The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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Self-esteem also has to do with how we relate to ourselves and not just our relationships with others. The work I do around this topic is some of the most meaningful!In my work I use a three step system to help you improve upon your self esteem. I will work to help explore your level current of self esteem and confidence. Then get the history of where lower self esteem originated, and then give you tools methods to get to loving and respecting yourself

— Roma Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX

If you feel like you are not good enough or you struggle with not having enough confidence to get what you want in life, I am the therapist for you. I will help you fall in love with yourself and build up your confidence so that you can attain any goal that you have set for yourself and live out your dreams.

— Sarah (Chen) Zhang Park, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

How we feel about ourselves strongly impacts the choices we make, our social interactions, as well as the intimate relationships we find ourselves in. Sometimes the most helpful approach in addressing life situations (bad relationships, dissatisfaction with work, and any other life challenge) is using a “back-door” approach. By addressing low self-esteem directly, some people find that these life stressors (that are often the symptom rather than the problem) tend to resolve.

— Andrew Davis, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fresno, CA

Do you sometimes think that you are not worthy enough? Are you struggling to accept compliments? Do you often compare yourself to the highlights reels of social media. Let's talk about how to find your confident authentic self as you embark on your journey to joy.

— verline gaddis, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I know what it is like to not feel good enough, smart enough, worthy enough... to think that you'll never just be enough. I provide my clients with the tools they need to be able to see their own goodness and enough-ness. Together, we will take away the layers of lies that you have been told and now believe to get down to the truth of who TF you are, so that you can see just how enough you have always been.

— Kaylin Zabienski, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in NEWPORT BEACH, CA

Living in a world that hasn't been made for most of us can lead to a lot of insecurities and negative self talk that can lead to anxiety and depression. My favorite work to do is to help people lift up the parts of themselves that they love and quiet the external noise that tells them that they are not good enough for whatever reason. These external noises can from from our families, our communities, society, social media, etc. All of my training over my career plays into this work.

— Mal Johnson, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Lansing, MI

We often use self-esteem to describe a feeling of confidence and security in ourselves. A solid sense of self-esteem can be one of the most powerful things that we can build for ourselves; yet, sometimes it can feel as fleeting as our mood. Instead of this superficial sense of confidence, let's create a deeply grounded sense of "self" that is authentic, purposeful, and resilient, irregardless of your environment or others around you. This may be the biggest gift you can give to yourself.

— I-Ching Grace Hung, Psychologist in San Francisco, CA

Rebuilding self-esteem is the foundation of all of the work that I do with my clients. To do this work, I help folks understand the core beliefs that are unconsciously shaping their feelings about themselves. Once these beliefs have been brought into the light, we can get right to work squashing them!

— Natosha Knight, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Self-esteem is an individual's subjective evaluation of their own worth. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame. Not only do I address self-esteem and identity in therapy, but I also address self-love and compassion. Self-compassion involves treating ourselves with kindness and understanding while being aware of our own pain and suffering, and understanding that this is a hard, but normal human experience.

— Christina Kafalas, Clinical Social Worker in Tempe, AZ

One of the most common problems plaguing Creative People is self-esteem. The most amazing creators struggle with loud inner critics and perfectionism. Beginning as motivation, high standards, and drive, the issue of inner critic hovers over many of us drowning out what initially it was meant to inspire. In counseling, we work to refocus self-esteem from our products to our internal resources and reclaim a healthy inner voice.

— Cindy Cisneros, Licensed Professional Counselor in Sykesville, MD

Building self-esteem requires addressing the inner critic, establishing boundaries, and acknowledging value and worth. We will likely address childhood wounds and reconcile them in the present.

— Danielle Horne, Counselor in San Jose, CA

I assist my clients in discovering their natural sense of self-worth. The most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the one that you have with yourself. My clients rediscover and nourish this relationship and work toward growing it into self-acceptance and self-love.

— Rebecca Haney, Counselor in Middletown, OH

I have firsthand experience on the difficulties of low self esteem and have developed a tool kit of activities and tricks that can help you reconnect with self love and self compassion when speaking positively about yourself feels foreign and sometimes even impossible.

— Cassie Rovig, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Sacramento, CA

Living in this world can take a toll on your sense of self, your self love, and your self-esteem. When you come into my office, I seek to understand which forms of oppression have impacted you most so that we can contradict harmful systemic messaging that has taken away some of your sense of self-wonder and reintroduce you to your own inherent majesty.

— Sam Krehel, Mental Health Counselor in , WA

Through my cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) training I know about the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Feelings can feel impossible to control, but our thoughts and behaviors can be more manageable. Sometimes we think something and believe it to be true, even if not entirely accurate. During therapy I will teach you how to be more aware and thoughtful of your thinking patterns to correct unhelpful thinking and behaviors so that is has a positive impact on your self image.

— Emily Miles, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

Confidence is everything when you are working in the arts. If you don't buy it, they won't! I help clients find self-esteem outside of their work, and help to let go of the anxieties holding them back.

— Elle Bernfeld, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY