Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Violence

Domestic, or intimate partner violence, can take many forms. It is often violence used in an effort to gain and/or maintain control. Some of the more common types of domestic violence include physical abuse (hitting, pushing, hair-pulling, forced substance use), emotional abuse (insults, blame, or other methods to diminish a person's self-esteem), psychological abuse (threats, including against family, pets, friends, or the abuser themselves, stopping a partner from attending activities, or other manipulation), sexual abuse (coerced or demeaning sex acts), and financial abuse (controlling a partner's finances or restriction of financial resources like an allowance). The emotional effects of these types of abuse can be long lasting, and may cause depression, post-traumatic stress (PTSD), insomnia, emotional distance, and more. If you or someone you know is experiencing (or has experienced) abuse, a qualified therapist can help. It is also important for children who witness or experience domestic abuse to see a professional who specializes in the age group to prevent the trauma affecting adulthood and possibly perpetuating the cycle of abuse. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s abuse specialists for support today. 

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I have used Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy successfully in working with victims of domestic violence.

— Sandra Nunez, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

There are so many consequences related to the experience of DV/IPDV. Survivors report anxiety, depression, symptoms of PTSD, low self-esteem, a fear of intimacy, significant trust issues, emotional detachment, and sleep disturbances. You may be experiencing symptoms not included on this page. You can heal from a relationship/s like this--call or email to schedule a free 15-minute consultation.

— Leta Lawhead, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Port Angeles, WA

I have been supporting the survivors of violent acts since I was an undergrad in college. Since 2007 I have been an advocate for those who most often feel voiceless. It is so important to provide a safe place for survivors to share their story, find safety and work to rebuild their life. I use a variety of tools to help you combat trauma and increase safety.

— Alison Murphey, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

DV/IPV can affect anyyone--regardless of sexuality, gender, age, religion, ability, nationality, neurodiversity. I validate clients' experiences, educate on dynamics of abuse within relationships, and work with you to remain safe, whether that means while in the relationship or not.

— Jennifer Kulka, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in , CA

I have worked directly with survivors of domestic and/or intimate partner violence since just 18 years old. I have worked in shelters, answered emergency hotlines, and specialized in trauma related to healing from violence throughout my schooling and training.

— Jacey Bishop, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I have significant experience working with survivors of domestic violence. I have received training in this area and worked for a time in a domestic violence program.

— Patricia Pardy, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Treatment for DV or IPV issues starts with education on what is abusive behavior and how to create safety. Leaving a partner is not easy & if it were, more people would. There are many variables that allow an abusive relationship to continue but therapy can help one gain perspective and get their power back. I use a non-judgmental, sensitive approach when working with these clients. We can examine the interpersonal and internal conflicts holding you back from experiencing more peace in your life

— Erica Laub, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Burnsville, MN

I have worked in the with individuals who have experienced domestic violence for over a decade. Domestic violence is a complex trauma that deserves the upmost care without judgement which is what I provide in the therapeutic space so that healing can begin.

— Mandilyn Graham, Licensed Professional Counselor in , MI

The most prevalent goal I use for my clients dealing with trauma is to help my clients develop more adequate coping strategies, find a sense of hope using cognitive therapy and then quickly begin with strategies such as relaxation training, stress reduction exercises, cognitive modulation of affect through self-talk before we begin discussing the trauma in sessions. Trauma-focused CBT helps one who has been abused to better manage distressing feelings to deal with trauma-related memories.

— Monica Pina, Licensed Professional Counselor in Brownsville, TX

I am an IPV/DV survivor. I went to support groups at a DV advocacy agency, and I loved the experience so much, that a few years later, I returned to the agency to run the groups as a volunteer. This inspired me to become a therapist, and now I counsel IPV/DV survivors and run counseling support groups. I help people understand what happened, and empower people to find their self-esteem to move forward. I wrote an educational memoir about my experience that is available on my website.

— Kate Mageau, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Seattle, WA

I have over ten (10) years of experience working with both survivors and perpetrators of domestic violence. I focus on domestic violence and intimate partner psychoeducation, self-acknowledgment and self-validation skill-building, safety planning and trauma exploration and reprocessing to help my clients understand themselves in the context of their relationships and as an individual.

— Vincent "V" Espinoza, Clinical Social Worker in Albuquerque, NM

Many survivors find that, as time goes on, the impacts of specific traumatic events begin to affect them differently. As challenging as it may feel to share your story, it is so important to find a safe place to process and cope with trauma and abuse you have survived. I am able to provide a safe place for all survivors to process, share and navigate their story. Together we will work on rebuilding your sense of self and increasing your quality of life.

— Alison Murphey, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Before choosing to become a therapist, I volunteered at a local DV agency, but always wanted to do more. I completed the 40-hour DV advocate training, provided childcare at the DV shelter, and volunteered on a DV hotline. As a therapist, I have worked in a DV agency, facilitating groups and counseling individuals and families affected by intimate partner violence. I also facilitate community outreach efforts of a DV agency as a volunteer.

— Mark Myran, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Irvine, CA

I have nearly two years of experience working with victims and survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. I come from a place of empathy and understanding to assist clients in exploring options in a nonjudgmental, person-centered manner. Issues of IPV and sexual assault are not always easily navigated and I take care and caution to ensure trauma informed practice to avoid further pain and hurt.

— Stephanie Puckett, Licensed Professional Counselor in Raleigh, NC

Research shows that both men and women can be victims of domestic violence or family violence, and both can be perpetrators as well. I have developed and published a domestic violence documentation format which also serves as an interview guide to thoroughly identify all forms of domestic or family violence. I perform domestic violence evaluations in immigration cases, and I also prepare extreme hardship evaluations in immigration cases.

— Stephen Finstein, Therapist in Dallas, TX

Whether you had a big blowup, or your relationship got destructive over time, navigating an unhealthy or abusive relationship can leave you feeling afraid and confused. With gentle compassion, I can help you gain clarity and a sense of empowerment, whether you choose to stay or leave. You can learn how to effectively respond to your partner's controlling behavior with integrity. It is possible to gain a sense of safety and identity again, and you don't have to do it alone.

— Rebecca Lomeland, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Vancouver, WA

No one deserves to be abused! Domestic Violence (DV) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) is extremely common and affects millions of people. Disrupting the pathways of development, nurturing protective environments, strengthening financial and economic supports, teaching skills to enhance safe and healthy relationships and to identify the warning signs are all goals of my practice.

— Alisa Zachery, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,