Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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EFT therapy is the most evidence based therapy for couples

— Dr. Karen Kuemerle-Pinillos, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New Haven, CT

I have extensive training in Emotion-Focused Couple Therapy and Emotion-Focused Family Therapy.

— Amy Markley, Therapist in Chicago, IL
 

EFT is used in couples therapy, although it can also be applied to individuals. EFT focuses on exploring and meeting the attachment needs of both partners. Sessions usually involve each partner speaking to the therapist about their state, followed by the therapist instructing the partners to talk to one another about emotions and needs. EFT is effective for reducing conflict, improving communication, and increasing emotional connection.

— Anna Khandrueva, Therapist in Broomfield, CO

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has quickly become one of the most popular approaches to working with couples. It is widely recognized as one of the most effective forms of couples therapy. The focus is on understanding how our emotions, interactions, and attachments come together to form healthy and unhealthy patterns in our relationship. EFT aims to encourage the growth of new healthy patterns and move away from unhealthy patterns.

— Jacob Santhouse, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in ,
 

Emotions are connected to our most essential needs. They rapidly alert us to situations important to our well-being. They also prepare and guide us to take action towards meeting our needs. Individuals and couples benefit from therapy with the help of an empathically attuned relationship with their therapist, who seeks to help them to better identify, experience, explore, make sense of, transform, and more flexibly manage their emotions.

— Michael Bricker, Psychologist in Chicago, IL

I’m a couples therapist trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy from the ICEEFT: International Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy. Yes, we will utilize tools that can be used to help ease conflict. We will also dig a little deeper. This is called therapy for a reason.

— Alejandro Daniel Pina, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

My practice focuses more on processing emotions, in a multitude of ways, so people feel better.

— Sonia Kersevich, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Greenbelt, MD

“Although many of us think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, biologically we are feeling creatures that think:” Jill Bolte Taylor, neuroanatomist. Emotionally Focused Therapy recognizes that our emotional lives are the source of our desires, values, sense of meaning and purpose, and attachment to self, others, and the world. Its goal is to help clients effectively acknowledge, cope with, and regulate their emotions in order to enrich and transform their lives.

— Edwin Ancarana, Psychotherapist
 

My clients would say my approach of Emotionally Focused Therapy is both challenging and rewarding. This method gently and steadfastly supports each partner in uncovering and sharing underlying feelings, and having the experience witnessed and received by the other partner. Often these are emotions that fuel anger, discontent, arguments and physical distancing that is so painful for couples. Giving them space helps to shift things, and points to tools on sustaining a new closeness.

— Robin K. Schnitzler, Marriage & Family Therapist in Middleton, WI
 

After training in Emotionally Focused Therapy in graduate school, I completed the formal EFT Externship from the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

— Annie Alesandrini, Psychotherapist

I have completed many EFT-specific trainings throughout my career and currently still attend EFT supervision to hone my skills and stay up-to-date on the latest methods or best practices.

— Kaleb Burningham, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
 

Graduate training in EFT through university, as well as additional CEU certificates and workshops in EFT and treating couples.

— Alyssa Doberstein, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC

I believe that connection and emotional safety are the keys to happiness in relationships. But unfortunately, we tend to become stuck in negative patterns that reinforce disconnection. What we bring to the relationship is formed through our experiences with past relationships and our histories. I help clients to become aware of these patterns and change them. Through this, we can have new healthy interactions and experience more vulnerable communication and connections.

— Kelsey Riddle, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Scottsdale, AZ
 

I have completed the first step in becoming a certified EFT therapist, and will be completing the second step this Spring. I help people understand and connect with their emotions on a deep level by exploring their emotional inner world.

— Meredith Bacon, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Vancouver, WA

I have received advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and am currently working towards the designation of a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist.

— Jason Powell, Marriage & Family Therapist in Boca Raton, FL
 

When I began using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) it was because my supervisor at the time suggested it. I was skeptical, especially given that I was working with some very "passionate" couples. To take them from anger into calm, vulnerable communication seemed unlikely. But I was proven wrong again and again. EFT just works. And I'm happy to say that the research agrees.

— Jeremy Scataglini, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Phoenix, AZ