Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Even though they both fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships are two very different things. Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. Whatever form of non-monogamy you practice or are interested in exploring, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. If you are running into issues or roadblocks, seeing a qualified mental health professional provides a safe and supportive space to discuss your concerns and improve communication skills. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s polyamorous and open relationships experts today.

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Working with CNM/ethical-nonmonogamous couples is an area I greatly enjoy! I take a similar approach as I do with traditional couples therapy in that I still operate from a Gottman/Attachment approach; however, I work to process other concerns that come up in CNM relationships to help you and your partner(s) explore what works best for you. We process boundary setting, jealousy, different ways to open your relationship, being curious around if that's best for you, and more!

— Julie Labanz, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Cincinnati, OH

I work with couples and individuals who want to work through issues related to CNM and polyamorous relationships. I also work with clients who are part of the kink community.

— Ruth Millican, Psychologist in San diego, CA

Non-traditional relationships offer the opportunity to maximize our interpersonal connectedness. I seek to support folks in polyamorous and open relationships by embracing the difficult emotions that often arise and processing them as strengths.

— Liz Silverman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY

Whether you are just considering the idea of opening up your relationship, or you've been open or poly for as long as you can remember, you need a therapist who understands ethical non-monogamy. I don't make assumptions about what is right for your relationship--only you can know that. I can help guide each person in the relationship to be able to know and express their own needs, negotiate relationship contracts, and build more connection and intimacy.

— Colleen Hennessy, Licensed Professional Counselor in , CA

Having "many loves" falls into the category of consensual non-monogamy. While many friends, family, and even professionals may not understand the nuances of polyamorous relationships, I strive to create an environment of open communication. I aim to help individuals and polycules develop the tools necessary to overcome the impact of stigma, create greater understanding of how to live values within poly relationships, and develop skills making relationships healthy along the way.

— Erica Merrill, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Wesley Chapel, FL

I have extensive training in and personal experience with Polyamory, Open Relationships, Ethical Non-Monogamy or Consensual Non-Monogamy issues. I have provided cultural competency training to a handful of service organizations and agencies over the years. Moreover, I have developed group curriculum for addressing major issues in polyamorous configurations.

— ShannonElaine John, Counselor in Fort Morgan, CO

As someone who has lived experience in conscious non-monogamy I always knew that this was an issue that I wanted to support clients through. Polyamorous and Open Relationships are valid forms of relationships, but they only work when you put the work in to understand why you're drawn to it and communicate with your partners effectively. Working in relationships I utilize EFT, Gottman level 1, and Developmental Model (attachment and relationship stage based).

— Marjorie Boggs Vazquez, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

My training as a therapist landed me with a degree in Marriage and Family therapy, which basically means I work with relationship systems. As a non monogomous therapist I quickly began applying what I was learning in school to non monogomous relationship structures to better serve communities I belong to and work with. My training to work with relationships started in grad school, Gottman level 1 and now Developmental Model (attachment and relationship stage based).

— Birch Snogles, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in ann arbor, MI

Have been studying relationships for 30 years. I have done a deep dive in polyamorous relationships, from a professional and a personal standpoint. I get it. No judgments or shame here. I understand the complex nature of poly. I know the benefits of these relationships and also the pitfalls. Good solid communication, trust and self-love are needed for these relationships to thrive.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Whether you are an established Polyamorous couple or needing support in starting a new chapter with other partners, I think having a basic foundation of communication/honesty is important for any relationship to work. In session I hope to encourage both couples to discuss what a relationship is and define how all partners can set boundaries to enrich their lives.

— Ishmaella Brutus, Mental Health Counselor in Long Island city, NY

I have personal and professional experience with both poly and open relationships. There's more potential relationship structures than therapists to process them; therefore, I bring an open mind to what your particular structure is, how it changes over time, and how it serves you as you strive to live a unique life.

— David Lieberman, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Boulder, CO

Ethical Non-Monogamous, Polyamorous, Polyfidelitous, Hub and Spoke, Dealing with new relationship dynamics.

— Cub Larkin, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Wilton Manors, FL

Individual therapy can assist with noticing internal monogamous belief systems that may lead to pain and trauma when trying to create and operate in polyamorous and open relationships. Exploring our attachment traumas and healing abandonment from childhood greatly enhances current relationships.

— Melissa Bannerot, Clinical Social Worker in Colorado Springs, CO

Many therapists have a difficult time understanding polyamorous and open relationships and the specific opportunities and challenges that the lifestyle brings. There are innumerable ways to have relationships and I am open to exploring all the ways that you can have healthy and happy relationships. I generally see individuals, not couples.

— Liz Silverman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY

I have studied (and practiced) ethical nonmonogamy throughout my life. From the early publication of The Ethical Slut to the wonderful integration of attachment theory in Polysecure, I have been studying and treating open relationships for years. I stay abreast of new theories as they emerge, and continue to expand upon my understanding of how to thrive within a myriad of relationship structures.

— Grace Ballard, Sex Therapist

I have been involved in the alternative lifestyles myself for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the emotional waters of getting involved in open relationships. Conquering issues of jealousy and knowing how to, not just battle these fears, but how to use better marital communication to grow the relationship to a deeper and more fulfilling relationship than ever before, is a primary goal for me as a therapist.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

My consent based approach is very applicable in addressing relationship based issues, and this has certainly been an important part of my work with clients in the past. In addition, this is something I have personal experience with as a Relationship Anarchist. In my experience, navigating a practice of love with multiple people taking into account attachment histories is sometimes very challenging but can also be very rewarding.

— Renya NeoNorton, Marriage & Family Therapist

I have been involved in the swinger lifestyle ("The LIfestyle") for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

All relationship structures are welcome in my space!

— Elyssa Helfer, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist