Services
- Individual
- Couples
About My Clients
I prioritize social, cultural, and historical awareness and understanding of trauma, and how it worsens with social inequality, generational trauma, marginalization, and disadvantages, both within the United States and around the world. Taking the time to explore your roots, where, and how you were raised can help you understand the messages you received about what and who you should be. This kind of information can bring ease to the pain and pressure of perfectionism and getting it right.
My Background and Approach
I grew up in a multiracial family, a mix of brown and white people, some of whom identify as queer, straight, and differently-abled–-all belonging to a religious fundamentalist community. Harmful religious experiences within the community created immense sexual repression. Purity culture and religious fundamentalism created feelings of shame and pain about my sexual urges, desires, and behaviors. This harm created a cycle of violence and oppression where, for many years, I experienced loss and alienation from my sexuality and gender expression. Harmful religious theology creates a heightened risk of developing sexual dysfunction around desire, arousal, and orgasm. People who experience this trauma are often the last to reach out to a therapist for help. Religious/sexual trauma is painful because the harm happens with relationships and communities you trust. I am committed to working in ways that build trust, bring ease to power and control issues, and reconnect you to your truest self.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
My interest in relationships, trauma, and sex therapy begins with my experience as a person who is familiar with the painful wounding that leads to sexual repression or out-of-control sexual behavior (two sides of the same coin). As a white-passing, biracial, pansexual person, I am often placed in positions where I must acknowledge the power my visible identities carry and still hold the internal space for marginalized identities that are invisible. Your relationship with sexuality can be the same way. When we work together, you and I will take the time to curate a caring, warm, non-judgmental therapeutic environment where your pain and pleasure can emerge at your own pace. Aliveness often hangs out underneath wounds or is enmeshed with traumatic bonds and painful experiences. We will work together to bring ease, compassion, and healing to the wounds and suffering that need care and attention.