About My Clients
I love working with all relationships and families -- regardless of how they identify. Whether that includes polyamory, non-monogamy, LGBTQ+ members, kinky humans, or another identity that makes your relationship 'unique'. I don't see individuals as 'problems', I see bigger systems that are complicated, usually socially constructed, and primed for re-examination as we discuss how old stories might not be serving your current relationship(s) or family.
My Background and Approach
Going way back I was an engineer and real estate business person but after a long while, including an MBA along the way, I realized that my heart lies with helping others navigate complex relationships and family dynamics. I landed at Regis University, a nice Jesuit place with a very open-minded family therapy department, where I fell in love with systemic therapy. Systemic therapy is different... I see past individuals to consider the communities they were raised in, live in, work in, love in, and aspire to experience. This creates space for a collaborative experience where clients and I tell new stories that are less constrained and have more possibilities for love, freedom, autonomy, and other virtues.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
I have lots of beliefs, but here's a few that seem relevant. First, I believe that we can create more secure attachments with fellow humans through heart-felt communication, tenderness, and listening to understand each other. Second, I believe that we're, in large part, a product of our environments, and very few of us are 'damaged' in a way that we can't enjoy thriving relationships with others -- I believe that everyone's a shining star and sometimes we use sideways methods of getting our needs met that are not particularly effective. Finally, I just don't see people as problems. I cringe when I hear people described as "angry" or "depressed" or "anxious" for example. I'm not sure I've come across a person who is always any of these things -- we're complicated folx and have complicated experiences.