Carolyn C Martin (she/her)

THE CRISIS—Infidelity/ Affair/ Cheating/Adultery--Basically they’re all the same. You thought you had an understanding with your partner or spouse that you were in a monogamous relationship. Now you either suspect or know your partner is/has cheated on you & you feel betrayed. Do you worry the relationship can never be healed? How could you ever trust again? You'll need specialized tools to recover and rebuild trust, the skills found in my toolbox. Recovery is possible.

The worst has happened and you're: Feeling Intense sorrow & pain Unable to focus/obsessing over the past or avoiding reminders. Intensely longing or pinning for the deceased. Feeling shocked over and over, "It can't be true." Feeling numbness or detachment. Drowning in loneliness for your loved one. Don't go through this alone. Myself and the support system you already have, or the one I can help you build, will be there as you face this difficult time.

You've tried just forgetting it happened and moved on with your life, but at some point the past will begin to gnaw at you. Anxiety brings nightmares and flashbacks. You can't focus. You're questioning everything--who can you trust, was it your fault, was it really that bad, and how will you ever feel safe again? Sadness and anger follow you everywhere you go. Now's the time to reach out. You're not alone and we will work together so you can reclaim your life.

John Gottman, Ph.D. has been researching relationships/marriage for over 50 years looking at the predictors of divorce and predictors of happy stable marriages. The information you will learn in therapy isn't pop psychology, TV/radio psychology or planetary psychology (women aren't from Venus and men aren't from Mars). What you will learn comes from THE most reliable research ever done in the area of relationships/marriage.

Do your thoughts cause your feeling or do your feeling cause you thought? The answer is yes. What are you telling yourself or what assumptions are you making about your feelings. Do you have automatic thoughts you don't know how to control and what feelings come up as you have those feeling? Do you act on those thoughts and feelings? Do the outcomes match your expectations? No? Research shows Cognitive Behavior Therapy can be highly effective in dealing with most issues experienced by clients.

Eclectic therapy sounds fancier than it is. Eclectic therapy draws from multiple theories and techniques. It is a flexible and multifaceted approach to therapy that allows the therapist to use the most effective methods available to address each individual client's needs. As a former teacher I am ingrained with the idea that every human is unique with their own learning styles and coping skills. My goal is to try to always meet the client where they are. Your therapy will be unique to you.

I am a Certified Clinical Trauma Profession. My approach to trauma therapy emphasizes resilience & empowerment. My methods focus on regulating the nervous system, teaching clients to recognize & reduce the physiological responses & trauma triggers. Through practices like mindfulness & self-regulation, I help individuals build emotional strength & regain control. My approach integrates trauma research, focusing on the root causes of trauma while promoting a sense of safety & empowerment.

I am a Certified Clinical Professional. Trauma affects your mind and body, often leaving you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or disconnected from yourself and others. It's important to understand that trauma is a natural response to abnormal situations, and it can have a profound impact on your mental and emotional health. The goal is to empower you to regain control over your life, improve your well-being, and move forward with a renewed sense of hope and resilience. You're not alone.