Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Violence

Domestic, or intimate partner violence, can take many forms. It is often violence used in an effort to gain and/or maintain control. Some of the more common types of domestic violence include physical abuse (hitting, pushing, hair-pulling, forced substance use), emotional abuse (insults, blame, or other methods to diminish a person's self-esteem), psychological abuse (threats, including against family, pets, friends, or the abuser themselves, stopping a partner from attending activities, or other manipulation), sexual abuse (coerced or demeaning sex acts), and financial abuse (controlling a partner's finances or restriction of financial resources like an allowance). The emotional effects of these types of abuse can be long lasting, and may cause depression, post-traumatic stress (PTSD), insomnia, emotional distance, and more. If you or someone you know is experiencing (or has experienced) abuse, a qualified therapist can help. It is also important for children who witness or experience domestic abuse to see a professional who specializes in the age group to prevent the trauma affecting adulthood and possibly perpetuating the cycle of abuse. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s abuse specialists for support today. 

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There are so many consequences related to the experience of DV/IPDV. Survivors report anxiety, depression, symptoms of PTSD, low self-esteem, a fear of intimacy, significant trust issues, emotional detachment, and sleep disturbances. You may be experiencing symptoms not included on this page. You can heal from a relationship/s like this--call or email to schedule a free 15-minute consultation.

— Leta Lawhead, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Bellingham, WA

No one deserves to be abused! Domestic Violence (DV) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) is extremely common and affects millions of people. Disrupting the pathways of development, nurturing protective environments, strengthening financial and economic supports, teaching skills to enhance safe and healthy relationships and to identify the warning signs are all goals of my practice.

— Alisa Zachery, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,

The most prevalent goal I use for my clients dealing with trauma is to help my clients develop more adequate coping strategies, find a sense of hope using cognitive therapy and then quickly begin with strategies such as relaxation training, stress reduction exercises, cognitive modulation of affect through self-talk before we begin discussing the trauma in sessions. Trauma-focused CBT helps one who has been abused to better manage distressing feelings to deal with trauma-related memories.

— Monica Pina, Licensed Professional Counselor in Brownsville, TX

I have used Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy successfully in working with victims of domestic violence.

— Sandra Nunez, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

Before choosing to become a therapist, I volunteered at a local DV agency, but always wanted to do more. I completed the 40-hour DV advocate training, provided childcare at the DV shelter, and volunteered on a DV hotline. As a therapist, I have worked in a DV agency, facilitating groups and counseling individuals and families affected by intimate partner violence. I also facilitate community outreach efforts of a DV agency as a volunteer.

— Mark Myran, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Alamitos, CA

I have extensive experience working with survivors of domestic violence.

— Sarah McCune, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Denver, CO

DV/IPV can affect anyyone--regardless of sexuality, gender, age, religion, ability, nationality, neurodiversity. I validate clients' experiences, educate on dynamics of abuse within relationships, and work with you to remain safe, whether that means while in the relationship or not.

— Jennifer Kulka, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in , CA

I specialize in working with domestic violence survivors. My focus is on creating a safe space for clients to become more aware of the strategies used by abusers and develop healthy boundaries so that they are able to create independence from their abuser, retain custody of their children when appropriate, and live a life free from fear.

— Stephanie Salas Gonzales, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Gatos, CA

You are strong and deserve to live a life of peace and safety that honors your needs. I can help you learn about relationships in a way that can transform your connection with others, and build solid and safe communication skills and boundaries.

— Rebecca Keck, Counselor in Kissimmee, FL

Leaving an abusive partner is one thing. Learning to love again and engage in healthy relationships is something else altogether. Luckily, a great trauma therapist can help you fully move past the bad experiences, heal, and be ready for healthy relationships that fill you up! I feel passionate about helping clients to see themselves as I see them--strong, capable, and deserving of love and belonging.

— Ariel Morado, Counselor in Austin, TX

Whether you had a big blowup, or your relationship got destructive over time, navigating an unhealthy or abusive relationship can leave you feeling afraid and confused. With gentle compassion, I can help you gain clarity and a sense of empowerment, whether you choose to stay or leave. You can learn how to effectively respond to your partner's controlling behavior with integrity. It is possible to gain a sense of safety and identity again, and you don't have to do it alone.

— Rebecca Lomeland, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Vancouver, WA

Throughout my education, I have focused on domestic violence and it's impact. I have dedicated a majority of my education researching and understanding the complexities of intimate partner abuse and its effects, as well as how to help victims become survivors. In order to help victims of abuse, it is important that we create a safe and nonjudgmental environment for them so they can feel comfortable in opening up about their situation.

— Katie Robey, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Los Gatos, CA

I have worked on both side of domestic violence and intimate partner violence. I have provided victim centered treatment in the forensic space, as well as trauma therapy for survivors in the private space. Domestic violence is not limited to behaviors deemed illegal by the criminal justice system, but also includes emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse.

— Suzanne Cooper, Licensed Professional Counselor in Littleton, CO

Many survivors find that, as time goes on, the impacts of specific traumatic events begin to affect them differently. As challenging as it may feel to share your story, it is so important to find a safe place to process and cope with trauma and abuse you have survived. I am able to provide a safe place for all survivors to process, share and navigate their story. Together we will work on rebuilding your sense of self and increasing your quality of life.

— Alison Murphey, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I have previous experience working in a domestic violence shelter as a crisis counselor offering individual and group therapy to address domestic violence dynamics, trauma, trauma bonding, and victimization.

— Jose Alfaro, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Lancaster, CA

Since 2014 I have been working with those impacted by varied experiences of domestic violence. Often times, this type of abuse consists of more types of behavior than we initially realize. Unfortunately, experiencing physical, emotional and psychological abuse can leave us feeling as if we cannot trust ourselves. I work with folks to re establish trust with self, and healing from these experiences.

— Caitlin Kiley, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Not sure if your relationship is healthy? I can support clients who are current in or recently out of an abusive relationship. I provide clients with support and education on dynamics of domestic violence, warning signs, safety planning, and healthy relationships. I can provide specialized support on dealing with technology abuse.

— Zoe Oderberg, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in , CA