In my years as an educator and therapist, I have provided a solution based approach to life's challenges for my clients. Brainstorming helps
Counselor in Greensboro, NC
I use ACT to help clients first love themselves, treat themselves well, think healthy thoughts, learn to set proper boundaries. Then, learning to accept others as they are, not as we might wish them to be or, worse insist, leads to healthy relationships with all areas of our lives. Self, others, money, self image, work, play, spirituality...all are areas where learning to accept and commit to healthy thoughts lead to healthy actions in life successfully.
The main focus of my practice has been in couples' counseling. This would be couple however two partners define a couple. Most couples come to me when their relationship has unraveled and is in crisis. Avoidable pain, loss, hurt, fear could have been avoided when couples utilize professional help to learn what to "honor and cherish" one another means throughout their lives together. Most are copying their family of origin methods and using their belief systems. Win-win solutions are the key!
I believe we are wired to be in symphony with nature, natural products, the rhythms and cycles of nature in our lives. Yoga, meditation, mindfulness all help us reduce inflammation, the cause of pain an disease, (dis-ease). Chemicals are man made and our bodies do not know how to process them. We do have the capacity to utilize effectively organic foods for healthy living and thinking. I encourage, (offer courage) to clients to think about their life processes holistically.
As one who was married to a man for 26 years, adopting and parenting two children, then, later as one of those children had a juvenile onset degenerative brain disorder, and the most wonderful woman came along as a friend to be with us, help us, love us, make us laugh, now, for 22 years I have been her partner then wife when we could marry in MD. I have learned that relationships are more on how we are treated than on gender. LGBTQ all are welcome.
My parents divorced when I was 16. I thought I would never ever get a divorce. However, the marriage was challenging, we could not resolve conflict, communication was difficult, we both used learned behaviors we had seen in families of origin. After 26 years, I did divorce, and have found the relationship I had hoped for in healthy communication with my wife. Life is too short to live in toxic unhealthy atmospheres. All involved in this divorce, me, him, all of our children are now much happier!
I believe that all the issues that clients bring to our sessions are adjustment or transition disorders. Any new event, the ones that cause hurt then resultant anger and fear are truly just learning to manage a major life transition that has come along. Together we use the steps Byron Katie, has taught me to determine 1) is this the worst thing ever, 2) can you actually know that what you are thinking is true, 3) where would you be without that constant thought, 4) solutions exist what are some?