Men's Issues

Studies have shown that women are much more likely than men to seek therapy. However, just like women, men can benefit from having a confidential, private space to explore any issues that might be coming up for them. The term “men’s issues” can refer to any number of concerns men might face, including anger management, addiction, intimacy issues, domestic violence, mid-life crises, grief or loss – in addition to mental health issues like anxiety or depression. If you have found yourself experiencing any of these issues (or others), reach out to one of TherapyDen’s men’s issues specialists today.

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I work with men around issues of sexual identity, challenges with out of control sexual behaviors and sex addiction, libido and performance anxiety issues, and navigating sexual issues in relationships.

— Greg Bodin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Experience what it’s like to stop keeping all of your problems to yourself. Gain a new perspective on your challenges and build the skills you need to become the partner, father, family member, friend, and professional you want to be.

— Adam Sattler, Psychologist in Minneapolis, MN
 

Men face challenges and barriers in reaching out for help and seeking therapy. Men are more likely to tell others they are fine out of fear and concern of being judged or viewed as weak. They may also want to avoid burdening loved ones, friends, and family. As a result, men are less likely to seek out therapy and may experience anxiety, depression, stress, and other mental health concerns and suffer in silence. Please give me a chance to help.

— Richard Scott, Clinical Psychologist in Murphysboro, IL

While "men's issues" are certainly not limited to a gender, boys and men are often deprived of a space to show vulnerability and not given the tools needed to authentically communicate emotions. This suppression can create feelings of insecurity, anger, irritability, infidelity, increased substance use, and high-risk behavior.

— Jacob Mergendoller, Licensed Master of Social Work in New York, NY
 

As a man, you may be used to: Solving your own problems Not asking for help Avoiding talking with others about things that cause you stress and upset Believing that there is something “unmanly” about seeking and participating in counseling Again, you are not alone. There are numerous reasons that boys and men in our culture would choose to suffer in private silence than admit to another person that there is something they cannot fix on their own. In addition, it’s sometimes tough to go to your friends or family for support, or they are simply not helpful. And searching for solutions on the internet and in books has it’s limits (and can be confusing and frustrating, too). Now, you are still struggling and are thinking about seeking the help of someone like me: a men’s counselor. In our culture, there are expectations for men not to be “weak” or “vulnerable” and to hide emotions or be “warriors.” However, it’s a myth that talking about your problems and how you feel about them will somehow, magically, make you less of a man. Not true. Times are changing, and men need to learn critical skills like emotional intelligence, communication skills, stress management and relationship building. That’s where men’s counseling can help.

— Dr. Robert Nemerovski, Psy.D., Clinical Psychologist in San Rafael, CA

You have been growing up in a culture where you constantly heard: "don't cry over spilled milk/just get over it/pull yourself by your bootstraps" and things alike. You have been told to be taught and that men don't cry. Maybe you are still feeling the remnants of your past trauma and your life is spinning out of control. You might be a high achiever, type A personality that just takes on too much and is absolutely infused with stress. It's time to gain control over your life and address these.

— Ioana Avery, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Katy, TX
 

Expressing tenderness and being emotionally open are important to nurturing healthy relationships with those around you, yet few men feel comfortable doing this. Often, anxiety, depression, anger, impatience, lack of confidence, and life and work stress get in the way. I help and support men in stepping over these hurdles and improving their relationships.

— Ania Scanlan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Shoreview, MN

While all issues are actually men's issues, it has become more customary to separate these common AMAB issues such as, Intimacy issues related to masculinity, Sexual performance anxiety, Pain during sex, Erectile Dysfunction, Excessive porn use, Out of control sexual behavior, lack of desire, lack of arousal, Premature ejaculation, Delayed ejaculation, etc.

— Siri Gerrity, Sex Therapist in Seattle, WA
 

Therapy for men's issues deals with the specific challenges, concerns, and social or psychological problems that can affect men in society. These issues are important to address because they can impact men's mental and physical well-being, as well as their overall quality of life. It's important to note that discussions about men's issues are not intended to detract from or diminish the recognition of women's issues but rather to acknowledge that both genders can face unique challenges.

— Thomas Wood, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Grafton, WI

For men, there are often so many unspoken rules about asking for help, naming feelings and needs. I love gently walking men through these minefields so that they can first articulate areas of hurt, pain, even the shame that's "there" -- sometimes we don't have the words to say it's there. Then, we can start to attend to those wounds and work towards a state of being healed, healthy, connected with oneself and the people we love / who love us.

— Aaron Kelsay, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

I understand that seeking help can sometimes can be seen as a sign of weakness, particularly in a society that places a strong emphasis on traditional notions of masculinity. However, reaching out for support is a brave and important step in taking care of yourself. I address a variety of issues including relationships, work stress, mental health and more. Let's work together to challenge toxic masculinity and help you lead a fulfilling, authentic life.

— Scotty Gilmore, Licensed Professional Counselor in Fort Worth, TX

Thankfully, society is changing. Men are now open to seeking therapy and/or coaching, but often, they want a male therapist who understand the demands placed on men. Most, but not all, of my clients are males who are professionals or executives such as real estate developers, executives, leaders, and entrepreneurs. What they have in common is that they seek not just counseling but help with navigating the stresses of business deals or corporate environments.

— Darrin Pfannenstiel, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Dallas, TX
 

Living as a man in our society comes with unique limits and opportunities. We develop and strengthen parts of ourselves to survive struggle and meet expectations of masculinity. While these parts can be incredibly effective, they can also lead to frustration, relationship issues, and unhelpful coping strategies. Specializing in Men's Issues means creating a space to comfortably explore these issues, while becoming better at addressing feelings, meeting needs, and connecting with others.

— Blake Locher, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

Do you feel as if your voice hasn’t been heard or listened to? You know that something is wrong but can’t put your finger on it - you just know you need help. There’s a stigma surrounding men seeking help for their betterment that I want to help dispel. You need help to and I will work with you to figure out how to best solve any challenges that you face. We will work together and make sure that your voice will always be heard and listened to.

— Jacob Rincon, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Antonio, TX
 

Men and women are similar in so many ways and men and women are vastly different in many ways as well. I love celebrating our differences as much as our similarities. Assisting men learn to express themselves emotionally and learning to deal with life in differing ways is a great joy of mine within practicing. Learning to identify and access differing parts of you is of paramount to overall life satisfaction within the relationships we are apart of.

— Caleb Howald, Addictions Counselor in , CO

Let me support you in navigating issues specific to what it means to identify as male. I can offer a fresh perspective and experience working with men from a variety of backgrounds.

— Gabriel Trees, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR
 

Men come to see me for a wide range of reasons. Sometimes my male clients are seeking support or guidance around a transition or life event and find that they're not sure who they can trust with their innermost thoughts. Sometimes it's that they find they have reached the goals they set out to reach but don't quite feel satisfied. Other times, men come to see me when a relationship with a loved one is feeling challenging. Feeling listened to without judgment can feel helpful.

— Gemma Collins, Clinical Social Worker in Seattle, WA