The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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Self-esteem can be a tricky issue to address. There are many things that can be affecting it. I am very proficient at working with clients to explore all possible reasons your self-esteem, self-worth or confidence feels low. If it's situational we will figure out how to move through it and if it's rooted in past experience we will bring it to the surface and learn how to leave it in the past.

— Jeff Guenther, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

I work with my clients to identify the clouded lense that makes it difficult to see your strengths and positive attributes.

— Natasha Lamb, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Jacksonville, FL

Living in this world can take a toll on your sense of self, your self love, and your self-esteem. When you come into my office, I seek to understand which forms of oppression have impacted you most so that we can contradict harmful systemic messaging that has taken away some of your sense of self-wonder and reintroduce you to your own inherent majesty.

— Sam Krehel, Mental Health Counselor in , WA

Confidence is everything when you are working in the arts. If you don't buy it, they won't! I help clients find self-esteem outside of their work, and help to let go of the anxieties holding them back.

— Elle Bernfeld, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY

Low self-esteem is a drag. It limits us from achieving dreams. It may even cause us an inability to dream. It limits our ability to form meaningful relationships, advance in careers, come out, transition and more. It also causes us to create false narratives and rigid rules that further limit and drag us down. The good news is low self-esteem can be changed. I will help you shift the negative core beliefs to positive beliefs with EMDR and/or Brainspotting therapy.

— Jordan Nodelman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Wilton Manors, FL

For many of us we are raised to prioritize others ahead of ourselves. For much of our lives this feels normal and natural until the day where we realize we are not having our needs met. For many I work with this ties in with an element of codependency and feeling that our worth is tied to what we do for others. It means we are incapable of valuing ourselves and that even what we see in the mirror or when we self reflect, is less than the reality everyone else sees.

— David Cogdell, Licensed Professional Counselor

How much you appreciate and like yourself regardless of the circumstances is what we call self esteem. People with low self-esteem tend to feel less sure of their abilities and may doubt their decision-making process as well as having issues with relationships and expressing their needs. There are steps and therapy techniques that as a therapist I can provide to help you address problems with self-esteem.

— Adriana Beck, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plano, TX

I thoroughly enjoy helping others to find their internal and unacknowledged strengths. I appreciate the opportunity to help my clients think of themselves differently than they have been lead to believe, both by others and by themselves. I hope to help you better understand yourself, as well as your fundamental importance to the world.

— Greyson Smith @ Forge Counseling Collective, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Colorado Springs, CO

I have been working with individuals change the way they talk to themselves throughout my career. We explore the negative narratives that persist for you, where they originate from, and release the pain associated with them. Using techniques from Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Internal Family Systems, we rewrite these painful stories and unlock what is possible.

— Rebecca Rondeau, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Merrimack, NH

I have worked with many clients on their self-esteem by exploring the root of insecurities, identifying strengths, and challenging negative thoughts or beliefs.

— Elizabeth Latsos, Social Worker in New York, NY

My role is to reflect your innate worthiness. Together we may take a curious stance towards "esteem" and find new ways to define what it means to you. You may decide to slow down, to become increasingly aware of the sensations related to when you feel most "esteemed." I can be a supportive guide to tapping in to your unique esteemed Self.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in East Bay, CA

Problems with self-esteem can come in so many forms. It may come in the form of relationships - wondering if you're worthy of another's love or attention. It might come at work, with feelings like you are a fraud or you will never be good enough to advance in your career. It might come in the form of day to day anxieties - those little worries that can sometimes add up to paralyzing self-doubt. I want to help you sort through these worries and insecurities and develop new ways of coping and new thought patterns that can help counteract these beliefs. I also teach my clients mindfulness and self-compassion, which are tools that can help improve self-esteem.

— Ashley Hamm, Licensed Professional Counselor in Houston, TX

To improve self-esteem, I will help you learn how to trust your gut and really pay attention to what is happening inside of you. Our intuition is often referred to as our “inner voice” most commonly known as a gut feeling. Body Psychotherapy & Embodied Spirituality utilize the body as a compass along with visualization and mindfulness, to create healthy boundaries in your relationships, so that you have space to manifest how you want to be in the world, and heal negative thinking patterns.

— Lina Návar, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

Low self-worth can manifest in many different ways and wreak havoc on your life. In my office, we work from a depth-oriented perspective to identify the roots of low self-worth and rework self-narratives to include your strengths, unique gifts, and inherent worth.

— Alexandra Jennings, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Sacramento, CA

Do you struggle to trust yourself? Find that voice in your head is a meany? I have a track record of helping folks slow down, listen and create more compassionate moments with themselves. I hope to hear from you and see if we are a good fit.

— Bridget Bertrand, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

At some point in everyone's life they feel insecure. Some feel it their entire life, some only for in certain circumstances. If this is something you struggle with there are proven ways to help address it and become more confident.

— Rachel Goldberg, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Beverly Hills, CA

Feelings of low esteem are correlated with feelings of anxiety and depression. Self esteem is reflected by our self talk and thoughts. It's important to understand the types of thoughts we have and what perpetuates the cycle for us to feel good or bad about ourselves. Thoughts are simply thoughts-they don't necessarily express the reality of your life. Self esteem is something that can be improved by adopting a more positive mindset about your own self worth.

— Nancy Bortz, Therapist in Denver, CO

Self-Esteem and Sense of Self are very important areas in which I help clients. Many clients come to therapy feeling badly about themselves. It is common for very accomplished people to begin therapy reporting feeling like an imposter. Others present with feeling unlovable if people really knew them. Through therapy my clients learn to accept themselves as they are and at the same time to increasingly live in ways that reaffirm their worth, materializing their core values and abilities.

— David Shapiro, Psychologist in Newport Beach, CA