and every stage of life, and our initial familial relationships serve as a foundation for all subsequent relationships that are formed throughout our lifetimes. An integral part of my process as a psychotherapist is to give individuals the tools needed to manage their emotions and communicate effectively with care and compassion, especially through life’s biggest challenges by way of right brain healing and attunement.

— Ariel VanDoren, Licensed Professional Counselor in Washington, DC