Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem is something every person struggles with at some point or another in their lives. We are constantly bombarded with "ideals" of how to live our lives. In a space such as in therapy, there can be new ways of understanding self-love, self talk, and ways to empower yourself to be the person you want to be.

How much you appreciate and like yourself regardless of the circumstances is what we call self esteem. People with low self-esteem tend to feel less sure of their abilities and may doubt their decision-making process as well as having issues with relationships and expressing their needs. There are steps and therapy techniques that as a therapist I can provide to help you address problems with self-esteem.

Recognizing and addressing unproductive thinking patterns, building on strengths, and assertiveness training.

Anxious thoughts and difficult life experiences can cause us to doubt ourselves and the people we want to trust. Navigating relationships, whether they be romantic, friendships, work-related, or family, can create immense stress and anxiety. Life experiences may bring us pain, cause us to question our world, and create obstacles that feel overwhelming and overpowering. Together, we will come to a greater understanding of your inner struggles and needs and develop tools.

Self-esteem frequently plays into depression, anxiety, codependency, and other maladaptive ways we cope with life.

Self Esteem or self worth may be a part of trauma, other disorders such as anxiety or depression or personality disorders. My work here is to help people change the way they think and talk to themselves about who they are. Typically, I use an ACT approach for this combined with looking at how a person's belief's about themselves evolved. It can take some time to change someone's self worth, though early in the process, learning some tools can help get things started.

For so many people, our sense of worthiness and value are impacted by external factors. Things like our standards of beauty, media messaging about ‘success,’ expectations for what we’re ‘supposed’ to do or have accomplished. When our ideas about who we are and how we’re doing clash with these external factors, that can leave us feeling pretty shitty. Where does your sense of self and worthiness come from? Does that still feel like a fit for you?

Releasing fear and grabbing hold of your inner strength to be able to release your internal dialogue of power, boldness and confidence. This will be explored through mantras, affirmations, guided meditation, and the power of presence.

Our internal dialogue impacts the way we function in the world. I can help you navigate that dialogue and move it in a more positive direction so that you can live in your life the way you want to.

Are you struggling to connect, feeling lonely or misunderstood? Explore your values with me and find your path to becoming your authentic self, thereby attracting more like-minded people into your life.

I have been studying the effects and potential causes of low self-esteem since the age of 14, when I completed a project examining the systemic problem of decreasing self-esteem in grade-school aged girls in the areas of math and science across age groups, and proposing multiple possible sources of this occurrence. More recently, in my clinical work I have facilitated a women's group intended to raise individual participants' self-esteem and to create a sense of community within the group.

We receive countless messages about who we ‘should’ be from those around us and society. Chronic feelings of self-doubt can lead to anxiety, depression, unsatisfying relationships, distress at work, and to an exhausting sense of always needing to ‘do more’ just in order to feel like we’re enough. Our work together can help you to understand where these internal drives come from, remain connected to your value while you reach for your ambitions, and view yourself with greater compassion.

I take a focus with almost all of my clients, to help them to develop a more positive self-image and self-acceptance. Low self-esteem often can lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental health symptoms. By addressing the way we view ourselves we can change the way we view the world. Self-compassion and positive talk has been a integral and transformative part of the work I have done over the past 5 years.

I specialize in working on self-esteem and confidenc, and through evaluating evidence and challenging distorted self perceptions, I believe I can help you with improving your self esteem!

Self-love is foundational to peaceful communities. As a polyamorous trans woman, this lesson is one that the Universe has uniquely equipped me to share with my clients. To quote Uncle Iroh, "Pride is not the opposite of shame, but it's source. True humility is the only antidote to shame." Systems of supremacy/oppression have so deeply ingrained in us a felt sense of not being enough. Every time you resist that propaganda within yourself, you are actively building a better world for all of us