Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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EFT is one of the only models used to help couples heal with evidence based research to back it up. https://iceeft.com/eft-research-2/ I have completed both an intensive externship and core skills in this model specifically.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

Emotionally focused therapy is particularly useful when I work with couples. This model is great at highlighting the intent of each person, uncovering foundational beliefs that impact perceptions, and creating meaningful new experiences between partners. If you have tried couples therapy previously and not experienced relief, this modality can be effective in creating a platform for each person to feel heard and understood.

— Tera Buerkle, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Lexington, KY

IFS views the mind as being made up of many different minds or sub personalities, called “parts”. Many of my clients will learn to better understand their emotions and the parts that make up themselves; the inner-critic, the inadequate part, the people pleaser, the perfectionist, the inner child. When we gain an understanding of our parts we can begin to recognize “who” is showing up at any particular moment and making our life’s decisions. We offer our vulnerable parts attention and care.

— Lia Schaefer, Therapist in Seattle, WA

Using EFT, it is possible to understand what is happening when you and your partner are plagued by the same unproductive, dysfunctional patterns over and over again. Let me show you how to understand what is really happening and how you can solve it once and for all.

— Ashley Evans, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX

My practice focuses more on processing emotions, in a multitude of ways, so people feel better.

— Sonia Kersevich, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Greenbelt, MD

The root of all healing comes from processing emotion, and this is not an easy thing to do. As humans we avoid, resist, and repress in order to protect ourselves. Using EFT, I can build a relationship with my clients, pull the emotion out, and help make connections. Therapy is a safe space to process emotions and my clients and I work together to break down those barriers.

— Jacqueline Siempelkamp, Licensed Professional Counselor in Radnor, PA

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a humanistic approach to therapy developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment theory. It is used to address depression, anxiety and post traumatic stress. It focuses on reshaping both internal experience and external patterns of engagement with others. I have completed extensive continuing education in this modality of therapy, and implemented it with clients for over 20 years.

— Roberta Ballard, Psychologist in Marietta, GA

I will work with you to understand the emotional content that hijacks your relationship and teach you how to safely communicate with one another. You will learn about your reactive cycles, fears, and emotional triggers that create conflict in your relationship. Safe communication builds trust, intimacy, love, and partnership.

— William Hemphill, Licensed Professional Counselor in Decatur, GA

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is a type of short-term therapy that is used to improve attachment and bonding in adult relationships. This approach to couples therapy was developed by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg in the 1980s and is rooted in research on love as an attachment bond. While often used for couples, it has also been adapted for use with families. This treatment can help couples and family members form a more secure emotional bond, which can result in a stronger relationships

— Megan Moeller, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in ,

EFT helps us better understand our needs and fears. Like AEDP, IFS, and other emotion based modalities, it recognizes that one needs to feel a feeling in order to change it. The goal is to help you to better identify, experience, accept, regulate, explore, and make sense of your emotions and deepest longings.

— Lia Schaefer, Therapist in Seattle, WA

My clients would say my approach of Emotionally Focused Therapy is both challenging and rewarding. This method gently and steadfastly supports each partner in uncovering and sharing underlying feelings, and having the experience witnessed and received by the other partner. Often these are emotions that fuel anger, discontent, arguments and physical distancing that is so painful for couples. Giving them space helps to shift things, and points to tools on sustaining a new closeness.

— Robin K. Schnitzler, Marriage & Family Therapist in Middleton, WI

I have training in Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) for individuals and couples. EFT is a humanistic therapy that uses a non-pathologizing, person-centered, experiential approach that views the alliance between the therapist and client as paramount. EFT is deeply collaborative and highly transformative. Based on attachment theory, the EFT therapist helps the client explore past experiences and patterns of behaviors to understand the way they relate to themselves and others.

— Shani Leichter, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor

Connecting to and understanding your emotions and utilizing your emotions to meet your needs and create positive shifts in the way you relate to yourself, to important people in your life, and in the way you interact with the world.

— Jerry Ochoa, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Turlock, CA

Find out more about how I can help you with Emotionally Focused Therapy via my speciality webpage for couples: https://www.timholtzmantherapy.com/couples-therapy

— Tim Holtzman, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Berkeley, CA

Since finding EFT I have become committed to growing in this model. I have taken the four day externship, am currently in core skills and participate in both supervision and consultation.

— Christina Hughes, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SAN FRANCISCO, CA

“Although many of us think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, biologically we are feeling creatures that think:” Jill Bolte Taylor, neuroanatomist. Emotionally Focused Therapy recognizes that our emotional lives are the source of our desires, values, sense of meaning and purpose, and attachment to self, others, and the world. Its goal is to help clients effectively acknowledge, cope with, and regulate their emotions in order to enrich and transform their lives.

— Edwin Ancarana, Psychotherapist

EFT was founded by Sue Johnson, with a goal of helping adults create secure attachment bonds with one another. The thought is that the power of emotions can help a client (couple, individual or family) to change their responses towards each other in key interactions, changing the way they relate to one another. According to the APA, it is 75% effective. Couples who complete EFT have much lesser rate of relapse, and learn new effective ways have a health relationship.

— Roma Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX

EFT is one of the only models used to help couples heal with evidence based research to back it up. https://iceeft.com/eft-research-2/ I have completed both an intensive externship and core skills in this model specifically.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH