Providing empathetic and strength-based care for sexuality struggles with 15 yrs. experience and I am an AASECT certified therapist.
Marriage & Family Therapist in Minnetonka, MN
Problematic sexual behaviors (also known as "sex addiction" in our culture) is identified by Doug Bruan-Harvey, and which is the mindset I come from in my work, to be “a sexual health problem in which an individual’s consensual sexual urges, thoughts, and behaviors FEEL out of control [to them]” (p. 10), as opposed to as a mental illness (as in the Sex Addiction, SAA or 12-step models). I help my clients define, and work toward, their own version of sexual health.
This is a broad category for a variety of psycho-sexual issues, but I have the most experience treating: Problematic Sexual Behaviors (PSB), fetishes, paraphilias, desire differences, erectile issues, and sexual shame. I use sex-positive, strength- and client-based therapies, and providing my clients with a comfortable and authentic processing space to help hundred of people the past 14+ years with their sexuality problems.
Attachment theory is a psychological, evolutionary and ethological theory concerning relationships between humans. The most important tenet is that young children need to develop a relationship with at least one primary caregiver for normal social and emotional development. (Wikipedia) Those that do not develop this strong attachment may find various psychological, psycho-sexual and/or interpersonal difficulties in their lives. Understanding their attachment can help resolve issues.
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a psycho-social intervention that aims to improve mental health. CBT focuses on challenging and changing cognitive distortions (e.g. thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes) and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems. (Wikipedia)
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a psycho-social intervention that aims to improve mental health. CBT focuses on challenging and changing cognitive distortions (e.g. thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes) and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems. (Wikipedia) Changing how one thinks/views something can change behavior.
Solution Focused Brief Therapy focuses on addressing what clients want to achieve without severely exploring the history and provenance of problem(s). Solution Focused therapy sessions typically focus on the present and future, focusing on the past only to the degree necessary for communicating empathy and accurate understanding of the client's concerns. (Wikipedia)
Those interested in kink, or those with other "atypical" (whatever "typical" means!) attractions, can struggle with certain aspects of shame, guilt, or other uncomfortable emotions when realizing their attractions. Our therapy can help you understand your attractions more, integrate it unabashedly into your life, and create more acceptance and pleasure from it. Your attractions do not solely define who you are, but are definitely a part of the possibilities of pleasure for yourself!