The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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Self esteem is the ability to hold ourselves in high regard despite the fact that we are flawed. Self compassion and self acceptance are crucial practices to help improve our self esteem, but they must be practiced! Systems of oppression can also greatly impact one's self esteem and we will acknowledge and work through any impact those systems have had.

— Rachel Gabrielle, Counselor in Seattle, WA

Living in this world can take a toll on your sense of self, your self love, and your self-esteem. In our work together, I seek to understand the forms of oppression that have impacted you most so that we can start to unlearn the harmful systemic messaging that has taken away some of your sense of self-wonder and (re)introduce you to your own majesty.

— Sam Krehel, Mental Health Counselor in , WA

Our beliefs about ourselves can be complicated and burdensome, but the beauty is that we have the capacity to change. I work with clients to help them understand the root of their beliefs and where they come from, identify their strengths, and empower them to be confident in who they are.

— Emma Harger, Social Worker in New York, NY

Many of us struggle with our self-esteem. We often have negative self talk and see ourselves as imperfect. I believe that most healing starts with forgiving and accepting yourself as a perfectly imperfect human being. You are worthy of love, respect and care just as you are, right now. My clients have benefitted from my ability to help them make peace with their inner self. I create a calm, relaxed environment where they can be safe to express themselves honestly.

— Katie Robey, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Los Gatos, CA

I support in developing a positive self-concept by assisting in developing an alternate life narrative and lens in which you may see yourself in relation to others and the world. I address empowering more internal resiliency to build confidence in responding to life challenges and stress. I do incorporate healthy habit building to begin steps in promoting internal personal growth.

— Lauren Bryan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Most of us are not born with low self-esteem, but along the way things knock us down and shape us in a less-than-ideal way. Let's work together to move through these blocks and help you grow into the confident, capable individual you were made to be!

— Megan Agee, Psychologist in Charlotte, NC

I take a focus with almost all of my clients, to help them to develop a more positive self-image and self-acceptance. Low self-esteem often can lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental health symptoms. By addressing the way we view ourselves we can change the way we view the world. Self-compassion and positive talk has been a integral and transformative part of the work I have done over the past 5 years.

— Nicole Benedict, Creative Art Therapist in Rochester, NY

Self-esteem can play such a role in how we see ourselves, the world around us, and interact with our environment. It is important to develop awareness of how self-esteem impacts the interactions with the world around us and ourselves.

— Kodie Mobbs, Associate Clinical Social Worker

Self-esteem has a huge impact on everything we do, but it can be hard to recognize it. Sometimes it's to the point that it's hard to even imagine feeling confident, or worthy. You're worthy, but I can understand how you may not feel that way. Together, we can help you get to a place where you feel worthy, valuable, and confident, in a way that feels genuine to you.

— Danielle Wayne, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Boise, ID

Low self-worth can manifest in many different ways and wreak havoc on your life. In my office, we work from a depth-oriented perspective to identify the roots of low self-worth and rework self-narratives to include your strengths, unique gifts, and inherent worth.

— Alexandra Jennings, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Sacramento, CA

Does your lack of confidence and worthiness keep getting in the way of your life or relationship? Fortunately, we all have the ability to rewire old patterns of thinking and move toward solution-focused outcomes and growth. When we feel worthy and have higher self-esteem, we open ourselves up to a world of love, hope, resiliency, belonging, possibility, and opportunity. Cultivating self-worth, esteem, and love gives us a foundation to experience a life transformation.

— Heather LeCompte, Associate Professional Counselor in Eugene, OR

I help work with client on their self-esteem through different approaches such as acceptance and commitment , working through art, talk therapy, workbooks and other ways.

— Jody Allen, Counselor in Arlington, WA

Self-esteem can be a tricky issue to address. There are many things that can be affecting it. I am very proficient at working with clients to explore all possible reasons your self-esteem, self-worth or confidence feels low. If it's situational we will figure out how to move through it and if it's rooted in past experience we will bring it to the surface and learn how to leave it in the past.

— Jeff Guenther, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

Perfectionist Expectations Inflexible Thinking (either / or thinking) Minimizing Your Feelings Discounting Your Opinions & Thoughts in Conversation Struggling to Identify How You Feel Making Decisions Based on How Others MIGHT Feel Over-Valuing What Others Think or Feel “Taking On” the Emotional Experiences of Others As Your Own Seeking Approval from Others

— Jennifer Gray, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Portland, OR

How we feel about ourselves strongly impacts our life choices and relationships. I enjoy teaching self-compassion techniques and helping clients build confidence using a strengths-based approach. Together we will challenge negative self-talk and change your life from the inside out.

— Amy Braun, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor

I have worked with many women and men who initially seek out counseling for anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and work issues--and often underlying these problems is a lack of trust in themselves, lots of negative self-talk, and unfinished healing from past family and relationship events. My hope is to create a safe environment to better understand what is happening and to then collaborate in implementing skills that will foster self-confidence, and self acceptance.

— Amanda Rebel, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Wheat Ridge, CO

Low self-esteem is a drag. It limits us from achieving dreams. It may even cause us an inability to dream. It limits our ability to form meaningful relationships, advance in careers, come out, transition and more. It also causes us to create false narratives and rigid rules that further limit and drag us down. The good news is low self-esteem can be changed. I will help you shift the negative core beliefs to positive beliefs with EMDR and/or Brainspotting therapy.

— Jordan Nodelman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Wilton Manors, FL

Rebuilding self-esteem is the foundation of all of the work that I do with my clients. To do this work, I help folks understand the core beliefs that are unconsciously shaping their feelings about themselves. Once these beliefs have been brought into the light, we can get right to work squashing them! For body image work, I focus on body liberation and acceptance of all body types.

— Natosha Knight, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

At some point in everyone's life they feel insecure. Some feel it their entire life, some only for in certain circumstances. If this is something you struggle with there are proven ways to help address it and become more confident.

— Rachel Goldberg, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA