Codependency

Codependency, sometimes referred to as “relationship addiction," describes sacrificing one’s personal needs to try to meet the needs of others. Although it is often associated with romantic relationships, codependency can be experienced in all types of close relationships, including with family and friendships.  Someone who is codependent has an extreme focus outside themselves. Their thoughts and actions revolve around other people, such as a spouse or relative or they build their identity on helping or “saving” other people. Codependents typically experience feelings of low self-esteem, anxiety and insecurity in these relationships and may also experience perfectionism and control issues. Codependent symptoms can worsen if left untreated. If you are worried that you might be codependent, reach out to one of TherapyDen’s codependency experts today!

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Conflict most frequently surfaces when one partner begins to define their identity outside of the relationship which is a necessary and healthy transition. However, this can feel threatening when codependency is a prominent element in the relationship. I work with couples to develop strategies to increase their sense of safety within the relationship and empower them to further develop their autonomy and sense of self within the relationship.

— Elizabeth Bryant, Licensed Professional Counselor in Atlanta, GA

I support individuals struggling with codependent behavior and relationship patterns that are no longer serving them.

— NABILAH KHAN, Licensed Clinical Social Worker
 

It's hard to fault someone for being compassionate, caring or laughing. Too often, other spray or take advantage our kindness and giving spirit. Inadvertently would give away our power and then find life sometimes hopeless. Learn how to regain your sense of self respect, security and Independence. I utilize CBT therapy for when

— Barbara Beck, Marriage & Family Therapist in Leawood, KS

I have extensive experience treating codependency. A large amount of people find themselves struggling with feelings of responsibility for the needs, wants and feelings, of the people around them. These same people struggle with guilt when they see to their own needs, attempt to set boundaries, or try to put themselves first. I work to help a client see themselves as a priority and let go of carrying the world on their shoulders.

— Taryn Sinclaire, Clinical Social Worker in Greenville, MI
 

NARM therapy can be helpful in understanding and resolving what drives the patterns we call "codependency." Often, we mean well when we support others, but this can get in the way of healthy relationships with ourselves and others.

— Rikki Grace, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Columbus, OH

Codependency most often comes from growing up in a dysfunctional environment with underlying trauma at the core. The manifested symptoms are vast and can include; the belief that you need someone or something outside of yourself to feel whole, being so absorbed by other's problems (addiction, illness, etc) that you don't take care of yourself, having the need to control people and events because you feel out of control inside or being unable to set boundaries or say no.

— Kim Tayler, Licensed Professional Counselor in , TX
 

Codependency & Boundaries I help individuals break free from patterns of codependency and develop healthier relationships. If you find yourself overextending, struggling with boundaries, or feeling responsible for others’ emotions, therapy can provide the tools to create balance. My approach is compassionate yet direct, incorporating evidence-based strategies like DBT, narrative therapy, and somatic awareness to help you build self-worth, assertiveness, and healthier relational dynamics

— Stephanie Mohtashemi,, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Tracy, CA

Codependency is often tied to the relationships that we have with addicts in our lives. Codependency is often defined as behaviors that enable behaviors we wish to see the end of but it often comes from a place of love, care and concern for others. The problem is that love, care and concern can result in giving too much to others. My goal in helping clients who struggle with codependency is to help them establish healthy boundaries so they can be supportive without overwhelming themselves.

— Aaron Bachler, Licensed Professional Counselor in Tempe, AZ
 

I am trained in and utilize Pia Mellody's "Developmental Immaturity" model of codependency treatment, known as Post Induction Therapy. https://www.themeadows.com/workshops/post-induction-therapy-pit/

— Aly Dearborn, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Codependence is not the opposite of independence. It is the chronic neglect of oneself for the sake of others. People pleasing, difficulty with saying no, feeling responsible for other's emotions, and difficulty with asking for help are all examples of codependent tendencies. Overtime, these tendencies can build towards resentment and create a negative impact on our wellbeing.

— Celeste Tomasulo, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA
 

Perhaps you seek a “coming home” to yourself in a way that feels safe & meaningful. Perhaps you long to understand yourself in relationships or in the world around you where you consider your needs as much as those around you. Being a people pleaser can lead to compassion fatigue and burnout. I am honored to walk alongside you as we explore and process all that you hold within you. You are allowed to let go, breathe and prioritize your wellbeing.

— Sabrina Samedi, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in AGOURA HILLS, CA

Co-dependency is so absolutely destructive in our lives. In my 20+ years of my own co-dependency recovery and helping others navigate through co-dependence, I am confident that understanding the roots of your codependency, how it impacts your relationships on a daily basis and finding recovery, might be the most impactful work that you can do as an adult.

— Kellie Rice, Psychologist in Chicago, IL
 

I specialize in helping clients break free from codependency, especially in the context of emotionally abusive relationships. Codependency often manifests in people-pleasing behaviors, a constant need for external validation, and difficulty setting boundaries. Many struggle with emotional regulation and feel unable to manage their feelings without the support or approval of others. Together, we’ll work on building self-worth, healthy boundaries, and emotional independence for lasting change.

— Tracey Knows, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Tysons Corner, VA

Are you drawn into the same kinds of patterns in relationships over and over? Do you give yourself away, with little left over for you? Do you find your relationships exciting at first, and then unfulfilling eventually? Do you find yourself in relationships with people who are abusive, narcissistic, addictive, or manipulative in some way? Do you like to have control, but wish someone else could take over for you? Do you feel hungry for love, but unsure how to get it? If so, please reach out.

— Katy Shaffer, Psychologist in Baltimore, MD
 

I specialize in work around codependency and family of origin issues. I am familiar with more specific 12-step recovery programs around codependency, including Al-Anon, Coda, SLAA, and Adult Children of Alcoholics.

— Heather Beller, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Seattle, WA

I help people recover from people-pleasing, perfectionism, and other ways of coping with that uneasy feeling of insecurity in relationships. I know how it feels to feel like you’re holding up the sky and that you must earn your place in someone’s life. Working with me, you’ll learn to set and keep boundaries, say no, and politely inform others how to interact with you in ways that are safe for you. You’ll grow your capacity to radically love and support yourself as you heal.

— Julia Krump, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Fort Collins, CO
 

Living with codependency can feel like you’re constantly putting others' needs above your own, leaving you drained and disconnected from your true self. But it’s possible to break free from this cycle. In our sessions, we’ll work together to establish healthy boundaries, build self-worth, and empower you to reclaim your independence. Imagine a life where your happiness isn’t tied to others' approval but comes from a place of inner strength and self-respect. I’m here to guide you on this journey.

— Ellery Wren, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Plano, TX

You find yourself stuck in a pattern of people pleasing. You're a good listener, someone others go to vent to. While that is a part of your relational strength, you're also intimidated by conflicts and exposed differences between you and your partner and friends. You put great effort into mirroring and reading the room to alleviate tension with others and within yourself. You'd love to embrace your authentic self and know that ruptures in your relationships don't have to be an ultimatum.

— Therapy On Fig, Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

I am Meadows Model and PIT trained in co-dependency and co-dependency recovery. I worked in a Meadows facility for nearly two years were I provided ongoing codependency treatment to individuals living with trauma and addiction.

— Alexandra Krass, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Sunnyvale, CA