Attachment

Attachment based therapy helps identify how past relationships have shaped the way you feel about yourself and how you behave in relationships. If you are noticing patterns in your relationships, your attachment style may be playing a role. In attachment based therapy you will learn about your attachment style, behaviors and relationship styles that are typically associated with your attachment style, and how to make changes so you aren't stuck with you past relationship baggage!

With extensive training in psychodynamic and attachment theories, I focus on how early relational patterns shape current relationship health, especially for BIPOC and LGBTQ+ individuals. Psychodynamically, I explore how unconscious processes and early life experiences influence current relationship dynamics, often reflecting internalized societal messages and early relational dynamics.

I offer Experiential Attachment Psychotherapy which is a dynamic, present-moment mindfulness process that supports you in understanding the way you orient toward yourself, others, and the world and offers us the opportunity to heal developmental or transitional attachment wounds and trauma in present-moment processing in our relationship. The goals of this process is you feeling a sense of I AM, I WANT, and I CAN rooted securely within yourself and a solid and strong sense internal goodness.

I work from an attachment lens.

Our most early relationships shape us. How our needs are met, or not, leave an imprint on our sense of self on a deep, non-verbal level. Our attachment styles are formed by 5 years of age, and we develop core survival strategies to get our needs met in relationships, at the expense of oneself. Therapy can help you heal your relationship with yourself, and reimagine how you'd like to be in relationship with those most important to you.

Early formative attachment relationships set the stage for relationships going forward. By more thoroughly understanding yourself in relationships, we can begin to find more fulfilling ways of showing up in our relationships.

Our attachment styles with original caretakers inform the way we relate to others as adults, including partners, friends, and even coworkers. I help patients untangle their feelings and experiences located in the past from their present relationship patterns, decide what’s still needed and useful, and what they can let go of.

Attachment Theory examines the emotional and social development of a person based on their early childhood relationships with caregivers. I utilize this theory in session to give us an understanding of why we may react to certain people/situations/relationships in different ways. While we may not start out with a secure attachment style, we can learn our reactions to change the dynamics with others and can create new, trusting relationships to build secure attachment later in life.

Attachment styles are formed early in life by our caregivers and then greatly influenced by relationships we have throughout our lives. I believe that attachment styles are as unique as fingerprint. By supporting individuals and couples better understand their attachment styles

As an attachment based therapist, I view the therapy process through a relational lens. I explore how your responses to stress and conflict are influenced by your unmet attachment needs. I utilize attachment theory to help you highlight your vulnerable emotions and relational needs, to guide you in the development of self-advocacy skills.

A lot of my work with clients has been related to navigating what happens in their connections with others, where those patterns come from, and how they can achieve a sense of security and safety within those connections.

Our early formative experiences create a blueprint for our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors later in life. Experiencing rejection, neglect, trauma, or other relational injuries impacts our sense of safety and distorts our core beliefs about belonging, worth, and lovability. This, in turn, hinders our ability to show up authentically and experience genuine connection with others, ultimately creating a repetitive cycle of painful disconnection. Therapy can help break the cycle.

Our early experiences with primary caregivers can set the stage for how one approaches relationships throughout life. I work with clients to establish a trusting client-counselor relationship that can be used as a blueprint for strengthening other relationships and can serve as a foundation for vibrant mental health.

For most people, repetitive, problematic patterns in relationships usually stem from attachment adaptations that were learned in childhood. Because we live with these patterns (sometimes others', sometimes our own) for so long, we often can't see the forest for the trees, so to speak. If you would like to gain more insight into why the same problems keep happening in your relationships, and learn how to change these patterns, please reach out.

Issues of attachment show up when you find yourself frustrated in key relationships - whether with your partner, your own parents, children, or close friends. Identifying why your instinctive patterns aren't working for you, and taking steps to improve them, requires awareness of these factors and knowledge of where to go from there. That's where I come in!

Healthy Attachment to self, family, community, and the world can all be in need of support and counseling. I am able to support you in your work to build healthy attachment rooted in your unique wholeness

Our attachment style begins to develop when we are very young children. Ideally, it is a secure attachment but often due to a variety of reasons it is insecure or even avoidant. This impacts adult relationships in ways that people are often unaware. If you need help understanding yourself in your personal relationships, Jeannette York can help.

Our attachment styles develop when we are young. These patterns affect the way we relate in relationships during both easy and challenging moments. Experiential and practical exercises will help you know your own attachment style and find tools to support you to lean into relationships that are healthy as well as learn to ask for what you need and set appropriate boundaries. The capacity to lean into someone, to trust someone and let them trust you, is a great gift.

Training in Trauma Centered approaches, Attachment Theory, and experience in attachment-focused EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) guide me to help you understand the deep roots where negative thoughts about ourselves and how it impacts our personal relationships come from. Together we will work through understanding your brain (or your child’s), the root of attachment wounds, and finding coping strategies that will bring connection, communication, and understanding.