Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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Gottman therapy is used for couples only - here we learn a new way to communicate, improve intimacy, learn positives and negatives in the relationship and how to draw goals individually and goals for the relationship. An online questionnaire is used to help sort out the strengths and the areas that need work.

— Dr. Rosana Marzullo-Dove, PsyD, Psychologist in Tampa, FL

This approach is based on Dr. John Gottman’s 40 years of research investigating and defining behaviors and communication skills found in healthy, long-lasting relationships. I work with couples to identify these communication patterns that are blocking them from forming a deeper connection and instead work to learn new ways of interacting that are statistically proven to improve relationships and promote healing and connection.

— Elizabeth Bryant, Licensed Professional Counselor in Atlanta, GA

The Gottman Method is excellent at helping couples improve communication. It helps couples reduce their negative reaction to each other, recognize problematic communication patterns and practice using more effective communication.

— Ruth Conviser, Clinical Social Worker in Philadelphia, PA

The Gottman Method was the first couples modality I was trained in (Level I + II, as well as Affair Recovery and Addiction Recovery). My clients and I love it for its very approachable framework, and I still use it often.

— Christian Bumpous, Marriage & Family Therapist in Nashville, TN

Gottman Therapy is a method and approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship, and integrates research-based interventions. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to “disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.”

— Rachel Wachtel, Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY

I am being trained in the Gottman Method to assist couples in developing friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. I help couples transform negative ways they communicate with positive interactions to help heal past resentments. The Gottman Method includes, "interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals."

— Caitlin Miller, Counselor in Chicago, IL

I am currently a Level 2 Gottman practitioner. The Gottman approach includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions to help couples cultivate healthy lasting relationships.

— Paula Kirsch, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Ferndale, MI

Gottman has 40 years of long term studies with couples. Gottman wanted to know, "What's the difference between happy and unhappy couples?" And, "Are there things happy couples do or don't do that are different from unhappy couples?" We start with administering the Gottman Couples Check Up to identify the specific areas in your relationship that need to be strengthened. We practice communication skills in session.

— Triva A. Ponder, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Beverly Hills, CA

I am Level II trained in using the Gottman method, and I have much experience working inclusively with all couples/relationship structures. My particular expertise is working with those in romantic relationships where one or more individuals are experiencing trauma symptoms which are getting in the way of safe and healthy connection.

— Rae Cuffe, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Miami, FL

I will teach you and your partner skills and tools based in science so you can feel confidant in conflict and clear your communication.

— Linnea Logas, Therapist in Minneapolis, MN

I have received two levels of Gottman Method training. I apply the interventions from this approach on a regular basis in meeting with couples.

— Karen Maloney, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

I work with couples in Maine via virtual platform and using a Gottman approach.

— Amy K. Cummings-Aponte, Counselor in Gainesville, FL

Have you noticed that you/your partner pulling away or the opposite? Are you wondering whether or not your relationship is worth it anymore? Has infidelity entered the relationship? Do you feel like you don’t know your partner anymore? Or maybe one/both of you are going through something & need to find ways to be a support for other person. Regardless of the issue/s & there are always issues, let’s help you build a shared meaning, develop a style of communicating that works, & become bffs again.

— Joel Nickel, Counselor in Pompano Beach, FL

How cool is Gottman? If you don't know, John Gottman is a researcher who can accurately predict divorce with 93% accuracy after observing a couple for three minutes in a conflict discussion. At Resolve, we are students of this kind of research, and practitioners of the Gottman Method. The owner of Resolve, Dr. Hecht, is Gottman certified. Come see us today.

— Heather Hecht, Psychologist in Arlington, VA

I have completed Gottman training and work with relationship dynamics from the perspective of the Sound Relationship House lens. When asked Dr. Gottman stated he never had nonmonogamous relationships last long enough to study, fortunately I have that experience. I also utilize attachment theory and positive psychology approaches to relationships, building and supporting each other through strengths to growth.

— Love Let Out , PLLC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX