Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Even though they both fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships are two very different things. Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. Whatever form of non-monogamy you practice or are interested in exploring, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. If you are running into issues or roadblocks, seeing a qualified mental health professional provides a safe and supportive space to discuss your concerns and improve communication skills. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s polyamorous and open relationships experts today.

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Whether your involved in or wanting to explore an ethical non monogamous relationship, as a couple or solo I will help not only answer but ask questions that will guide you and have you better equiped for any bumps that lay ahead. There are plenty of informative books on this topic, together we will figure out a course that is tailored to you.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

My training as a therapist landed me with a degree in Marriage and Family therapy, which basically means I work with relationship systems. As a non monogomous therapist I quickly began applying what I was learning in school to non monogomous relationship structures to better serve communities I belong to and work with. My training to work with relationships started in grad school, Gottman level 1 and now Developmental Model (attachment and relationship stage based).

— Birch Snogles, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Ann Arbor, MI

Being polyamorous can be difficult in a society that shames nonmonogamy. Many people incorrectly judge polyamory to mean someone is promiscuous, attention-seeking or lacking commitment. On the contrary, polyamory simply involves the belief that you can love more than one person at a time. The way that people chose to incorporate this belief into their relationships varies highly. Some people choose to have open relationships while others do not. Interested in learning more? Give me a call!

— Christina Kafalas, Clinical Social Worker in Tempe, AZ

I have been involved in the alternative lifestyles myself for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the emotional waters of getting involved in open relationships. Conquering issues of jealousy and knowing how to, not just battle these fears, but how to use better marital communication to grow the relationship to a deeper and more fulfilling relationship than ever before, is a primary goal for me as a therapist.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

I work with individuals, couples, triads, and polycules of all configurations to achieve healthy communication, reduce jealousy, negotiate boundaries, and resolve common conflicts experienced in non-traditional relationship styles. I work extensively to provide education to (and on) the polyam, ENM, CNM community and see these relationship styles as valid and healthy, not psychopathological.

— Farrah Bonnot, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Denton, TX

Polyamory may mean love without limits...but it certainly doesn't mean love without CHALLENGES. And none of us grew up with templates for anything outside the mono-norm. I often tell clients the great thing about consensual non-monogamy is it really makes us explore our issues and our insecurities. And the rough thing about consensual non-monogamy is it really makes us explore our issues and our insecurities! Together, we can find the path that works best for you.

— LAKink Shrink, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

I have identified as polyamorous for 5 years. I have attended training on relationship equality and been a part of many workshops surrounding this topic. I have worked with clients to alleviate jealousy and insecurity especially when beginning to open their relationships.

— Cheryl Cantrell, Licensed Professional Counselor in , SC

I've worked with many clients who've engaged in various forms of ethical non-monogamy in individual and couples sessions. I've had friends who engaged in ethical non-monogamy since I was in undergrad. I tried it myself, but didn't find it was a good fit for me. I educate clients about ethical non-monogamy as an option if they have historically been monogamous. I educate clients about how to do it well cause it involves a lot of communication and negotiation of needs as well as clear boundaries.

— Tia (Christia) Young, Counselor

Whether your involved in or wanting to explore an ethical non monogamous relationship, as a couple or solo I will help not only answer but ask questions that will guide you and have you better equiped for any bumps that lay ahead. Together we will figure out a course that is tailored and best for you. At any time any agreemnets can be altered, lets talk about it.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

My personal and professional experiences with polyamorous relationships have led me to specialize in working with others within the community. I'd love to support you on your journey and help you navigate concerns about your poly relationships.

— Misty Gibson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Tacoma, WA

I have worked with a wide variety of relationship structures with clients that include ethical non-monogamy, poly relationships, relationship anarchy, etc. I also have lived experience in this area.

— Gregory Gooden, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in POMONA, CA

No two polyamorous/open relationships will hold identical philosophies and relationships constructs. However healthy and resilient polyamorous people practice mutual consent and honesty, and relationships must be entered into openly and honestly. Much like traditional binary marriage, many poly relationships find that seeing a therapist during the early stages of forming can provide a safe, generative container for creating the common understandings and boundaries that can ensure resilience.

— Filippo M. Forni, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

My master's program included training in polyamory and ethical non-monogamy (ENM). I have a long-term interest in subverting traditional cis-heteronormative relationship structures in my personal life and am in relationship with people who are practicing polyamory and ENM. I believe all relationships (romantic or otherwise) are sacred, we need each other.

— Kelsey Miller, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

Experience with working with individual wanting to explore polyamorous open relationships, those who are having issues in their open relationship and more.

— Jennifer Hillier, Licensed Professional Counselor in San Antonio, TX

I am currently pursuing certification in Alternative Lifestyles, which includes polyamorous and open relationships. I am focusing on increasing healthy communication and give space to clients who want to explore their beliefs and comfort levels. I am also willing to work with all people in the relationships that are connected if it is needed. I provide acceptance and understanding without personal bias.

— Chandra Niklewski, Counselor in , MD

I have both professional and personal experience in initiating and navigating ethically non-monogamous relationships. It can be a very exciting journey full of discovery and connection but it can also be challenging. I give partners and individuals tools and resources to understand and minimize the negative possibilities and enhance the positive ones.

— Jamila Dawson, Sex Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I have been involved in the swinger lifestyle ("The LIfestyle") for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Communication is important but I take this topic deeper by exploring relationship traumas and attachment issues. We will work on co-creating the relationship environment you most desire by using transparent communication, face value trust, relationship agreements, externalizing foundational values, and exploring old patterns. I will also walk you through showing up for a partner's trauma and I have lots of resources to share.

— Lacey Stewart, Counselor in Manhattan, KS

People open up their relationships to pursue more connection. Yet, living in a society that expects and prioritizes monogamy can often make this pursuit or practice feel isolating and insecure. Whether you’re newly considering the Lifestyle or have an established Polycule, I specialize in helping individuals—partnered or solo—work through this challenging process.

— Amanda Earle, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

Navigating the field of polyamory and open relationships can be difficult and frustrating for a couple that is excited to try this unconventional way of life. Although it may not be the norm, it can lead to relationship satisfaction and personal happiness that some people cannot achieve in a monogamous relationship. However, sometimes the couple needs the expertise of therapist to help them address issues that may arise in the relationship.

— Leon Banister, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Miami, FL