Men's Issues

Studies have shown that women are much more likely than men to seek therapy. However, just like women, men can benefit from having a confidential, private space to explore any issues that might be coming up for them. The term “men’s issues” can refer to any number of concerns men might face, including anger management, addiction, intimacy issues, domestic violence, mid-life crises, grief or loss – in addition to mental health issues like anxiety or depression. If you have found yourself experiencing any of these issues (or others), reach out to one of TherapyDen’s men’s issues specialists today.

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Expressing tenderness and being emotionally open are important to nurturing healthy relationships with those around you, yet few men feel comfortable doing this. Often, anxiety, depression, anger, impatience, lack of confidence, and life and work stress get in the way. I help and support men in stepping over these hurdles and improving their relationships.

— Ania Scanlan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Shoreview, MN

You have been growing up in a culture where you constantly heard: "don't cry over spilled milk/just get over it/pull yourself by your bootstraps" and things alike. You have been told to be taught and that men don't cry. Maybe you are still feeling the remnants of your past trauma and your life is spinning out of control. You might be a high achiever, type A personality that just takes on too much and is absolutely infused with stress. It's time to gain control over your life and address these.

— Ioana Avery, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Katy, TX
 

My approach to working with men is through the lens acknowledging that we live in a culture where to be a man is defined by one's ability to be "strong." This condensing of human experience contributes to the intense pressure men are under to exist in the world in a way that is difficult for any human to accomplish.

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

Men have a lot on their plates. Work, relationships, finding purpose and meaning in life, and maintaining a sense of control in chaotic times are a few of the overwhelming challenges that I help men tackle. Whether you're feeling tense, irritable, angry, are having trouble sleeping, or are drinking or smoking more weed than you'd like to, therapy can be a great place to map out a strategy for getting you in the direction you'd like to go.

— Lauren Borkowski, Counselor in Longmont, CO
 

As men we have been set up to fail emotionally in society. A bold statement? Perhaps, but also true. For many of us we were not given the tools to be able to express our emotions in a healthy way. We were told "don't cry", "don't be a baby", or worse. We may have even suffered physical abuse for showing emotion. In my practice we set up a safe environment to give you the tools to begin to express yourself and your emotions in a healthy, productive way.

— Eric Strom, Clinical Social Worker in Minnetonka, MN

Men have historically been suppressing trauma. The first time men experienced trauma, on the play ground, we were ridiculed for expressing it! This started the idea that we must suppress emotions. Because of that a lot of us are called toxic. For throes who want to change that I would love to help.

— Jose Feliciano, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in La MESA, CA
 

The unfortunate truth is that our predominant culture does not generally hold space for men to be vulnerable and heal our wounds. Through a variety of therapeutic modalities (e.g. EMDR, CBT, person-centered, and existential therapy) coupled with authentic and real connection, I create such a space so that we may be more whole and compassionate individuals, partners, fathers, sons, and friends. This work can be done individually as well as in groups.

— Alex Lippincott, Therapist in Wheat Ridge, CO

I believe that it is important for men to reexamine the standards of masculinity that have been put forth by our cultures. I offer a non-judgmental space for male-identified persons to process their feelings regarding their place in a changing world. I take inspiration from Robert Bly, Joseph Campbell, Robert A. Johnson, and the mythopoetic men's movement.

— Andrew Conner, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Portland, OR
 

Pornography addiction, problems related to intimacy, and a lack of male friendships are all good reasons to seek therapy, and these are areas that I specialize in.

— Paley Burlin, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Seattle, WA

I work with men around issues of sexual identity, challenges with out of control sexual behaviors and sex addiction, libido and performance anxiety issues, and navigating sexual issues in relationships.

— Greg Bodin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA
 

I believe that men have been privileged in many ways. However, men often receive little or no modeling or training in emotion regulation, communication, intimacy, or grief. I believe that the wellbeing of men is critically important and woefully underprovided. If you believe that your particular issues are influenced by your maleness, let's talk.

— Jon Reeves, Clinical Psychologist in Seattle, WA

You want people to know you, the real you, but what are they going to think of those embarrassing parts of your life? It’s terrifying to think about sharing those things with other people, so you just keep those things hidden, stay small, and march along. Imagine fully and confidently owning your identity, your presence, your voice and feeling empowered to pursue your vision of the future. It’s time to step out of secrecy and smallness to stand tall and own the life that is uniquely yours.

— Jesse Kauffman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Ann Arbor, MI
 

Are your struggling in your relationships, with anger, or in your career? Do you tend to worry frequently and feel like you are going to explode? If so, I can help you. Reach out. You don't have to go at it alone. Counseling by a man who understands complex men's issues.

— Stefan Dombrowski, Psychologist in Mt. Laurel, NJ

You felt curious about therapy for a moment, and then a part of you said, "You don't need it; asking for help would mean that you're weak. You're supposed to be able to handle things on your own; be a man". Unhealthy forms of masculinity have been passed down through cultural attitudes and social norms from generation to generation. Mindful masculinity can be a solution in and of itself to some of the world's most significant problems. Verve is here to guide you, dude.

— Matthew Braman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker
 

I have wide-ranging experience working with men's issues, including concerns related to masculinity and gender roles, issues of identity, connecting with loved ones, and learning to express emotions in a healthy way, which as men we are not usually encouraged to do. As men we also have often received inadequate modeling or training in emotion regulation, communication skills, intimacy, or expressing grief. We may feel inadequate in these areas but aren’t sure how to improve our abilities.

— Doug Aucoin, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in San Diego, CA

When it comes to men's health there is a contradiction: Men are supposed to be strong and in control, but our inner reality often does not match this ideal. The advantages men have in society do not translate into better health outcomes. Men tend to be in worse health than women globally and many of the behaviors associated with ‘masculinity’ increase the risk of illness, injury, mental disorder, and premature death. I will guide you on the journey to becoming the man you really wanna be.

— Hans Reihling, PhD, LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SAN DIEGO, CA
 

In many ways, the world is changing for the better. Unfortunately, the way we were raised has not prepared us for these changes, and old ideas and beliefs may be creating stress, burden, and confusion without giving us the tools to meet the moment. I help men make sense of the changing landscape of expectations, and guide them in tapping into the deep inner resources that allow them to overcome fears, release themselves from the past, and step fully into their best selves.

— Daniel Fulton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

Men often aren't allowed a safe space to process their feelings. Many men I work with are victims of abuse, and have no where to turn. I understand the specific issues that men face, without toxic masculinity.

— Mikah Watford, Licensed Professional Counselor in San antonio, TX
 

Seeking help is sign of strength. Men have been sold a lie that they need to be stoic and suffer in silence. The truth is that men are at their best when they can share their honest feelings with others. Then the facade of perfection falls away and men can offer their true potential to their friends, family and the world.

— Michael Ceely, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA