The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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You may feel like you're working against yourself sometimes, like there are different versions of you in conflict--some versions you like, and some you hate. There is potential for healing these inner relationships. Self re-parenting your wounded inner child/ren and learning to understand and care for other parts of yourself can be deeply relieving. We can help you understand and navigate the natural—and valuable—complexity within you.

— Stephani Jahn, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Gainesville, FL

Whatever is blocking your path, I am ready to help you face it. Schedule a free consultation with me to see if I am the right fit to take you on your healing journey. If we decide I am not the right therapist for you, I will be more than happy to help connect you with someone who is better equipped for your treatment. I’m passionate about helping clients find the right therapist for them, so whatever you need, schedule a free consultation and we can get started.

— Erika De La Castro, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Louisville, CO

Self esteem is the way a person feels about him or herself. Those with healthy self esteem believe they can win in life, and believe that they have what it takes to overcome challenges. Those with damaged self esteem question if they are worthy or if they have what it takes. In therapy, I help clients with damaged self esteem understand what healthy self esteem looks like and figure out why it is damaged in the first place. From there, we create coping strategies to promote healthy self esteem.

— Live Life Now! Counseling and Coaching Tonya Jordan- Lead Clinician and Point of Contact, Sheena Kelly, Clinician, Licensed Professional Counselor

Self Esteem encompasses so many areas of our lives...communication, relating, making plans/goals in our close relationships and in our communities of work, family and play. I am certified in Brene\' Brown\'s curriculum of Shame Resilience to help us sort out the details and live our fuller and happier life. Our self esteem drives the directions we go and finding ways to increase it's health can only help us. I am empathetic and supportive as we identify challenges and find solutions.

— Audrianna Gurr, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

Maybe you are starting to notice that your anxiety is getting in the way of living your authentic life. You spend hours overthinking even the smallest, most insignificant things, which causes you to question your relationships with others. Instead, it’s much easier to just stay at home and isolate yourself. You can’t sleep because you are constantly thinking about all the things you didn’t get done or all the things you need to get done tomorrow.

— Stephanie Milliron, Counselor in phoenix, AZ

Throughout my career, I've had the privilege of helping clients build a healthier sense of self. Low self-esteem can affect all aspects of life, from relationships to personal fulfillment. In our sessions, we'll work together to explore the root causes of possible self-esteem issues and develop practical strategies to boost self-worth. My approach is tailored to your unique needs, and I'm dedicated to creating a safe, judgment-free space where you can openly address your concerns.

— Vlad Paramoshin, Psychotherapist in New York, NY

Research studies have shown that Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) is one of the most effective treatments for low self-esteem. I believe that tools like CBT are beneficial but not before exploring where the root of self-esteem issues come from; whether that be early family life experience, societal bias, or unrealistic expectations placed on oneself.

— Jaxon Shaffer, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Beaverton, OR

Nicole's ability to create a warm, safe, and inviting space for her clients makes it easier for them to explore the challenging and sometimes painful beliefs and ideas that fuel struggles with self-esteem. By peeling away the layers together Nicole is able to help her clients identify and build on their strengths and successes as well as help them to re-frame thought patterns to be more empowering which allows for increased self-assurance and a more positive self-image to form.

— Nicole DeMealo, Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY

Anxious thoughts and difficult life experiences can cause us to doubt ourselves and the people we want to trust. Navigating relationships, whether they be romantic, friendships, work-related, or family, can create immense stress and anxiety. Life experiences may bring us pain, cause us to question our world, and create obstacles that feel overwhelming and overpowering. Together, we will come to a greater understanding of your inner struggles and needs and develop tools.

— Colorado Experiential Counseling, Licensed Professional Counselor in Colorado Springs, CO

Put your hand on your solar plexus, close your eyes, breathe, & say to yourself, "I am deeply beloved." Slowly say this 3-5 times. Now, what percentage of that statement were you able to receive? If this exercise brings up challenging sensations, emotions, thoughts, & beliefs for you, know you're not alone. Many clients feel this way. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. You are deeply, unconditionally beloved, and I'm here to help you remember that truth.

— Anneva NK Garner, Counselor in Longmont, CO

Most of us are not born with low self-esteem, but along the way things knock us down and shape us in a less-than-ideal way. Let's work together to move through these blocks and help you grow into the confident, capable individual you were made to be!

— Megan Agee, Psychologist in Charlotte, NC

Self-esteem is what you receive from external validation, but self-confidence is an internal process. Together, we explore the meaning of both and how to step into who you are with appreciation and compassion. Self-acceptance and self-understanding are key to feeling good in your mind, body, and soul.

— Sabrina Fish, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Laguna Niguel, CA

Do you feel like you are a good person? I am regularly dismayed at how many people I talk to that tell me No, they don't think they are. Why? Do you have bad intentions? Do you want to hurt people? Do you refuse responsibilities that are yours? Let's explore where this idea of you as a bad person came from, break it down, shine a light on the lie you've been believing about yourself. Without that thought dragging you down, true wellness is on the horizon.

— Kasey Benthin-Staley, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Columbus, OH

One of the biggest destructive forces on self-esteem is those toxic situations in which your value as a person is not recognized. When people treat you like you are not worthwhile, you can begin to think that about yourself. And then the littlest criticism can trigger self-doubt, discouragement, and powerlessness. Together, we can clarify the respect, care, and love you deserve, embrace all the unique, wonderful, weird ways that you are YOU, and help you to feel re-empowered.

— Monica Vilhauer, Counselor in Portland, OR

Are you struggling to break free from anxiety, self-doubt or painful memories of the past? Everyone has stories that they replay in their minds from themselves or others. These stories can define who you are and what you can do. If the stories are negative or limiting, they can stop you from participating in and enjoying life fully. I can help give you the skills to help you break free from these limiting narratives.

— Jill Morris, Clinical Psychologist in St. Louis Park, MN