Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Even though they both fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships are two very different things. Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. Whatever form of non-monogamy you practice or are interested in exploring, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. If you are running into issues or roadblocks, seeing a qualified mental health professional provides a safe and supportive space to discuss your concerns and improve communication skills. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s polyamorous and open relationships experts today.

Need help finding the right therapist?
Find Your Match

Meet the specialists


Even in individual work, I tend to view most challenges through a relationship- or attachment-based lens. Our personalities and our lives are shaped by our families, friends, and romantic partnerships, and uncovering the hidden dynamics of those relationships can be so powerful. Any surface-level problem in a relationship is linked to a deeper meaning. I specialize in working with folks in poly, open, and/or kink relationships.

— Natosha Knight, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Whether you are an established Polyamorous couple or needing support in starting a new chapter with other partners, I think having a basic foundation of communication/honesty is important for any relationship to work. In session I hope to encourage both couples to discuss what a relationship is and define how all partners can set boundaries to enrich their lives.

— Ishmaella Brutus, Mental Health Counselor in Long Island city, NY

I have both professional and personal experience in initiating and navigating ethically non-monogamous relationships. It can be a very exciting journey full of discovery and connection but it can also be challenging. I give partners and individuals tools and resources to understand and minimize the negative possibilities and enhance the positive ones.

— Jamila Dawson, Sex Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Poly, ENM, CNM individuals, couples+ and those that have been surprised by their partner's desire to be poly, will find affirming care in my therapy room.

— Ami Lynch, Clinical Social Worker in Vienna, VA

Having "many loves" falls into the category of consensual non-monogamy. While many friends, family, and even professionals may not understand the nuances of polyamorous relationships, I strive to create an environment of open communication. I aim to help individuals and polycules develop the tools necessary to overcome the impact of stigma, create greater understanding of how to live values within poly relationships, and develop skills making relationships healthy along the way.

— Erica Merrill, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Cornelius, NC

I work with couples and individuals who want to work through issues related to CNM and polyamorous relationships. I also work with clients who are part of the kink community.

— Ruth Millican, Psychologist in San diego, CA

My personal and professional experiences with polyamorous relationships have led me to specialize in working with others within the community. I'd love to support you on your journey and help you navigate concerns about your poly relationships.

— Misty Gibson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Tacoma, WA

I specialize in supporting couples, groups and polycules explore and navigate ethical monogamous relationships. Whether you are needing support in communication, deepening connection, resolving conflict or just need support, I can help.

— Justine Cuthberton, Addictions Counselor in Portland, OR

I have years of personal experience in the ethical non-monogamy community. I love helping couples find security in their relationship so that they feel safe to explore others. I nerd out about relationship dynamics and love reading everything I can about polyamory and alternative lifestyles. I work with people to increase secure attachment, increase sexual and emotional fulfillment, and create the life that they want.

— Tasha Perkins, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist

Working with CNM/ethical-nonmonogamous couples is an area I greatly enjoy! I take a similar approach as I do with traditional couples therapy in that I still operate from a Gottman/Attachment approach; however, I work to process other concerns that come up in CNM relationships to help you and your partner(s) explore what works best for you. We process boundary setting, jealousy, different ways to open your relationship, being curious around if that's best for you, and more!

— Julie Labanz, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Cincinnati, OH

I have specialized knowledge related to the issues people face while maintaining an established consensually non-monogamous relationship (or adjusting to a new one!). There will be no shock, confusion, or trying to talk you out of your decision.

— Pamela Duff, Mental Health Counselor in Winter Park, FL

As with gender identity, I have personal experience navigating polyamory. I don't have a one-size-fits-all approach, but I am comfortable with and accepting of polyamorous and open relationships, and can work with individuals, couples, and other relationship configurations to support people navigating relationships outside the box.

— Zem Chance, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Eugene, OR

I have been personally been practicing polyamory, and consensual non-monogamy (CNM) for about 8 years. CNM upholds and promotes values that I hope we share: personal autonomy, freedom of choice, abundance over scarcity, community-building, and most importantly - love. I also believe that living a CNM lifestyle is a political choice... anti-racist, anti-patriarchal, and anti-capitalistic in nature.

— Danika Grundemann, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

I have been involved in the alternative lifestyles myself for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the emotional waters of getting involved in open relationships. Conquering issues of jealousy and knowing how to, not just battle these fears, but how to use better marital communication to grow the relationship to a deeper and more fulfilling relationship than ever before, is a primary goal for me as a therapist.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Many therapists have a difficult time understanding polyamorous and open relationships and the specific opportunities and challenges that the lifestyle brings. There are innumerable ways to have relationships and I am open to exploring all the ways that you can have healthy and happy relationships. I generally see individuals, not couples.

— Liz Silverman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY

Have been studying relationships for 30 years. I have done a deep dive in polyamorous relationships, from a professional and a personal standpoint. I get it. No judgments or shame here. I understand the complex nature of poly. I know the benefits of these relationships and also the pitfalls. Good solid communication, trust and self-love are needed for these relationships to thrive.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Many individuals find joy in having close relationships on both sexual and emotional levels with multiple partners. These relationship styles require honest communication and healthy boundaries. As a trained sex therapist, I work with participants to strengthen communication skills and utilize resources that best support the sustainability of consensual and ethical non-monogamous relationship styles.

— Janice Leonard, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plano, TX

I am a non-monogamous human who provides help and support to individuals and relationships that are practicing non monogamy and those that are wanting to explore non-monogamy. I have been practicing non-monogamy since 2003. I know how difficult it can be to navigate a relationship structure that expands the boundaries of societal expectations. I want to offer you a safe, supportive, nonjudgmental space for restoration, exploration and connection.

— Becs Waite, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Having intimate relationships with different boundaries than the default comes with unique joys and challenges. I am excited to support others with navigating the communication, boundaries, emotions, and practicalities that come up in ethical non-monogamy.

— Martin Hogan, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,

We work with relationships in all iterations of poly and open. We work with relationships just opening up, in the middle of a multi-decade poly marriage, deciding to close their relationship, or ending their relationship. We also see clients who are poly, want to know we're non-judgy of their poly ways, and then rarely bring it up in session. They just want to know that if it does come up, we won't judge them. We won't.

— Rouse Relational Wellness, Sex Therapist in San Francisco, CA