Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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I have received advanced formal training in EFT for Couples, and it is a topic I enjoy learning even more about.

— Dave Payne, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Burlington, KY

I have attended externship training and use this technique along with Gestalt exclusively for couples therapy. When a couples situation does not call for the use of either modality, I use a systemic approach, which is the basis of Marriage & Family Therapy.

— Anna Schäfer Edwards, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Cooper City, FL

I am currently being trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with anticipated completion in spring of 2021. EFT attunes to our own emotions and emotional regulation as well as how they interact with those of our partner(s). I primarily use EFT with relationships (monogamous couples as well as polyamorous/open relationships), though the benefits of my training can also be utilized with individuals.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR

Using an integrated EFT approach I help couples and individuals identify their primary emotions, work through maladaptive responses, and develop empathy and compassion for themselves and others.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

“Although many of us think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, biologically we are feeling creatures that think:” Jill Bolte Taylor, neuroanatomist. Emotionally Focused Therapy recognizes that our emotional lives are the source of our desires, values, and sense of meaning and purpose. It's goal is to help clients effectively cope with, regulate, and transform their emotions. It is a core and foundational approach for my work with sexuality, trauma, relationships, and addiction.

— Edwin Ancarana, Psychotherapist

When couples come to me after the discovery of an affair, the emotional bond between them appears broken. I help them to pick up the pieces by exploring the unmet attachment needs they are each dealing with. Emotion is the music of the dance of love. Change the music; change the dance.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX

I was trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Graduate school and have been using it for the past 3.5 yrs. I find it to be very effective in helping clients easily recognize their patterns of behavior that lead them into the cycle of negativity and eventual despair for the relationship. This therapy allows couples to practice restructuring their "dance" moves or cycle both in and out of session eventually each partner can sooth and feel soothed by the other creating a secure attachment

— Alicia Bradshaw, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chattanooga, TN

Mind mapping. It is a skill that I use in almost every session and helps my clients understand their historical emotions and figure out what they want to do with their emotions in the future. This is only one skill that I infuse into sessions to help give emotions the primary focus.

— Matt Coffman, Licensed Professional Counselor

EFT is one of the only models used to help couples heal with evidence based research to back it up. https://iceeft.com/eft-research-2/ I have completed both an intensive externship and core skills in this model specifically.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is used to help couples identify their negative interactional patterns, express their emotions fully, and reconnect with one another through therapeutic coaching. Creating a safe environment allows clients to feel open to express themselves and change their interactional patterns.

— Kathleen Smith, Marriage & Family Therapist

I have completed the EFT Externship and have used EFT in my practice for many years as well as taken other EFT training at conferences.

— Sheila Addison, Counselor in Oakland, CA

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you gain insight into your feelings to help deepen relationships, improve decision making, expand self knowledge and emotional awareness.

— Alexandra (Sasha) Goodman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake, OH

Connecting to and understanding your emotions and utilizing your emotions to meet your needs and create positive shifts in the way you relate to yourself, to important people in your life, and in the way you interact with the world.

— Jerry Ochoa, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Turlock, CA

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a widely used method primarily for couple therapy, but can be used on an individual approach. To me, this is the approach of choice. EFT is about re-building that emotional connection with your partner. Getting past the surface level problems and diving into the sub-layers where most conflict comes from. Do you feel alone and out of touch with your partner? Are you holding on to past issues because they are unresolved? If you answered yes, contact me today!

— Heather Nemeth, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Western Springs, IL

Do you find you and your partner(s) are getting stuck in the same argument over and over? You know you both care for each other but neither of you feel heard and seen. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I can help you get in touch with your deeper emotions, address your relational conflict cycle, and build safe & emotionally connected relationships.

— Taylor Kravitz, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Portland, OR