Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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I have been following the Gottman's for years and was able to complete my level one training with the Gottmans themselves. I use Gottman principles in my own marriage and this method really resonates with me and makes sense for my clients. It's user friendly, science based and effective.

— Katherine Pfeiffer, Counselor in Tampa, FL

The goals of the Gottman Method Couples Therapy approach are to reduce conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect and affection , help you get unstuck from feeling stagnant in your relationship and increase empathy and understanding of one another.

— Joann Ikeh, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

I fell in love with the Gottman Method as a client, when my wife and I started couples counseling with a Gottman certified therapist. The techniques simply worked, and years later, when I started working with couples, I started using them myself. I now have Level 2 training in Gottman Method couples therapy, and I use it because I believe in it. I believe in it because it made real, lasting difference. It saved my marriage.

— Michael McVey, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Fort Worth, TX

I have completed the first two levels of training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy in addition to studying several of Gottman’s books. Gottman Method centers communication, conflict resolution, empathy, and intimacy in relationships. I utilize Gottman Method in conjunction with a social justice oriented approach to provide support for everyone.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR
 

This approach to couples counseling is by far the most well researched and effective approach available. We work together to identify the strengths and areas needing growth in your relationship. Couples learn and practice tools to help create shared meaning, make life dreams come true, manage conflict and replace behaviors that destroy intimacy, develop a positive perspective, turn towards each other instead of away, share fondness and admiration, and better know each other's inner world.

— Adam Stanford, Counselor in , CO

Gottman is a specified approach to work with couples that is research-based and relatively short-term. It involves a comprehensive relationship analysis that usually involves 3-4 sessions and then a specific treatment plan which involves helping to reinforce the strengths a couple has and addressing their challenge areas, especially in the area of communication. Therapy sessions are a lab where clients work on their issues with each other and learn how to do things differently. I teach specific skills and there often is homework. I have found that couples that follow through practicing what they have learned at home often make significant progress. I have been trained in Levels I and 2 of Gottman which involved 5 full days.

— Karin Wandrei, Clinical Social Worker in Rohnert Park, CA
 

I am level one trained and use the Gottman Method with couples to create practical interpersonal relationship skills that build intimacy and relationship satisfaction.

— Allison Jensen, Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago, IL

I have completed Level 1 and Level 2 of Gottman Method training.

— Loren Schouest, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Birmingham, AL
 

I am currently a Level 2 Gottman practitioner. The Gottman approach includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions to help couples cultivate healthy lasting relationships.

— Paula Kirsch, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Detroit, MI

My success with relationship repair and fortifying is a result of transforming my approach and marriage with Gottman researched tools & strategies. I completed the following Gottman trainings: Level 1 (overview of the research, method), Level 2 (assessment, intervention & co-morbidities training with video samples of research couples), Affairs and Broken Trust repair, Couples & Addiction Recovery. I help your areas of friendship & conflict with this approach.

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor
 

The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

— Noelle Benach, Counselor in , MD

Having a satisfying relationship is both an art and a science. The Gottman Method draws on over 40 years of research and helps couples learn skills and perspectives for a vital and healthy relationship. I help people in all kinds of relationships find authentic and meaningful ways to resolve issues and deepen connection in personalized ways that work for who they are and what they want.

— Rachel Shopper, Counselor in Asheville, NC
 

Gottman's method provides a great framework for thinking about healthy relationships. I use many strategies from Gottman particularly in relationship to improving conflict.

— Leah Murphy, Marriage & Family Therapist in Silver Spring, MD

The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship. -Gottman

— Filippo M. Forni, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, Gottman Method couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach to helping couples that teaches couples to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

Practical strategies for communication and conflict resolution.

— Jackie Lee, Therapist in Dallas, TX
 

Gottman Method Couples Therapy Clinical Training, Levels one and two

— Happy Camper Counseling; Joanne Lagattolla, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Evanston, IL

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couple Therapist, #406.

— Sheila Addison, Counselor in Oakland, CA
 

The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that integrates research-based interventions. Those in the relationship work together to disarm conflict, increase intimacy and respect, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship. Sessions can be in person or virtual.

— Mollie Yocum, Therapist in Pacifica, CA

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO