Attachment

Our relationship with those closest to us affects how we form our own identities, and impacts how we interact with everyone else around us. Attachment and trauma experiences go hand in hand, and play a huge role in how and why one experiences mental health concerns, including anxiety, depression, low self-worth, anger, dissociation, and so much more. I aim to help you recognize how you identify attachment concerns and how they affect you, and work through them in sessions.

Attachment style can impact how we relate to others and define our interpersonal relationships. Working from attachment theory, I help clients understand their own attachment style, how it developed, and how they can earn secure attachment within themselves to improve relationships and relational satisfaction.

Attachment styles impact our relationship with ourselves, others, and the world. Supporting awareness and integration, knowing ourselves can support us being able to choose how we want to connect in a way that honors our identities and creates safety.

Completed attachment based training, including EFIT and EFT. I believe that most of the symptoms bringing people to therapy are the result of nervous system dysregulation secondary to childhood attachment traumas. Caregivers' inability to attune to a child, lack of modeling of appropriate emotion management, and child's efforts to adjust to their flawed environments, etc. all lead to long term difficulties with navigating interpersonal relationships and sense of internal turmoil.

We all have attachments and all have attachment wounds. It is my experience that these inform and impact how we show up for ourselves and within relationships with friends, romantic partners, and family. I use my training and experience to bring these attachment patterns and wounds into the therapy experience to help clients increase awareness and understanding, as well as working towards healing these patterns and wounds.

Families are doing their best....but so often, their best is still pretty damn harmful. I am trained to help you get to the root of your attachment injuries and heal them for good. Once you start to re-wire your internal attachment system and relearn your own inherent worth and value, you will see major changes in the way you relate to yourself and to the people in your life.

My practice is based in attachment science and theory. I started my career with a focus on attachment-based modalities and have continued to receive specialized, on-going training rooted in attachment theory. I am heavily influenced, personally and professionally, by the work of Jude Cassidy, Phillip Shaver, Sue Johnson, Kent Hoffman & the Circle of Security founders, Dan Siegel, Mary Ainsworth, and John Bowlby.

When it comes to couples counseling, attachment-focused therapy is a game-changer. It recognizes that our emotions are at the heart of our relationships, and that by better understanding and managing our emotions, we can create deeper, more meaningful connections with our partners. Couples learn to identify and express their emotional needs and to learn how to respond to their partner's emotional states in a supportive and caring way.

I have specialty training in how trauma suffered during childhood impacts ongoing attachment styles. This is my primary area of expertise.

I am Certified in Attachment Focused EMDR. I empower clients to develop a secure attachment style so they can enjoy healthy relationships. I work with clients that have experienced family of origin or relational trauma that created anxious attachment or avoidant attachment styles that now keep them from having the healthy relationships they want. I utilize inner child experiential techniques, CBT and other modalities to assist clients in developing their securely attached functional adult.

I support client in learning about their attachment styles and how it formed in childhood. This often looks like taking an attachment style quiz and looking at your relationships to see how your attachment style effects your relationships. We will also work on healing towards a more secure attachment style.

Attachment to our caregivers, which begins to develop in our very first months of life, continues to shape who we become and how we make decisions for the rest of our lives. If our needs weren't properly met in our first experiences in childhood, it often leads to difficulty feeling emotionally safe in future relationships to friends, family, loved ones, peers, and even strangers. Our attachment styles can even influence our values, purpose in life, and major life decisions.

I work with clients struggling with insecure attachment and codependency affecting their relationships with friends, family, and romantic partners.

Attachment styles are not developed randomly. They are formed from all the "good" and "bad" encounters with our primary caretakers/family, which construct a mental and physical story of how we view and interact in our romantic, familial, and social relationships. These experiences can shape and distort our authentic self and influence our connections to others and the world. Gaining insight into your own attachment styles can be transformative in making shifts in creating deeper relationships.

I have additional training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy which utilizes and attachment perspective to help heal the bonds between you and your partner(s).

Attachment can be a helpful roadmap to explore and integrate into understanding yourself, others and your relationship dynamics. I have taken many trainings on how to best understand each individual person and their relational strengths as well as identify challenges in creating healthy, sustainable connection with close loved ones. I welcome people of all identities to explore how they best connect and find insight into what they need to feel more secure in their relationships.

Do you have difficulty being vulnerable in your relationships? Do you find yourself unable to reach the level of closeness or emotional depth you desire? I would love to help. I deeply enjoy helping people connect with others in their lives in ways they never thought possible. This usually entails giving yourself a chance to explore what has been getting in the way, which often means taking a compassionate look at the first relationships you developed in your life.

I've worked for the past 8 years with clients on Attachment issues and how it affects their relationships. I've also done extensive therapy for my own attachment issues and taken several CEUs on attachment work.