Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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EFT is a modality used traditionally with couples, but can be tailored to individual therapy as well. EFT allows clients to highlight and identify their negative cycles that occur when emotions become heightened and exacerbated by one another. Techniques include identifying underlying emotions, active listening, and validating to improve communication and emotional closeness.

— Kelly Blaylock, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I Completed additional training in Emotionally Focused Therapy and earned an Externship Certificate. I use EFT as the basis of my work with couples and relationships. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a form of short-term therapy that aims to improve couples emotional bond that can get eroded over time. I lead couples through this emotional reconnection by helping them to understand unmet longings of themselves and their partners.

— Desiree Evans, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in ,

EFT helps to identify the patterns that you and your partner may have found yourselves in. Typically this pattern continues conflict and disconnection. Working together we can identify how each partner contributes to the pattern. This enables partners to develop new ways of communicating with each other, along with new ways of understanding each other. Interrupting these patterns decreased conflict and increases intimacy and connection.

— Anna Keelty, Clinical Social Worker in Seattle, WA

I am trained and working towards certification in Emotion Focused Couple's Therapy. I utilize EFT to support queer and poly/enm relationships.

— Ginelle Guckenburg, Addictions Counselor in San Diego, CA

I specialize in using Emotionally Focused Therapy, the gold standard of the American Counseling Association, to facilitate healing with couples, individuals, and families. For years I've particularly worked with infidelity & betrayal trauma to bring relief. "EFT" gets to core of the issue, seeing the problem as not the people involved but the disconnection itself as the root. It is a warm, humanistic approach with a clear roadmap of how to get to change.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist in ,

Do you find you and your partner(s) are getting stuck in the same argument over and over? You know you both care for each other but neither of you feel heard and seen. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I can help you get in touch with your deeper emotions, address your relational conflict cycle, and build safe & emotionally connected relationships.

— Taylor Kravitz, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a widely used method primarily for couple therapy, but can be used on an individual approach. To me, this is the approach of choice. EFT is about re-building that emotional connection with your partner. Getting past the surface level problems and diving into the sub-layers where most conflict comes from. Do you feel alone and out of touch with your partner? Are you holding on to past issues because they are unresolved? If you answered yes, contact me today!

— Heather Nemeth, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Western Springs, IL

I work with couples to understand each other from an attachment based stance to change their relationship dynamics and better understand their unique cycles of interaction.

— Victoria Grutz, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

My approach to meeting with clients has been deeply influenced by the work of Sue Johnson with Emotionally Focused Therapy, a highly researched and validated, evidence-based model. We'll work together to help you and your partner repair your ability to trust each other again and feel deeply connected.

— Marla Mathisen, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Convenient and effective online relationship therapy in Denver, Littleton, Aurora, Golden and everywhere across Colorado, CO

My approach to meeting with clients has been deeply influenced by the work of Sue Johnson with Emotionally Focused Therapy, a highly researched and validated, evidence-based model. We'll work together to help you and your partner repair your ability to trust each other again and feel deeply connected.

— Marla Mathisen, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in convenient and effective online couples therapy in Austin, Dallas/Ft Worth, Houston, San Antonio, and everywhere across Texas, TX

I apply Emotionally Focused Therapy in my work with couples. I completed all levels of training in EFT in ICEEFT

— Maria Grishkina, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Plantation, FL

Emotionally Focused Therapy allows for couples to go deeper into their concerns, recognize underlying patterns of relating to one another, and address underlying unmet needs and wants. This therapy orientation provides for more depth during couples counseling and helps each person's perspective and desires to be seen and held safely in the counseling room.

— Brittany Steckel, Licensed Professional Counselor in Littleton, CO

Emotional Focused Therapy is a treatment approach that was designed mainly for couples. It helps individuals understand their attachment history and how it plays out in their relationships as adults. In couples counseling, individuals are able to reconnect and improve communication by learning how to express core emotions and understand their partner's attachment needs.

— Suzanne Taluy, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Norwalk, CT

The core base of my therapeutic orientation focuses on emotions, how we relate to them, what we can learn from them, and how to regulate them.

— Lacey Buckingham, Licensed Professional Counselor

I am currently being trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with anticipated completion in spring of 2021. EFT attunes to our own emotions and emotional regulation as well as how they interact with those of our partner(s). I primarily use EFT with relationships (monogamous couples as well as polyamorous/open relationships), though the benefits of my training can also be utilized with individuals.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR

I am firm believer that our emotional experience often underpins the way we respond to our lives. Developing awareness of our emotions and learning to be more open with ourselves and others can dramatically shift our experience in the world. I want to help you embrace your internal world in order to create the external world that aligns with you.

— Shameela Keshavjee, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Southlake, TX